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    Well, we're done. He texted me yesterday morning to say their flight was delayed. Then he told me that he knows he's been weird and different lately. He was sorry. He didn't want me to put my life on pause for him and that when we were together again we should see how we feel and go from there. He felt guilty making me wait for him through a deployment.

    I did not agree but I told him if he did not want to be together, I would have to accept that, however, I did not think we should try again.

    What do you say to someone you love when they tell you not to wait? It's not that I didn't want to try when he got home but we may both change by then and I did not want to give him permission to walk in and out of my life whenever he felt like it.

    Even if we do have a future. Even if he comes back and wants to be together again. Even if he explains himself. I cannot wait around for those things. I have to move on. I am so very heartbroken. I thought I would spend my life with him.

    I absolutely hate going through all the emotional stuff and trying not to think of the memories. I hate being sad, and still missing because I still love him. I wish I could pack my feelings into a box (just like I did with all his stuff) and put it away until I was strong enough to deal.
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    I'm sorry you have to go through this, and I wish it was an easy procress. But I am glad he didn't drag you through a deployment, and break it off when he got back. I hope you can heal in the best way possible!



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    I'm so sorry!
    I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so you can learn to let go.
    Things go wrong so you can appreciate them when they're right.
    You believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself.
    And sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.

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    I hope you're able to get through this quickly, and without too much hurting. I agree with you that you shouldn't allow him to walk in and out per his convenience. I think you did the right thing by standing up for yourself. Just remember that strength if you ever begin to feel weak. and come to us here when you need support.

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    I'm so sorry
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    I'm glad he didn't drag me through a deployment too, but gosh do I want to break down. Only a month ago, he came home and told me how much he loved me and gave me a promise ring (not that it means anything now). After my initial shock, I found myself wondering if he really meant anything at all. I guess that's normal though (for me to wonder).
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    i'm sorry you have to go through this! you're a lot stronger than i would be in that situation. if it's meant to work out, it will..if not there is someone else out there for you
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    Lots of Im glad you stood up for yourself!!
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