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    Reciprocal gifting question

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    So, Katy (dd) has this boyfriend. He's a great kid and the two of them are pretty serious (okay, high school serious) and it looks like this is a long-haul sort of thing that is going to be lasting a while. The two families don't really know each other - we've met since they spend time at each others' houses, but that's basically it. Well, DD was telling me that his mom had asked him what sort of things Katy likes because she needs to know what to get for Christmas (this is aside from the gift the bf is getting Katy - so it is a gift from the parents/family to Katy) - the boy can't keep a secret, so he had turned around and told Katy about the conversation.
    Now I'm lost - his parents get Katy a gift - so is the reciprocal for Katy's parents (us) to get him a gift or is for Katy (us) to give them (his family) a gift or both or................ I was already having a hard enough time helping Katy figure out what to get for him for Christmas from herself (we had it all figured out and then the butthead bought one for himself )......I suck at gifting for people I don't know. What sort of gift would be the right thing for Katy to give them?
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    I don't think you need to get him anything.


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    My mom always got my boyfriends a gift, and their parents always got me a gift. Usually something small-- gas card, movie passes, scarf/glove set.. something like that. Before I was 21 giving gifts to the parents of the SO wasn't ever part of the equation. Since then, usually my SO and I will go in a nice bottle of wine from both of us for each set of parents. Long story short-- I would get him something small, and don't worry about his parents.
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    Thinking back I have received gifts from the parent[s] of whomever I was dating at the time on multiple occasion. Normally something small like a set of movie tickets so that the bf and I could go out together and a pair of fun socks.

    The irony of this is that my InLaws have actually NEVER given me a gift, ever. But that is a whole other ball game.


    Perhaps getting him a set of movie tickets would be nice then him and Katy could go see a movie at some point?
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    It might be a nice gesture to get him something, but I wouldn't get anything super expensive. Maybe a gift card for a restaurant or the movies so the two can have a fun date night or something.
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    I've always gotten Christmas presents from boyfriend's families, if I had met them by that point.

    Do they like to go out to eat anywhere specific? Or are they big into movies or bowling? Gift certificates are great.

    If he's big into music an Itunes card is a good idea. Maybe buy a small, inexpensive gift and put the gift card in with it. That way he'll actually have something to unwrap.
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    I say yes, something small for him, but not anything for his family. I like the suggestions of movie tickets or giftcard or something for them to do together.
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    My mom always does something nice for my boyfriend for Christmas. DB and I are pretty serious, and we're older, so it may be a bit different, but she's getting him a $100 Visa gift card and knitting him a matching hat & scarf in Mizzou colors (black and gold). Since he and I are moving in together, she's also making him a stocking to match mine (and my dog's), and stuffing it with small stuff as a sort of "welcome to the family."

    In the past though, when I've been younger, it's usually been smaller things like concert tickets, movie gift cards, or gift cards to places that have interested my ex.
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    My serious high school boyfriend's parents used to buy me Christmas gifts, birthday gifts, ect. They are competitive horse back riders so I bought them a beautiful (and pretty damn expensive) framed horse picture. They hung it up in their bedroom

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