I need some advice - Life After Love

DakotaCowgirl · 01-04-2008, 06:11 PM

I have a friend who just came home and his wife left him. What do you do or say to that person? I just listened and said I would pray for him. Is there anything else I can do?

MontanaSweetie · 01-04-2008, 06:17 PM

Not much you can do other than just be supportive and offer a listening ear if he needs it. We had that happen to a few of our friends at our last duty station.

jupiterinka · 01-04-2008, 06:20 PM

That's sad. But, yup, just be positive and be there for support. There's not much a person can say or do at a time like that.

settles · 01-04-2008, 06:22 PM

just be positive thats all you can do.
be an ear that listens and a sholder to cry on.
hope it all works out for the best!

BJo · 01-04-2008, 06:44 PM

be as supportive as you can. Nothing you say or do will fix this issue but you can be there as a support system!

Wicked · 01-04-2008, 06:50 PM

I would just make sure he knows that I am there for him, invite him out a few times with me and my husband (or over for dinner) to keep him busy and so he doesn't feel so alone, and offer to help him out in any way with things like bringing him a meal or a movie to watch if he is feeling blue one day. I think that's really all you can do.

define · 01-04-2008, 07:08 PM

Originally Posted by MontanaSweetie

Not much you can do other than just be supportive and offer a listening ear if he needs it. We had that happen to a few of our friends at our last duty station.

Originally Posted by Wicked

I would just make sure he knows that I am there for him, invite him out a few times with me and my husband (or over for dinner) to keep him busy and so he doesn't feel so alone, and offer to help him out in any way with things like bringing him a meal or a movie to watch if he is feeling blue one day. I think that's really all you can do.

I agree!

DakotaCowgirl · 01-04-2008, 11:12 PM

He just called up. I asked him, what can I do? He said, just be a friend. Pray for me.

I guess that is the best that I can do.

I Miss Him:( · 01-04-2008, 11:13 PM

Just keep doing what youve been doing. He'll just need someone to talk to lean on and i think thats all you can do.

jennypage · 01-06-2008, 04:29 AM

Poor guy! You just being a good friend will probably help tremendously.

01-04-2008, 06:11 PM	#1 (permalink)
DakotaCowgirl MilitarySOS Jewel Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Here...going to Germany Posts: 7,721 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 59% Longevity: 47%	I need some advice I have a friend who just came home and his wife left him. What do you do or say to that person? I just listened and said I would pray for him. Is there anything else I can do? __________________ "It is endemic of the current culture that those with large stature are overlooked except by vultures. With no regard to the depth of their souls, the height of their passion, and the beauty of their moments." P.J. Pete http://www.thewomanhood.com/forum/register.php?referrerid=1498[/URL] MacGyver can make Chuck Norris out of duct tape and a spork.

01-04-2008, 06:17 PM	#2 (permalink)
MontanaSweetie Loving My Navy Veteran Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: Great Falls, Montana Posts: 16,468 Classifieds: (-2) Activity: 0% Longevity: 91%	Not much you can do other than just be supportive and offer a listening ear if he needs it. We had that happen to a few of our friends at our last duty station. __________________ *Life Is A Dance Floor, Love Is The Rythym, You Are The Music*

01-04-2008, 06:20 PM	#3 (permalink)
jupiterinka Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Virginia Beach Posts: 1,199 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 33%	That's sad. But, yup, just be positive and be there for support. There's not much a person can say or do at a time like that. __________________ Our love will last until the stars turn cold...

01-04-2008, 06:50 PM	#6 (permalink)
Wicked BOHICA Join Date: May 2007 Location: Goodyear, Arizona Posts: 21,425 Classifieds: (1) Activity: 87% Longevity: 42%	I would just make sure he knows that I am there for him, invite him out a few times with me and my husband (or over for dinner) to keep him busy and so he doesn't feel so alone, and offer to help him out in any way with things like bringing him a meal or a movie to watch if he is feeling blue one day. I think that's really all you can do. __________________ Great spirits have always found violent opposition from mediocrities. The latter cannot understand it when a man does not thoughtlessly submit to hereditary prejudices but honestly and courageously uses his intelligence. ~ Albert Einstein

01-04-2008, 11:12 PM	#8 (permalink)
DakotaCowgirl MilitarySOS Jewel Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Here...going to Germany Posts: 7,721 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 59% Longevity: 47%	He just called up. I asked him, what can I do? He said, just be a friend. Pray for me. I guess that is the best that I can do. __________________ "It is endemic of the current culture that those with large stature are overlooked except by vultures. With no regard to the depth of their souls, the height of their passion, and the beauty of their moments." P.J. Pete http://www.thewomanhood.com/forum/register.php?referrerid=1498[/URL] MacGyver can make Chuck Norris out of duct tape and a spork.

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01-04-2008, 06:22 PM	#4 (permalink)
settles MilitarySOS Jewel Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Savannah, GA Posts: 13,449 Classifieds: (1) Activity: 70% Longevity: 32%	just be positive thats all you can do. be an ear that listens and a sholder to cry on. hope it all works out for the best!

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BJo Account Closed Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Your mom Posts: 25,363 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 13% Longevity: 39%	be as supportive as you can. Nothing you say or do will fix this issue but you can be there as a support system!

01-04-2008, 11:13 PM	#9 (permalink)
I Miss Him:( Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Charleston South Carolina Posts: 1,054 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 35%	Just keep doing what youve been doing. He'll just need someone to talk to lean on and i think thats all you can do. __________________ "When the stars have all been counted, and i stop loving you, honey they'll be driving BUICKS to the moon!" ~ Alan Jackson~

01-06-2008, 04:29 AM	#10 (permalink)
jennypage Hating the world one asshole at a time.... Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: ME: Roy, Washington HIM: iraqistack Posts: 19,694 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 72% Longevity: 33%	Poor guy! You just being a good friend will probably help tremendously.