Let me let go.. - Life After Love

dotb182 · 03-23-2008, 08:06 PM

I wish he would just let me let go. I finally built up the courage to end things only to have him beg for me to change my mind. I don't understand. Any other time he doesn't want this to work, but because I finally was ready to end things he wants one more chance. I can't take getting my heart stepped on anymore. It hurts to much. He said if we end things we can't even be friends because to him its either all or nothing. I don't know what I want anymore. Part of me says stay, make it work, and the other part of me says get the hell out of here... I don't even know where we stand right now.

MichelleB · 03-23-2008, 08:08 PM

Aww, Shannon I'm so sorry!

It sounds like you may need some time to figure out what YOU really want. That's what matters.

You have my number, use it anytime!!!!

OneRed911 · 03-23-2008, 08:09 PM

I'm so sorry to hear you're going through this...I'm in a somewhat similar situation with my ex as well.

Sarah · 03-23-2008, 08:09 PM

I'm so sorry this is happening to you

. What was the deciding factor for you to end it? I know you guys have been together for a long time. Has the discussion of marriage been brought up?

wonken3 · 03-23-2008, 08:15 PM

im sorry,

hope you figure things out

dotb182 · 03-23-2008, 08:15 PM

Originally Posted by Sarah

I'm so sorry this is happening to you

. What was the deciding factor for you to end it? I know you guys have been together for a long time. Has the discussion of marriage been brought up?

We use to talk about marriage all the time. But we've both changed. He is sooo hateful. A lot my reasoning has to do with his general attitude towards ours relationship. I am not going to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't value what he has and would rather tell me what a crappy person I am... I mean I can't tell you how many times inthe last few weeks after a fight he says something along the lines of " Well it doesn't matter, its not like we're gonna last anyway.." I just can't be the only one trying to make it work ya know.

JKirstiH · 03-23-2008, 08:27 PM

OH Shannon

...I am sorry. It kinda sounds like he doesn't have a positive outlook on the relationship at all.

You have to do what's right for you. Whatever that might be.
I am here for you if you need me. xoxox

TallBlondie82 · 03-23-2008, 08:29 PM

im really sorry hun..just do what you feel is right in your heart...it will lead you in the right direction...I promise...If you need anything let me know

Godders_Girl80 · 03-23-2008, 10:14 PM

TheBryTree · 03-23-2008, 10:16 PM

It sounds to me like leaving him was a good decision.

he said that it is an "All or Nothing" deal for him.

well he sure as hell wasnt giving his all so that must mean he actually wants nothing.

03-23-2008, 08:06 PM	#1 (permalink)
dotb182 Lifes hard... get a helmet. Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Virginia Beach/ Norfolk VA Posts: 8,024 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 38% Longevity: 68%	Let me let go.. I wish he would just let me let go. I finally built up the courage to end things only to have him beg for me to change my mind. I don't understand. Any other time he doesn't want this to work, but because I finally was ready to end things he wants one more chance. I can't take getting my heart stepped on anymore. It hurts to much. He said if we end things we can't even be friends because to him its either all or nothing. I don't know what I want anymore. Part of me says stay, make it work, and the other part of me says get the hell out of here... I don't even know where we stand right now. __________________

03-23-2008, 08:08 PM	#2 (permalink)
MichelleB With faith we can achieve all that we believe! Join Date: May 2005 Location: Virginia Beach, VA Posts: 16,362 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 1% Longevity: 77%	Aww, Shannon I'm so sorry! It sounds like you may need some time to figure out what YOU really want. That's what matters. You have my number, use it anytime!!!! __________________ Playing The Grocery Game since 7/12/2008 57% savings

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OneRed911 A Pretty Poison Flower...bringing you the sweetest juice. Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Me: Norfolk Him: Norfolk now, Afghanistan soon. Posts: 3,787 Blog Entries: 1 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 31% Longevity: 30%	I'm so sorry to hear you're going through this...I'm in a somewhat similar situation with my ex as well. __________________ Wifey to nstarsweetie and missmaaaine, pog to miraluu, and TayreehBaykur is my Mistress! Mrow! !

03-23-2008, 08:15 PM	#5 (permalink)
wonken3 Vanessa loves Yoni! Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Houston/ Ft.drumm Posts: 87 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 28%	im sorry, hope you figure things out __________________ Officially Mr & Mrs. Leal

03-23-2008, 08:27 PM	#7 (permalink)
JKirstiH Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 9,480 Classifieds: (3) Activity: 14% Longevity: 62%	OH Shannon ...I am sorry. It kinda sounds like he doesn't have a positive outlook on the relationship at all. You have to do what's right for you. Whatever that might be. I am here for you if you need me. xoxox __________________ Finding more and more truth to the words written in red.-B&D Goodness speaks in a whisper, evil shouts. Tibetan proverb The greater love is a mother's; then comes a dog's; then a sweetheart's. Polish Proverb

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03-23-2008, 08:09 PM	#4 (permalink)
Sarah I'm too cool for words Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Camp Lejeune, NC Posts: 18,586 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 94%	I'm so sorry this is happening to you . What was the deciding factor for you to end it? I know you guys have been together for a long time. Has the discussion of marriage been brought up?

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TallBlondie82 Im crazy, the good kind Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Pennsylvania Posts: 21,300 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 62% Longevity: 37%	im really sorry hun..just do what you feel is right in your heart...it will lead you in the right direction...I promise...If you need anything let me know __________________ Slowly getting there

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03-23-2008, 10:16 PM	#10 (permalink)
TheBryTree Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: here and there Posts: 23,019 Blog Entries: 1 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 83% Longevity: 37%	It sounds to me like leaving him was a good decision. he said that it is an "All or Nothing" deal for him. well he sure as hell wasnt giving his all so that must mean he actually wants nothing.