No witty title this time...just finally closure. - Life After Love

OneRed911 · 03-09-2008, 05:58 PM

I know I should be more sad about this but, honestly, a girl can only be so jerked around before you're just glad it's over.

I'm at that point.

So finally there is closure in this sham of a relationship he's been leading me through by the strings of my heart. He's been leading me on and making me think we actually had a chance together and today he made it clear that we really don't unless I become something that I'm not and never could be even though it would have been easier for me in the long run.

So he loves me but cannot compromise on the religion issues. He loves god more he says.

I could vent and rant and make an ugly scene about religion and why it makes people so closed-minded and stupid...but I know not everyone is like that.

I will say, though, that this is one reason I never could subscribe to christianity...if it tells you that you have to love some unseen "being" more than a flesh and blood person standing in front of you giving their whole heart to you...there's something supremely ****ed up about that.

So to make one final point...I'm not leaving the boards...I still love you gals way too much to do that. The military might've brought us together but it's friendship that keeps us together.

Godders_Girl80 · 03-09-2008, 06:51 PM

I'm glad you've found closure.

OneRed911 · 03-09-2008, 06:52 PM

Jenabugg · 03-09-2008, 06:54 PM

Im sorry that things had to end but glad ur staying with us.

Jenabugg · 03-09-2008, 06:54 PM

haha just keep bumpin urself to others write back hahahah

OneRed911 · 03-09-2008, 06:55 PM

Originally Posted by Jenabugg

haha just keep bumpin urself to others write back hahahah

Yep! My posts get lost a lot...

leanne · 03-09-2008, 07:19 PM

i am glad you got closure hon and sorry that he won't budge on the religion thing. my dh and i are different religions and we have been married for nearly 16 yrs so i know that it can work. i feel awful that he would be that way but then again i am not christian either and to make the next comment would not be nice so i will just say big hugs hon and that i hope you find someone who is compassionate and loves you enough for who you are and what you believe.

~~Kaiden'sMomma~~ · 03-09-2008, 07:20 PM

OneRed911 · 03-09-2008, 09:06 PM

Thanks ladies. :-)

back to all of you.

~~*Cassie*~~ · 03-09-2008, 09:13 PM

well, i am sorry he lead you on like that. I hope you don't think all Christians are like that, be.c we are not. He is using his beliefs to shelter himself from a relationship from what it sounds like. I love my DH and he loves me but we both know we do love God more. knowing that devotion is there makes us closer. I am not trying to change your mind about Christianity be/c i wouldn't like anyone pushing their beliefs onto me. But what you gain from this experience will only make finding who you are supposed to be with a little easier. It is painful but closure is good..........

03-09-2008, 05:58 PM	#1 (permalink)
OneRed911 A Pretty Poison Flower...bringing you the sweetest juice. Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Me: Norfolk Him: Norfolk now, Afghanistan soon. Posts: 3,787 Blog Entries: 1 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 31% Longevity: 30%	No witty title this time...just finally closure. I know I should be more sad about this but, honestly, a girl can only be so jerked around before you're just glad it's over. I'm at that point. So finally there is closure in this sham of a relationship he's been leading me through by the strings of my heart. He's been leading me on and making me think we actually had a chance together and today he made it clear that we really don't unless I become something that I'm not and never could be even though it would have been easier for me in the long run. So he loves me but cannot compromise on the religion issues. He loves god more he says. I could vent and rant and make an ugly scene about religion and why it makes people so closed-minded and stupid...but I know not everyone is like that. I will say, though, that this is one reason I never could subscribe to christianity...if it tells you that you have to love some unseen "being" more than a flesh and blood person standing in front of you giving their whole heart to you...there's something supremely ***ed up about that. So to make one final point...I'm not leaving the boards...I still love you gals way too much to do that. The military might've brought us together but it's friendship that keeps us together. __________________ Wifey to nstarsweetie and missmaaaine, pog to miraluu, and TayreehBaykur is my Mistress! Mrow! !*

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Godders_Girl80 I love my 13B SPC Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Ft. Drum, NY Posts: 4,918 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 38%	I'm glad you've found closure. __________________ Beauty Tips for Black Women

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OneRed911 A Pretty Poison Flower...bringing you the sweetest juice. Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Me: Norfolk Him: Norfolk now, Afghanistan soon. Posts: 3,787 Blog Entries: 1 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 31% Longevity: 30%	__________________ Wifey to nstarsweetie and missmaaaine, pog to miraluu, and TayreehBaykur is my Mistress! Mrow! !

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03-09-2008, 07:19 PM	#7 (permalink)
leanne MilitarySOS Jewel Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: san antonio texas Posts: 4,301 Blog Entries: 7 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 22% Longevity: 31%	i am glad you got closure hon and sorry that he won't budge on the religion thing. my dh and i are different religions and we have been married for nearly 16 yrs so i know that it can work. i feel awful that he would be that way but then again i am not christian either and to make the next comment would not be nice so i will just say big hugs hon and that i hope you find someone who is compassionate and loves you enough for who you are and what you believe. __________________

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03-09-2008, 09:06 PM	#9 (permalink)
OneRed911 A Pretty Poison Flower...bringing you the sweetest juice. Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Me: Norfolk Him: Norfolk now, Afghanistan soon. Posts: 3,787 Blog Entries: 1 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 31% Longevity: 30%	Thanks ladies. :-) back to all of you. __________________ Wifey to nstarsweetie and missmaaaine, pog to miraluu, and TayreehBaykur is my Mistress! Mrow! !

03-09-2008, 09:13 PM	#10 (permalink)
~~Cassie~~ Banned Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 11,377 Classifieds: (4) Activity: 0% Longevity: 36%	well, i am sorry he lead you on like that. I hope you don't think all Christians are like that, be.c we are not. He is using his beliefs to shelter himself from a relationship from what it sounds like. I love my DH and he loves me but we both know we do love God more. knowing that devotion is there makes us closer. I am not trying to change your mind about Christianity be/c i wouldn't like anyone pushing their beliefs onto me. But what you gain from this experience will only make finding who you are supposed to be with a little easier. It is painful but closure is good..........