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    we only been married 7 months, however, known each other for 4 years. this is not the first time he's done this (3rd now within the last 4 months) but he said he needs time to figure things out.. needs to find himself. it's tearing me apart. i feel like i've been drug through glass for the past year with this roller coaster ride.

    has anyone been in a situation like this? i don't know what to do, how to act. i feel like our marriage is worth fighting for but i don't want to push him any further away than he already is.

    help
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    I am so sorry I have no advise but I am here to listen if you need to talk
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    thank you
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    Personally? I wouldn't deal with that. You are supposed to deal with that BEFORE you get married.. It's not like this is the first time.. this is the THIRD time he's done this. Yeah.. I wouldn't let him treat me like a door mat.




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    and part of me agree's.. it's so hard to let go. he'd come back from deployment not long before we sealed the deal. and i asked him several times if he was sure and obviously he said yes. he does suffer from post dramatic stress and depression.. so me.. i feel like im being the patient wife, hopin he'll come around.. i guess.

    idk, just reaching out.

    thanks for the reply
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    Wellll, the counseling answer for every couple problem irks me, but I can see how that type of situation would be bigger than you are. You need some type of help, be it a counselor, chaplain, pastor, self-help book, etc.

    The answer is to stop allowing it to happen, but the logistics are personal to you.
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    I agree with counseling, but the problem about fighting to save a relationship is that you cant be the only one fighting for it....he has to fight for it, too.
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    ladies i've really needed your input.. thank you. i did call our rev. today and i hope this does help. i agree with you.

    one more try right?...
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    Quote Originally Posted by Emily89 View Post
    Personally? I wouldn't deal with that. You are supposed to deal with that BEFORE you get married.. It's not like this is the first time.. this is the THIRD time he's done this. Yeah.. I wouldn't let him treat me like a door mat.
    i completly agree, but then again you dont want to lose your husband , its alot easier saying that you will be strong and not act like a door mat and actually do it , give him space and give him an ultimatum ???

    Hope it all works out for you xxxx
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    I'm sorry you are hurting right now .
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    hope things really do get better soon x
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