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    So DH is about to leave for deployment #2 but our first with kids. He leaves from a bus stop on base here because they leave from the international airport, but every time he goes on tdy's and stuff in the past we say our goodbyes at home and will get a ride to the bus stop because we like to just tell the kids daddy is at work. Do I just do what we normally do for a deployment too? I'm worried the scene of everyone crying and saying goodbye to all the guys is going to upset them and make things worse esp. since we sit to the "daddy is working answer" when they ask where he is. So I'm kinda torn if I should have them say goodbye to daddy at the house or goodbye at the bus stop and make a big scene out of it.. any thoughts or ideas would rock!

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    for me personally I don't like the "daddy is working answer" for deployments. It is possible that kids will start resenting him for working all the time and "choosing" his job over spending time with them. Maybe try explaining to them about what deployment is and find a way to make it more upbeat and make plans to do something fun "mini party" at all the milestones. Such as "one month down" party and the "half way" party. If he accomplishes anything neat while he is deployed such as advancement or gets a new qualification throw a "great job daddy" party.

    My friend once did a paper chain for every day that they would be gone and had the kids decorate each link of the chain. They would hang it around the house and every night they would take that day's link off and celebrate with desert.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LadyHawk View Post
    for me personally I don't like the "daddy is working answer" for deployments. It is possible that kids will start resenting him for working all the time and "choosing" his job over spending time with them. Maybe try explaining to them about what deployment is and find a way to make it more upbeat and make plans to do something fun "mini party" at all the milestones. Such as "one month down" party and the "half way" party. If he accomplishes anything neat while he is deployed such as advancement or gets a new qualification throw a "great job daddy" party.
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    oh yes the daddy dolls and flat daddies are awesome. My friends have that for their kids and they their flat daddies/daddy dolls.

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    I have always taken my kids to see their dad off on deployment. I think it's good for them to realize this is very different from daddy going off to work.

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