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    I can't do this

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    I don't know how to put it all back together again. It's been almost 2 weeks and I can't seem to pull it together. One day I'm fine and I only cry once and then another day I cry and cry and cry and can't cope.

    How do you get past this? I'm trying to stay busy but nothing is working to keep my busy. I try to stay out of our apartment as much as possible but I can't find enough to do.

    I just want to stand up and walk again, I want to be over this and move on.
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    I wished I knew what to tell you other than hang in there. And things will get better, they always do! *hugs*
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    The first couple weeks will be hard.... i'm sure everyone tells you that it'll just take time but that's true, give yourself a set amount of time to be sad and then after that amount of time, try to pick the pieces back up!
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    Writing a daily letter about everything I did that day makes me feel better. It makes me feel like I am telling my DB everything that I did that day just like I did when he was home.

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    It WILL get better with time. Give yourself time.
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    Letting out your emotions is a good thing. It's when we bottle them up that we get into trouble. Maybe find a counselor to talk with, just for a few months. Some one unbiased who can listen. Or, seriously, go to Barnes and Noble and find a good book for some guidence. But, believe me, this too shall pass. You won't know when, but one day you'll wake up and realize that that "hey! It's a great day! and I'm over it!".

    Good luck!
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    Things do get better, I was exactly like you. I don't know how they do, they just do.

    Cry when you need to, it's ok. And do your normal activities. I know, he's always on your mind. That's ok too. But it will get better. Hugs your way....
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    yeah the first few days and weeks were hardest on me. it took me such a long time to get back into my "normal" daily routine again. it slowly starts getting easier as the weeks go by though. hang in there!
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    Thanks for the support everyone. All of it put together; the way he ended it and left, the things that have been going on since, it's all been a complete nightmare. Yesterday I was ok, only cried once. Today, been crying all day. I wish I could be like him and just be over it and fine, but I'm not.
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    You CAN do it! I promise! Everything gets better with time.
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