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    So as not to jack my own thread and because I'm thinking about it more now, how do you all feel about your children interacting with other males while daddy is deployed? Is the age of the child a factor? B's actions today got me thinking that maybe he is craving male attention. The only man he is around semi regularly is hesitant to spend too much time with him because he doesn't want B to bond with him instead of my husband.

    So- do/did you make a point to have your child interact with other men? Do you think it would affect them rebonding with daddy? Am I overthinking this?

    for clarity's sake I'm talking about non family members.
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    I never went out of my way to have it happen or to avoid it
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    Quote Originally Posted by ZivaD View Post
    I never went out of my way to have it happen or to avoid it
    I figure that's the case with most people. I just realized today that he spends all of his time with women. My friend's 2year old goes NUTS around men. It's nothing I really thought about until today.
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    Quote Originally Posted by ZivaD View Post
    I never went out of my way to have it happen or to avoid it
    That's how I would feel if DH were deployed.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rissa*Rawr View Post
    That's how I would feel if DH were deployed.
    Yeah, I'm starting to feel like this is a non issue I think I'm just over thinking it.
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    I moved closer to home after having Emma, when DH deployed, and she became very close with my dad and brother. My FIL worked a lot, but we'd see him as much as we could. Spending time with them was as much for me as it was for her. She enjoyed having people who could throw her around and do things that I couldn't/wouldn't. I think it's important, but she always knew who her daddy was.



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    I had my BIL fill the role. Not taking Daddy's place but doing things with him and including him with his own son. He loved him and my father. His Dad deployed when he was 3 wks old until he was 7 months so I guess it also depends on the age. We had lots of ways for him to remember Daddy, his own picture album, one of those books recorded in daddys voice and so on. Even as the kids got older. I do think its important to an extent..





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    I will probably just continue as normal if he deploys. As of now neither of us will deploy before she is 3yrs old, so I am not sure how she will react at that point.
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    Quote Originally Posted by ZivaD View Post
    I never went out of my way to have it happen or to avoid it
    This.
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    Chris has asked his best friend (Kathryn's godfather) to sort of step in a little bit while he's gone. Not to take his place, but to take her out on little outings etc. like he does. His older brother also will be doing some things with her while he's gone.

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