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    Well to no avail, she refused today to work it out.

    I have refused to divorce so she's going to have to do that.

    Anyone have any advice on how to go forward with this? has anyone been divorced before and after thought they should have or shouldn't have done something? Anyone have some do's and don'ts?

    Anything is appreciated. Thanks.
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    I have no advice really as I haven't been in your shoes, but I just wanted to say I'm really sorry.

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    I've never been divorced, though my parents have divorced two times each. I'm sorry you're going through this.


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    No advice but DB is currently finishing up his divorce. If you have any specific questions I can always ask him for you
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    i haven't been divorced, but i've been around it more than enough to know how hard it is. sorry you're going through this!
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    I've been divorced. First sorry you're going through this. Its not easy.

    I've been subjected to a rather ugly divorce that had started out quite well.

    Greed got to my ex. The best piece of advice I can give you is to try your very best to remain friends and respect one another. Try not to date until you can get everything signed and finalized. So much can change throughout the process. If you don't have children, it should go relatively pretty quick.

    If you have any questions, you can PM me.
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    I am very sorry to hear about this.

    Each divorce is different, but the general advice I have is document all communication with her, document ALL finances possible, and get a lawyer. If you want to put the ball in her court that is fine, but a lawyer is a must imo.
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    I'm so very sorry!!!!! I really hope you can get through this as easily as possible..... all I can suggest is from my friends' experiences.... start documenting EVERYTHING from when you first live at separate locations, keep track of all payments, etc..... that will help when and if you do end up in court.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Tojai View Post
    I am very sorry to hear about this.

    Each divorce is different, but the general advice I have is document all communication with her, document ALL finances possible, and get a lawyer. If you want to put the ball in her court that is fine, but a lawyer is a must imo.
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    I am sorry. But to be honest, I feel this might have been the best outcome for you. I know it doesn't feel like it right now, and you're hurt, so take the time and be hurt.

    But in time, maybe you will see the same that I, the outside with admittedly limited perspective, sees - that you had a wife who was borderline or full on cheating and using you, and that instead of investing more time in this person who clearly did not appreciate you and your marriage, you were given the chance to get over her, heal, and find someone who will really be worth it.

    As for divorce, despite coming from a family full of them, I actually have no advice. Hope someone else can help you.

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