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    Parents divorcing....

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    My mom and step-dad are getting a divorce. It's amicable and they are better friends right now then they were for the last 3 years of marriage.

    I'd say I'm happy because my mom will finally have a chance to get a better job (She's stuck in the middle of nowhere because of his job) and she'll be away from his condescending attitude and him never helping her with money or bills or anything.

    I'm upset because he was my mom's best friend for 4 years before they got married. She's hurting because she didn't want it to come to this.

    I just want hugs. I may or may not have freaked out at DF today because I'm afraid I'm gonna be a failure as a wife because my mom has had two horrible marriages.


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    I'm sorry you and your mom have to go through this. I understand where your worry comes from, but think of the positive - you've seen what doesn't work, right? So you'll know what to look out for.
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    Just because your mom has had a couple not so great marriages has nothing to do with how wonderful of a wife you are going to be.

    Don't let other peoples relationships discourage you.
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    You can't compare other relationships to yours you'll drive yourself batshit crazy.

    I'm sorry they didn't work out! But that does NOT mean your marriage won't.
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    Quote Originally Posted by LyndsayJ View Post

    I'm sorry you and your mom have to go through this. I understand where your worry comes from, but think of the positive - you've seen what doesn't work, right? So you'll know what to look out for.
    Thanks, Lyndsay. I guess that's true


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    Just because your mom has had a couple not so great marriages has nothing to do with how wonderful of a wife you are going to be.

    Don't let other peoples relationships discourage you.
    Thanks!! I was just having a rough day..... Thanks for the hugs!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Abigayle View Post


    Just because your mom has had a couple not so great marriages has nothing to do with how wonderful of a wife you are going to be.

    Don't let other peoples relationships discourage you.
    This, and also these!

    DH: Thank you. ME: For what, babe? DH: For being you.




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    Quote Originally Posted by HeartShapedBox View Post
    You can't compare other relationships to yours you'll drive yourself batshit crazy.

    I'm sorry they didn't work out! But that does NOT mean your marriage won't.

    I know Chris and I have a wonderful relationship and we'll be okay. My head just is spinning right now and that was my first reaction. Didn't help that I hadn't seen DF untill about 8 hours after my mom let me know because she called me this morning and I drove out of the driveway as DF was driving in this morning

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    Quote Originally Posted by SailorsGoddess View Post
    This, and also these!
    I seriously appreciate the hugs.

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    I am so very sorry for your mom & her soon to be ex!

    As far as your worry, I am sorry you are worried about that. I understand that somewhat. I always swore growing up that I would never get married or have kids. My Mom & Dad divorced when I was 2. Her & my step-dad have been married since I was about 3. But while they have been married for 30-something years, it has always been a rocky one & gave me a negative view on marriage as well as the way they raised. But then my heart changed once I found DH 9then boyfriend). We have been married for almost 14 years now & have two beautiful children.

    We refused to allow our experiences with our own families have any sort of negative effect on our own family. We made it a goal to do things differently & we have. If you allow someone else's relationship & failures define your own, then you will likely fall into the same pattern.
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