My boyfriend of 6 1/2 years (high school sweethearts, I'm now 21 he's 22) broke things off this past week and I'm not sure I completely understand why.
He just got back from Iraq in late January early February and things were awesome. We've been through a rough past and I finally thought with him being home and out of the army (honorably discharged because he decided to not re-enlist) we could resolve things, and we were, and slowly but surely everything would be ok. He came home to the Northeast, where we live, from Texas in April. On his way back he received news that his friend was killed in Iraq and that's where I started to see things change. He seemed depressed, and he definitely had a change in attitude towards me. One day out of the blue he just told me he didn't love me anymore and had no feelings towards me.
We continued to stay friends and he kept saying I know this will eventually pass and I'll realize how stupid I'm being right now. But then just this past Tuesday he sent me an email saying it's best we go our own separate ways and that everytime we talk he has no feelings towards me. He says he doesn't want my support anymore and that it's better this way.
I'm just so confused right now because I don't know what's happening to him. He would never ever break up with me over an email and say things like this. He said he doesn't even know why he fell out of love with me. He also said something about him not believing that I have changed. I pushed him away a few times during his time in the military mainly because we were both young and I was so scared of life and change. Now that I want it and am secure with my feelings he says he can't believe it. How can I prove to him that I have changed? I want to believe that it's just readjustment and possibly (crossing fingers that it's not) PTSD but then part of me thinks that it really is how he is feeling towards me right now. I know I will eventually be able to move on but I don't know how to take this.

Has anyone experienced this before?
I know this is a long message but thanks for listening!
Lauren
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