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OutlawWoman. · 12-12-2011, 10:48 PM

If you're having full on panic attacks, I would say talk to a professional. If it's a thought that is just kind of nagging at you and makes you nervous, that's one thing. I don't like to think about my own death either, but it happens sometimes. However, actual panic ATTACKS, you should definitely ask a doctor.. to be on the safe side and make you more comfortable.

honeybun · 12-12-2011, 10:55 PM

Originally Posted by skStar21

I would be lieing if I said this never crossed my mind. I have had to push it out b/c I cannot let myself dwell on it. Maybe you can set up a routine. Like someone you call every day or email, etc. so that if it does happen your ds would nto be in that position.

This. Especially the bolded. My husband is deployed and I have a newborn, a nine year old, and a seven year old. I have people who check on me at least daily. I have had the same thoughts, and I would suggest having one or more accountability buddies, someone willing to call you and (if need be) stop by daily.

My first few days home from the hospital, someone stopped by every day, multiple times a day to do a well check and make sure I wasn't laying dead on the floor from some random complication. I know it seems morbid, but I think we all have that fear at some point.

Also, a million

Xarlelia · 12-24-2011, 01:49 AM

I call my mom and grandmother at the same time everyday. If I am an hour late calling them, they will be calling me non-stop to find out what's going on. Maybe you can do the same? Maybe give your family your Family Readiness Officer's number and if your family doesn't hear from you the FRO can stop by and check in on you.

livelearnlove · 12-24-2011, 02:48 AM

I get thoughts like this from time to time..but thankfully I don't have any kids.
Did you recently watch a movie or read something where a similar situation occured? Sometimes that jolts it for me.

I was just talking with my friends though how I would try to limit my cat's food, but I don't like leaving him without a full dish of food and water in case something happened to me before I came back. haha

I also have recently talked to DB that if I fell out of the shower and cracked my head open, or something like that, I wonder how long it would take before people were concerned where I was...especially if it was the weekend. I try not to full out worry about it or think too much on it, and I bet I would be worse if I had kids.

I think PPs have had some good suggestions and I do try to talk to people everyday, but I don't know they would be super concerned if I missed a day...so I should probably reinforce that.

PrincesaLoca · 12-24-2011, 04:31 AM

Originally Posted by SugaInMyPockets

Also, I was suffering from a deep depression, without seeking medical help then. I don't know if that played a role in it or not, but if you have the signs of depression, seek help.

I agree if you maybe have talked to a doctor about?
lile pp said maybe you call someone on a daily basis and when u dont call they will call you.. just to ge a lil security

RandiDandi · 01-29-2012, 02:27 PM

I have the same fear. DS is 25 months. I told my mom how I felt and she set up a routine where we talk twice a day once in the morning and then once before bed. She told me if she calls and I don't answer (unless I've told her in advance I have a doctors appointment or something) and then I don't return her call within half an hour she has a neighbor of mine's phone number and she will call them if she can't get in touch with me. It makes me feel a lot better to know the most it would is 10-12 hours if something happened to me. I would however also encourage you to call military one source and request counseling for your panic attacks. Counseling can be really helpful.

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OutlawWoman. <3 <3 <3 Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Oceana! Posts: 11,192 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 94% Longevity: 33%	If you're having full on panic attacks, I would say talk to a professional. If it's a thought that is just kind of nagging at you and makes you nervous, that's one thing. I don't like to think about my own death either, but it happens sometimes. However, actual panic ATTACKS, you should definitely ask a doctor.. to be on the safe side and make you more comfortable. __________________ Dixie Nights and Racetrack Lights.

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Xarlelia Sesa Wo Suban Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: "Under A Shady Tree, You and Me" Posts: 6,492 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 32% Longevity: 46%	I call my mom and grandmother at the same time everyday. If I am an hour late calling them, they will be calling me non-stop to find out what's going on. Maybe you can do the same? Maybe give your family your Family Readiness Officer's number and if your family doesn't hear from you the FRO can stop by and check in on you. __________________ + & =

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12-24-2011, 02:48 AM	#14 (permalink)
livelearnlove Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: I'm in Houston (by way of Detroit), He's in San Antonio!! Posts: 1,022 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 17% Longevity: 13%	I get thoughts like this from time to time..but thankfully I don't have any kids. Did you recently watch a movie or read something where a similar situation occured? Sometimes that jolts it for me. I was just talking with my friends though how I would try to limit my cat's food, but I don't like leaving him without a full dish of food and water in case something happened to me before I came back. haha I also have recently talked to DB that if I fell out of the shower and cracked my head open, or something like that, I wonder how long it would take before people were concerned where I was...especially if it was the weekend. I try not to full out worry about it or think too much on it, and I bet I would be worse if I had kids. I think PPs have had some good suggestions and I do try to talk to people everyday, but I don't know they would be super concerned if I missed a day...so I should probably reinforce that.

01-29-2012, 02:27 PM	#16 (permalink)
RandiDandi Fresh Newbie Join Date: Jan 2012 Posts: 7 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 3%	I have the same fear. DS is 25 months. I told my mom how I felt and she set up a routine where we talk twice a day once in the morning and then once before bed. She told me if she calls and I don't answer (unless I've told her in advance I have a doctors appointment or something) and then I don't return her call within half an hour she has a neighbor of mine's phone number and she will call them if she can't get in touch with me. It makes me feel a lot better to know the most it would is 10-12 hours if something happened to me. I would however also encourage you to call military one source and request counseling for your panic attacks. Counseling can be really helpful.