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    Confused To reply or not reply?

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    So, I just received a message (on MySpace) from an exboyfriend. We broke up in late October of 2009 and I never heard from him until now.

    His message is an apology for how he hurt me and everything. He says he is sorry for how things turned out.

    I started to cry when I read it because it just brought back all the hurtful things he did. He was emotionally and sometimes sexually abusive. I honestly can't believe he had the nerve to send me an apology. He said he would understand if I didn't reply.

    Part of me wants to tell him that I don't accept his apology and that I can't believe he had the audacity to even contact me. I want to tell him he's one of the most disrespectful and disgusting men with whom I've ever been in a relationship. Another part says ignore it.

    What would you do?

    Thanks y'all.
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    I would either ignore it completely, or reply with a less vehement response. Something like, "I am surprised and a bit dismayed you even contacted me. Our relationship was not healthy for me and I have moved on and wished to never deal with this again. I'm glad you are sorry, but really just don't even want to communicate with you again. Please don't contact me at all, ever again." Then block him.



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    I would ignore it and let it go. You don't need him in your life if he was that disrespectful to you, with the abuse and all. Let sleeping dogs lie.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Judi89 View Post
    I would either ignore it completely, or reply with a less vehement response. Something like, "I am surprised and a bit dismayed you even contacted me. Our relationship was not healthy for me and I have moved on and wished to never deal with this again. I'm glad you are sorry, but really just don't even want to communicate with you again. Please don't contact me at all, ever again." Then block him.
    I like this. I might just copy and paste if you don't mind. Thanks a lot.
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    Quote Originally Posted by MUWgirl View Post
    I like this. I might just copy and paste if you don't mind. Thanks a lot.
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    If it were me, I would ignore it. I'm sorry you had to go through that.
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    Quote Originally Posted by misspurrmeow View Post
    If it were me, I would ignore it. I'm sorry you had to go through that.
    I mean part of wants to, but part of me wants to him to know how bad he hurt me. I honestly think it would give me closure to tell him never to contact me again.

    And thank you.
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    I would ignore it and keep moving on with your life.
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    I sent him a message. What Judi said, almost word for word. Going to block him now.

    I might call my therapist it upset me so much.
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    I think the fact that he messaged you is evidence that he realizes how much he has hurt you. I would personally ignore it.
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