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    I need some advice

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    I have a friend who just came home and his wife left him. What do you do or say to that person? I just listened and said I would pray for him. Is there anything else I can do?
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    Not much you can do other than just be supportive and offer a listening ear if he needs it. We had that happen to a few of our friends at our last duty station.
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    That's sad. But, yup, just be positive and be there for support. There's not much a person can say or do at a time like that.
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    just be positive thats all you can do.
    be an ear that listens and a sholder to cry on.
    hope it all works out for the best!
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    be as supportive as you can. Nothing you say or do will fix this issue but you can be there as a support system!
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    I would just make sure he knows that I am there for him, invite him out a few times with me and my husband (or over for dinner) to keep him busy and so he doesn't feel so alone, and offer to help him out in any way with things like bringing him a meal or a movie to watch if he is feeling blue one day. I think that's really all you can do.
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    Quote Originally Posted by MontanaSweetie View Post
    Not much you can do other than just be supportive and offer a listening ear if he needs it. We had that happen to a few of our friends at our last duty station.
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    I would just make sure he knows that I am there for him, invite him out a few times with me and my husband (or over for dinner) to keep him busy and so he doesn't feel so alone, and offer to help him out in any way with things like bringing him a meal or a movie to watch if he is feeling blue one day. I think that's really all you can do.
    I agree!
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    He just called up. I asked him, what can I do? He said, just be a friend. Pray for me.

    I guess that is the best that I can do.
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    Just keep doing what youve been doing. He'll just need someone to talk to lean on and i think thats all you can do.



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    Poor guy! You just being a good friend will probably help tremendously.
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