We want to surprise DD not sure if its a good idea. - Kids Coping with Deployment

ilovemickeymost · 12-23-2007, 10:28 PM

DH will be coming home for 15 days leave soon from Iraq. We told 13 yo DD, he'd be home about 10 days later than actual date. We want to surprise her at school. I've already talked to the school & gotten permission. Her teacher will either say they have a guest speaker & he'll come in or we'll do it in the cafeteria. The whole reason behind this is for her to feel like we did something special just for her. We have a 2yo son that takes up a lot of my time. Her real Dad is having a new baby & isn't paying much attention to her right now. And DH doesn't email her as much as he should, but is getting better. But, I'm having 2nd thoughts. I don't want her to not have time to prepare herself emotionally for his homecoming & I don't want to take away the going to the airport anticipation from her. Also, I don't want her to be embarrased b/c I'm sure she'll cry & it will be infront of everyone. Please help. I need to see this from her view point. So, if you have teens could you ask them how they would feel? Thanks in advance for the advice.

dannysgirl004 · 12-23-2007, 10:31 PM

I don't have teens yet. But I think it is a great idea to surprise her. Does she go to a school where there are other military kids. If she does I am sure they will all understand why she is so emotional. Even if she doesn't the kids are old enough to know I am sure where he has been and why she is so happy to see him. I would do it!

Rain. · 12-23-2007, 10:33 PM

I think it'd be a cute surprise! I plan on surprising my DD at school and she's only 6. We're just going to have dh pick her up from school though

rcwant2be · 12-23-2007, 10:37 PM

i don't have teens, but my first thought when reading your post & her age, was, gah! she might be embarrassed.

i'd say, you know your daughter best...go on that, & maybe ask her teachers what they think.

USCGBoxerMom · 12-23-2007, 10:40 PM

I have a 13yo daughter and I think it's a FANTASTIC idea!!

ilovemickeymost · 12-23-2007, 11:13 PM

Originally Posted by USCGBoxerMom

I have a 13yo daughter and I think it's a FANTASTIC idea!!

Would you mind asking her what she thinks?

*Crystal* · 12-23-2007, 11:21 PM

I think its an awesome idea!!

missinghim · 12-23-2007, 11:24 PM

I think it's a really cute idea, but at the same time I would worry a little about the embarrassment factor. Mainly because I *hate* showing emotions in public, lol, so if she's the same way she may be a tiny bit embarrassed.

Lefty80 · 12-23-2007, 11:34 PM

DD is only 13 months but I think it would be a cute idea! I think she would love showing off her dad!

xTwiSTofFaTEx49 · 12-23-2007, 11:36 PM

I think it's a great idea. I don't really think she'd be too embarrassed, but like stated before you know her best.

12-23-2007, 10:28 PM	#1 (permalink)
ilovemickeymost Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Posts: 319 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 37%	We want to surprise DD not sure if its a good idea. DH will be coming home for 15 days leave soon from Iraq. We told 13 yo DD, he'd be home about 10 days later than actual date. We want to surprise her at school. I've already talked to the school & gotten permission. Her teacher will either say they have a guest speaker & he'll come in or we'll do it in the cafeteria. The whole reason behind this is for her to feel like we did something special just for her. We have a 2yo son that takes up a lot of my time. Her real Dad is having a new baby & isn't paying much attention to her right now. And DH doesn't email her as much as he should, but is getting better. But, I'm having 2nd thoughts. I don't want her to not have time to prepare herself emotionally for his homecoming & I don't want to take away the going to the airport anticipation from her. Also, I don't want her to be embarrased b/c I'm sure she'll cry & it will be infront of everyone. Please help. I need to see this from her view point. So, if you have teens could you ask them how they would feel? Thanks in advance for the advice. __________________ I'm married to a soldier, but in love with a mouse (Mickey).

12-23-2007, 10:31 PM	#2 (permalink)
dannysgirl004 Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: NAS Lemoore, CA Posts: 2,996 Classifieds: (2) Activity: 2% Longevity: 67%	I don't have teens yet. But I think it is a great idea to surprise her. Does she go to a school where there are other military kids. If she does I am sure they will all understand why she is so emotional. Even if she doesn't the kids are old enough to know I am sure where he has been and why she is so happy to see him. I would do it! __________________ What a wonderful life! Visit my bow page www.myspace.com/bekkisbows

12-23-2007, 10:33 PM	#3 (permalink)
Rain. MilitarySOS Jewel Join Date: Oct 2007 Posts: 19,152 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 35% Longevity: 35%	I think it'd be a cute surprise! I plan on surprising my DD at school and she's only 6. We're just going to have dh pick her up from school though __________________

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missinghim Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Columbia, SC Posts: 3,755 Classifieds: (1) Activity: 12% Longevity: 62%	I think it's a really cute idea, but at the same time I would worry a little about the embarrassment factor. Mainly because I hate showing emotions in public, lol, so if she's the same way she may be a tiny bit embarrassed. __________________

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12-23-2007, 10:40 PM	#5 (permalink)
USCGBoxerMom Senior Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Seattle, WA Posts: 11,078 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 50%	I have a 13yo daughter and I think it's a FANTASTIC idea!!

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Crystal Mrs. Bonney Join Date: May 2006 Location: Lemoore, CA Posts: 10,998 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 60%	I think its an awesome idea!!

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Lefty80 Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Posts: 906 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 35%	DD is only 13 months but I think it would be a cute idea! I think she would love showing off her dad!

12-23-2007, 11:36 PM	#10 (permalink)
xTwiSTofFaTEx49 Senior Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Pittsburgh, PA and he's in Pensacola, FL Posts: 297 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 33%	I think it's a great idea. I don't really think she'd be too embarrassed, but like stated before you know her best.