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    Update-Pre-deployment pushing away...turns to walking out

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    So we finally talked today...it didn't turn out so well he told me he wanted me to take the day off work tomorrow so we could talk. I took the day off work the day after he walked out and I really can't, so then he says he'll come over and talk to me tomorrow after work. I'm so afraid of what that conversation is going to bring. He left once is he going to leave again? I got really defensive and put up the walls....Why do it twice? I was feeling like ughhh you want to come over here and tell me all the reasons why you want to leave your wife. I've had my fill in the last few weeks of why I suck Well long story short...I'm scared to death of what he has to say and if it's going to turn into an argument and end with him leaving...again. But at the same time...whats wrong with me? At least he's trying if he didn't want me why the heck would he be making the effort to try. These walls and this situation really sucks....
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    He has a wife?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Foreverhis View Post
    So we finally talked today...it didn't turn out so well he told me he wanted me to take the day off work tomorrow so we could talk. I took the day off work the day after he walked out and I really can't, so then he says he'll come over and talk to me tomorrow after work. I'm so afraid of what that conversation is going to bring. He left once is he going to leave again? I got really defensive and put up the walls....Why do it twice? I was feeling like ughhh you want to come over here and tell me all the reasons why you want to leave your wife. I've had my fill in the last few weeks of why I suck Well long story short...I'm scared to death of what he has to say and if it's going to turn into an argument and end with him leaving...again. But at the same time...whats wrong with me? At least he's trying if he didn't want me why the heck would he be making the effort to try. These walls and this situation really sucks....
    To the bolded...I'm confused....are you the wife??
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    He has a wife?
    I'm sorry if I'm all over the place...I'm his wife! LOL
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    Hear him out and decide what's best for you hun! Hang in there and like I said the other day I'm always a PM away
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    Quote Originally Posted by Foreverhis View Post
    I'm sorry if I'm all over the place...I'm his wife! LOL
    I hope you two can work things out.
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    I hope you two can work things out.
    That was truly awesome, I just laughed so hard....wow that felt good!
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    i hope things work out. i hope its just him freaking out before the deployment. hang in there, be as strong as you can tomorrow.
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    Be strong girl. Deployments really mess with their heads. Be there for him, but take care of yourself too. Good luck.



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    Thank you guys...didn't go well! No arguing very calm but he said he can't try and doesn't want to make it work. My only choice is to let him go quitely...my heart is broken
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