My poor boy - Kids Coping with Deployment

Kaymara · 05-08-2008, 08:17 AM

Man.

I noticed a pattern with my 3yr old. Everytime he would talk to daddy he'd act out. Well I think last night really affected him for some reason. He wouldnt go to bed. Said he was scared. Said he didnt want me to leave him. I left him in his room and he screamed mama please come back dont leave me over and over and over again. I finally went in there and he curled in a ball on my lap whimpering.

I took him into my bed because I was so tired and he slept pretty much on me. When I tried to move him he'd wake and say STOP! Please dont leave me. And I would ask him to scoot over and he'd cry and say he didnt wanna fall off my bed. My heart was breaking.

I think from now on I wont let him talk to daddy. The deployment is winding down so I think maybe it might be better if he doesnt. Yesterday really affected him and he has NEVER acted like that before that bad and thats the only thing different about yesterday was daddy called

Jodi · 05-08-2008, 08:31 AM

Awww poor little guy! That is so sad.

*MedicsHeart* · 05-08-2008, 08:33 AM

Aww....I hope He Feels Better.

Becca · 05-08-2008, 08:36 AM

Poor E

I'm sorry Kristi, that sounds absolutely heartbreaking.

Kaymara · 05-08-2008, 08:41 AM

It was heartbreaking. It tore my heart in 2. I dont normally let him sleep with me unless he is throwing up, really really sick etc. But I didnt know what else to do and he was in such hysterics. His normal bedtime is 730-8 and he didnt fall asleep until darn near 10pm in my bed.

I really think its been long enough that the deployment is affecting him. He can see daddys pics, talk to daddy but he cant physically see him and although I have explained he is at work on a ship in the sea he doesnt fully comprehend that

amazinggrace · 05-08-2008, 08:50 AM

I'm sorry....it sounds like it's just been super long for him, he doesn't know how to process it anymore.

My kids have night's like that every once in a while. We usually make sure to make a card/picture for Daddy or something to send him to tell him how they feel. At 3 that mght just be a lot of hard scribbles on paper but it lets them put their emotions somewhere. I'm sorry, hope he feels better soon.

leftover · 05-08-2008, 08:54 AM

Poor little Ethan...

It sounds like you're handling everything okay though, right? Maybe not letting them talk is prolly best..

A_BU'swife · 05-08-2008, 09:01 AM

I wouldn't let him either. It is so hard sometimes. Hang in there girl we are almost done with this one.

cyndilou · 05-08-2008, 09:05 AM

I am so sorry that he is having a hard time.

My DS is doing the same thing. I hope that it gets better soon. Oh, also on a side note, I really enjoyed meeting you in person.

~~goldilockz~~ · 05-08-2008, 09:09 AM

I can't imagine

05-08-2008, 08:17 AM	#1 (permalink)
Kaymara Behind every keystroke is a real person Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: Somewhere over the rainbow Posts: 27,350 Classifieds: (7) Activity: 40% Longevity: 99%	My poor boy Man. I noticed a pattern with my 3yr old. Everytime he would talk to daddy he'd act out. Well I think last night really affected him for some reason. He wouldnt go to bed. Said he was scared. Said he didnt want me to leave him. I left him in his room and he screamed mama please come back dont leave me over and over and over again. I finally went in there and he curled in a ball on my lap whimpering. I took him into my bed because I was so tired and he slept pretty much on me. When I tried to move him he'd wake and say STOP! Please dont leave me. And I would ask him to scoot over and he'd cry and say he didnt wanna fall off my bed. My heart was breaking. I think from now on I wont let him talk to daddy. The deployment is winding down so I think maybe it might be better if he doesnt. Yesterday really affected him and he has NEVER acted like that before that bad and thats the only thing different about yesterday was daddy called __________________ Surviving deployment #5

05-08-2008, 08:31 AM	#2 (permalink)
Jodi Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Posts: 1,708 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 67%	Awww poor little guy! That is so sad. __________________

05-08-2008, 08:41 AM	#5 (permalink)
Kaymara Behind every keystroke is a real person Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: Somewhere over the rainbow Posts: 27,350 Classifieds: (7) Activity: 40% Longevity: 99%	It was heartbreaking. It tore my heart in 2. I dont normally let him sleep with me unless he is throwing up, really really sick etc. But I didnt know what else to do and he was in such hysterics. His normal bedtime is 730-8 and he didnt fall asleep until darn near 10pm in my bed. I really think its been long enough that the deployment is affecting him. He can see daddys pics, talk to daddy but he cant physically see him and although I have explained he is at work on a ship in the sea he doesnt fully comprehend that __________________ Surviving deployment #5

05-08-2008, 09:05 AM	#9 (permalink)
cyndilou Senior Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Him/San Diego Me/TN Posts: 1,083 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 57%	I am so sorry that he is having a hard time. My DS is doing the same thing. I hope that it gets better soon. Oh, also on a side note, I really enjoyed meeting you in person. __________________

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05-08-2008, 08:33 AM	#3 (permalink)
MedicsHeart Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 1,466 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 27%	Aww....I hope He Feels Better.

05-08-2008, 08:50 AM	#6 (permalink)
amazinggrace Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 10,202 Classifieds: (6) Activity: 45% Longevity: 27%	I'm sorry....it sounds like it's just been super long for him, he doesn't know how to process it anymore. My kids have night's like that every once in a while. We usually make sure to make a card/picture for Daddy or something to send him to tell him how they feel. At 3 that mght just be a lot of hard scribbles on paper but it lets them put their emotions somewhere. I'm sorry, hope he feels better soon.

05-08-2008, 09:01 AM	#8 (permalink)
A_BU'swife Proud Seabee wife! Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 6,540 Classifieds: (2) Activity: 21% Longevity: 56%	I wouldn't let him either. It is so hard sometimes. Hang in there girl we are almost done with this one.

05-08-2008, 09:09 AM	#10 (permalink)
~~goldilockz~~ Banned Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 25,823 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 47%	I can't imagine