I should be torn up

[tremblingturtle]

Aric and I have been broken up for three days now... and I have not cried about it.
I am not sad at all... How could I not be upset?
My fiancee left me. we were together for almost a year. How could I not be upset??
I dont feel any heart break, and I dont feel any pain.
What is wrong with me??

[lovemachine]

maybe deep down you know that this is the best thing for you and him right now? Or maybe you know that in time things will work out exactly the way they are supposed to!! I am not sure...but I am glad you are handling things well!!!

[Fidzy]

things hit people at different times.

[tremblingturtle]

Honestly, it does not feel like we are broken up...
He still calls me in his free time, he still calls me baby and says he loves me... but If I call myself his girlfriend he quickly tells me other wise.
I am getting sick of that...
I am more confused than anything

[Lizim1981]

Well you're either numb from shock, or really you might be ready for it. Maybe you know that it's time to move on, or at least embrace it.

Either way I'm sure you'll be just fine.

[tremblingturtle]

I feel... I am ready to move on.
Its been two days, and I feel I am ready to move on.
This is... strange lol

[BJo]

maybe deep down you know that this is the best thing for you and him right now? Or maybe you know that in time things will work out exactly the way they are supposed to!! I am not sure...but I am glad you are handling things well!!!

[Andy]

maybe its because you guys still act like you're together? so i guess deep down it probably doesn't seem like anything's changed, besides the title of 'girlfriend' that is.

[TheBryTree]

Honestly, it does not feel like we are broken up...
He still calls me in his free time, he still calls me baby and says he loves me... but If I call myself his girlfriend he quickly tells me other wise.
I am getting sick of that...
I am more confused than anything

I feel... I am ready to move on.
Its been two days, and I feel I am ready to move on.
This is... strange lol

it sounds to me like you aren't sad about breaking up because he is still treating you as if you HAVEN'T. I think that is too overly confusing to break up but still act as if you are still together.

You say that you are just ready to move on.. and sick of acting as if you two are still together when he has made it clear that you AREN'T

I strongly suggest you cut off contact for a while so that you can work out your own thoughts. And so that he can work out HIS own thoughts... because he sounds confused as well.

[DutchGirl]

it sounds to me like you aren't sad about breaking up because he is still treating you as if you HAVEN'T. I think that is too overly confusing to break up but still act as if you are still together.

You say that you are just ready to move on.. and sick of acting as if you two are still together when he has made it clear that you AREN'T

I strongly suggest you cut off contact for a while so that you can work out your own thoughts. And so that he can work out HIS own thoughts... because he sounds confused as well.

First of all, totally agree with the above. Second, I know this because I am going through it. We were not engaged, but DB broke up with me almost 2 weeks ago. We both decided to take some time apart. He left it up to me as to when we will be in touch again. But I firmly believe that after a break up the best thing to do is take some time apart. I think it would be really beneficial to distance yourself a bit. It is really helping me to work through this. Having time apart is helping me to remember what it's like being single again. And when I feel like my head is a little better wrapped around it, I'll call or email him. He's deploying soon and I want to be there for him, but we both need it to be just as friends right now. So... a friend is what I will be. And, I believe we both need time apart to get it back to that level.

to you, while you figure out where you stand with each other.