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    So Divorce I guess

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    So Dh and I are getting divorced it seems. We haven't been doing great for months and now it looks like we both have decided we just don't work married. We work great as friends, but our marriage is like living with a roommate, there is nothing relationship about it anymore. It seems like we are going to be able to stay friends and everything, I'm just scared.

    I haven't worked in two years and well I don't have a car to get to work and now I am going to have to support myself alone. I don't know how to do this. I don't know where I am suppose to start from here. I think I should make a list of things I am going to need money for every month so I can figure out how much money I need to be making in order to support myself.

    I do have some time though DH isn't going to file until he is home from AIT for the second phase of his training. I don't know if I can do this on my own. I don't know if I have the money to do this on my own...
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    I'm sorry to hear its the end and I know how you feel and being scared about this new part of life is natural. but don't underestimate yourself, no matter where you are in life, you CAN do this on your own. You just need to reach deep within yourself and realize you are a strong person inside, an intellegent woman, and someone can do whatever they want when they put their mind to it. It may not be easy, and there might be some hard times, but you can do it and survive, and come out a better person in the end.
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    i know it seems sooooo scary and sooooo impossible right now, but you WILL be able to do it and you WILL be successfull! i went through a divorce before, and i know exactly what your fears are like right now.... just letting you know that there is light at the end of the tunnel hon! trust me! keep your head up high and please pm me if you ever wanna chat...
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    you CAN do this..

    If you are feeling frightened about what comes next, don't be. Embrace the uncertainty. Allow it to lead you places. Be brave as it challenges you to exercise both your heart and your mind as you create your own path towards happiness, don't waste time with regret. Spin wildly into your next action. Enjoy the present, each moment, as it comes; because you'll never get another one quite like it. And if you should ever look up and find yourself lost, simply take a breath and start over. Retrace your steps and go back to the purest place in your heart where your hope lives. You'll find your way again.

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    Sorry you are going through this, and we are all here for you.
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    Sorry to hear, I have gone thru one, if you need anything let me know...PM me at anytime!
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    I really just don't know where to start. I feel like I went from the parents house to DH's and I have to figure out how to stand on my own feet. Like I know I can I just need like a road map... does that make sense?
    I don't even know how to go about getting a divorce and how long they take and what should I ask for, how do we split things, etc. I'm just so confused.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Colplaykat View Post
    I really just don't know where to start. I feel like I went from the parents house to DH's and I have to figure out how to stand on my own feet. Like I know I can I just need like a road map... does that make sense?
    I don't even know how to go about getting a divorce and how long they take and what should I ask for, how do we split things, etc. I'm just so confused.
    I can't help with that stuff because I've never been there , I am sorry. But I think that you are doing the best thing with making a plan!!!

    I wish I could help

    If you are feeling frightened about what comes next, don't be. Embrace the uncertainty. Allow it to lead you places. Be brave as it challenges you to exercise both your heart and your mind as you create your own path towards happiness, don't waste time with regret. Spin wildly into your next action. Enjoy the present, each moment, as it comes; because you'll never get another one quite like it. And if you should ever look up and find yourself lost, simply take a breath and start over. Retrace your steps and go back to the purest place in your heart where your hope lives. You'll find your way again.

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