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    Not really a deployment, but a seperation..

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    I need some ideas to help my 2.5 year old daughter with DH going back to work, 5+ hours away. We are planning to try and see each other every other weekend, but she gets upset when he leaves to do errands without her.

    He's only been home from deployment for a month, and when I tell her "daddy's at work" or anything along those lines she goes "no daddy work.. MY daddy"

    What can I do for her to try and ease this transition on her, other than the talk about him, pictures, etc?

    I'm thinking about doing the chain thing, but I have NO idea when/if he will be home for good anytime soon.




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    I can only think of maybe easing in to it??

    example... have him "get ready" for work and leave the house for maybe an hour or two and then come home. But while he is gone let her know he is going to work and will be back .... then gradually add time to it... untill maybee he leaves one morning and doesn't get back untill she is in bed already sleeping, yet when she wakes there is daddy. So she realizes ok Daddy going to work isn't bad.. he comes back.
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    How about a "Daddy Doll" ??

    This girl in this video has one. YouTube - Girl Gets Wish! Daddy Home From War!!

    It's a doll where for it's face you place a picture of the person that is away, and with the one I got my almost 3 year old you can record him saying "I love you." or something.

    People swear by the things saying they really help young kids cope so I got one. They are that much either with shipping we only paid like 26bucks for DD's doll. Here's a link and they have many other dolls as well. You don't have to do the cami one.
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    These cost more but here's another doll/pillow type idea.

    https://www.daddydolls.com/store/hug...-hugahero-doll

    I love these because DD really misses DH and I'm hoping this way she can at least feel like he's closer.
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    I really think the transition idea is essential. Allowing her to realize that "at work" doesn't mean deployment legnth time apart, ought to help a ton. We did the daddy-dolls/pillows and they really helped as well.

    My friend also did a build a bear and had her husband record the prayer that daddy always said with his son in one paw and the other was of daddy telling their son to be a good boy and how much he loved him. It was VERY sweet. I can tell you that her son (then 2 1/2) carried that thing EVERYWHERE...even I have their entire prayer memorized!
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    Why does he work five hours away? Why not move?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Songtan Sally View Post
    Why does he work five hours away? Why not move?
    The contract was (the job fell threw..) only for a month.. then he would go somewhere else. We just bought a house.. it would be stupid, with this type of job, to pick up and move every time he got a new contract.




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    Hopefully you can find something to make it easier on her. I like the easing her into it idea. Good luck.

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