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    Should I stay, or should I go now?

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    K lives in a house with four people - K, his pal Jay and Jay's wife Gloria (who is not easily impressed, in case anyone remembers the Sapi plate photo ), and Jay's best friend Josh. Jay is deploying soon. His going-away party is Saturday night. Josh just invited me and said he hopes to see me there.

    I'm not super close to Jay. We've gone on double dates a few times, and we have gone camping with them. He also helped me move when Kyle was gone. But he's not someone I would call up just to chat or anything.

    K is finally supposed to come pick his things up from the house - possibly this weekend. So it has the potential to be an awkward situation.

    I know the roommates, but probably only one other person who will be there.

    Do I not go, since the only reason I know him is through K, and we're not that great of friends? Or do I go since I was invited and just avoid K? If I do go, I probably won't stay for long. They're big on booze and cheap beer isn't my thing.

    I haven't ever been to one of their house parties before, but I think I'm having a hard time saying no to this one because he's deploying.
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    Id go over there at some other time on your own to say bye or what ever, that way you can avoid the whole situation .
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    No, you don't go.



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    If it was ME, I wouldnt go.

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    Quote Originally Posted by KristenM View Post
    Id go over there at some other time on your own to say bye or what ever, that way you can avoid the whole situation .
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    Quote Originally Posted by KristenM View Post
    Id go over there at some other time on your own to say bye or what ever, that way you can avoid the whole situation .
    Why? She doesn't even really know him? Why is he even calling on you OP?

    I'm not super close to Jay. We've gone on double dates a few times, and we have gone camping with them. He also helped me move when Kyle was gone. But he's not someone I would call up just to chat or anything.



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    Quote Originally Posted by Judi89 View Post
    Why? She doesn't even really know him? Why is he even calling on you OP?
    Only because she said she was having a hard time saying no because he's deploying. That way she can avoid the awkward situation with K but still see the person who's leaving .
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    Don't go. The relationship with K is over, let the end of this chapter close quietly.


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    i wouldn't go. the way i see it is they are k's friends and those are boundaries that you should respect. i also think it would probably piss him off and upset him if you went and that's drama i would like to avoid.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Whitla View Post
    i wouldn't go. the way i see it is they are k's friends and those are boundaries that you should respect. i also think it would probably piss him off and upset him if you went and that's drama i would like to avoid.
    I wouldnt go because those are his friends not yours..I would be livid if I saw a recent ex at MY friends party.
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