Has anyone bought a house that wasn't at the duty station?

[instant_oatmeal]

Dh has orders to SD but we are wanting to buy a house. We will probably buy in Wisconsin since that is all we really know. I really don't want to be apart from dh but I just can't comprehend paying rent anymore. So have any of you ever bought a house somewhere and then your SO was stationed somewhere else?

[gunsgirl]

no- IMO it is hard enough being married, AND being military BUT choosing to live apart simply because you don't want to pay rent seems a little crazy to me-

we are all in the mindset that if we do not buy a home 'we are WASTING" our money.

And this is so far from the truth; when you pay for housing whether it is for rent or a mortgage you are paying for the same thing; Comfort, enjoyment and safety.
You are providing your self and your family a home to live in-
in this market you cannot be sure that if you need to sell in 2-3 or even 4 yrs you will turn a profit and may actually lose money- when you cannot pay the balance of your mortgage at the closing table.

[instant_oatmeal]

I guess I'm crazy then.

We wouldn't have to worry about selling down the road because he'll be done and we'll be moving back here anyway.

Anyone have experience with this?

[gunsgirl]

What about how often you could see him? what about the baby- how often will your DH get to see him? with a deployment you do not have a choice but when you choose to live apart it does not only affect you but your child as well.

you said "later down the road" but not how much later- 1 yr, 2 yrs 3 yrs more?

WI is not close to SD,,, have you looked at the logistics of getting to and from- how often, who will come to see whom and when?

I am not bashing at all- we are looking at doing the GEO thing next yr- BUT it will be DH's twilight tour ( last one before retirement) and it will be for 3 yrs..
BUT we do not have kids at home, and I have a flexible job where I can hop on a plane any day of the week to go out and see him.
financially we are ok to have 2 households, meaning DH would rent his own apt wherever he moves too.

you will do what is best for you and your family- and I will respect that- just look at all the if's and buts and make an educated decision.

BTW-- your little guy is a cutie!!!