Pressure from FRG to go to events

[A_BU'swife]

Our FRG has meetings once a month and now getting closer to over the hump and stuff the activities are picking up. I don't live close to his command so other than homecoming its hard to go. Except I somewhat feel pressure, they have the points thing for everything you go to earn liberty for our DH's. I was talking to DH about it last night he said it won't affect his liberty and stuff when he gets home but I cheating us out of extra liberty days if I don't go. Does anyone know?

[lemc81]

Um, wow. I don't know the answer to that but it doesn't sound right. Their leave is based on how long they are deployed and each branch has guidelines that affect all the guys. It has nothing to do with if their wives are active in FRG. A lot of the wives on this site aren't active in FRG so that can't be right. Not to mention that means the single guys would automatically get more time then the married one's who wifes are active. That certainly wouldn't go over very well!

[Navywife85]

i know what u mean on feeling pressure into going to them stupid meetings our frg as even went as low as makeing one of the command required meetings a frg meeting i was so mad that they did that. and now they are saying u have to be at the all the meeting to be able to be in the drawing for first kiss or daddy hugs i am like pffft. kiss this. i go to some of the meetings but only the important ones.

but i dont know really what is going on in ur situation i dont think u not going to the meeting is going to effect him in any way. its ur decision they cannot make u do what u dont want to do.

[ImNoOliveOyl]

That doesn't sound right to me. I don't see how "points" towards something with the FRG could grant him extra liberty. FRGs are command sponsored, but have no sway with the command. You live 3 hrs. from his command Adrienne, I wouldn't feel pressured to attend. From our experience, post deployment stand down is leave offered by the command and you put in your leave chit well in advance of the homecoming.

[A_BU'swife]

Heres the breakdown of how the points go.
I know it won't effect his standard liberty he will get usually everyone gets 96 hours when they first get home and DH usually takes 2 weeks off. But I just kinda think its unfair that he could be getting additional liberty if I went to these but Im not going 3 hrs one way just to go to a FRG meeting which are low in attendance to begin with, and truthfully its just a gossip scene from what I have been told. I get enough comments from the FRG President at the begining on why Im not living up there.

6 pts= 24 Hr. Liberty

12 pts=48 Hr. Liberty

18 pts=72 Hr. Liberty

24 pts=96 Hr. Liberty

.NOTE:

1. Events members will earn 1 point is as follows:

- Attend Family Readiness Group (FRG) meetings (1 point earned for each meeting).

- Volunteer for working parties to support the FRG.

- Volunteer for Command/FRG supported functions (i.e., parties, picnic, bake sales, fundraiser, etc…).

- Bring new spouses, family members, friends, or significant others to FRG meetings.

2. Volunteer time for all day fundraising events will give a Service Member an opportunity to earn 1 point every two hours with a maximum of 3 points per fundraiser. For example, an entire day assisting with booth sales during Seabee Days would earn 3 points.

3. Single Sailors are encouraged to participate and will also earn points by attending the FRG meetings and volunteering their time to support the FRG.

4. Family members, friends, or significant others of Service member who volunteer to attend FRG meetings or support with other point earning functions will also earn points for that Service member.

5. Points will be tracked by FRG President or Homeport Liaison, so remember to sign in when attending meetings or fundraising events.

6. Finally, a maximum of 96 hours will be allowed and special liberty will be available during the Homeport period.

[piggypunkinetta]

Originally Posted by aelsass Heres the breakdown of how the points go. I know it won't effect his standard liberty he will get usually everyone gets 96 hours when they first get home and DH usually takes 2 weeks off. But I just kinda think its unfair that he could be getting additional liberty if I went to these but Im not going 3 hrs one way just to go to a FRG meeting which are low in attendance to begin with, and truthfully its just a gossip scene from what I have been told. I get enough comments from the FRG President at the begining on why Im not living up there. 6 pts= 24 Hr. Liberty 12 pts=48 Hr. Liberty 18 pts=72 Hr. Liberty 24 pts=96 Hr. Liberty .NOTE: 1. Events members will earn 1 point is as follows: - Attend Family Readiness Group (FRG) meetings (1 point earned for each meeting). - Volunteer for working parties to support the FRG. - Volunteer for Command/FRG supported functions (i.e., parties, picnic, bake sales, fundraiser, etc…). - Bring new spouses, family members, friends, or significant others to FRG meetings. 2. Volunteer time for all day fundraising events will give a Service Member an opportunity to earn 1 point every two hours with a maximum of 3 points per fundraiser. For example, an entire day assisting with booth sales during Seabee Days would earn 3 points. 3. Single Sailors are encouraged to participate and will also earn points by attending the FRG meetings and volunteering their time to support the FRG. 4. Family members, friends, or significant others of Service member who volunteer to attend FRG meetings or support with other point earning functions will also earn points for that Service member. 5. Points will be tracked by FRG President or Homeport Liaison, so remember to sign in when attending meetings or fundraising events. 6. Finally, a maximum of 96 hours will be allowed and special liberty will be available during the Homeport period.

I have never heard of that before. Is it just the commands thing? I know our FRG stuff does not work like that.

[Pickels]

wow what command are you with, we are doing something like that but it is more basic as in

you go to 5 FRG meetings and you get your DH, DF, DB, DABCDEFG a free 72.

thats it, no points no nothing. If you are in Gulfport then maybe i could be of service. just don't tell no one im willing to cheat for you. lol

[navyaowife2005]

that's not right. They always assume that you live near by and that you should go to every single meeting. That is just wrong to say well if you dont come then you wont get points for your dh to have liberty!

Sorry they are doing it that way.

[ImNoOliveOyl]

I have never heard of that before, but I can totally see why you'd be turned off by the FRG leader acting that way towards you. We had several wives who didn't live in the area, they were included in all emails, and phone trees, but I NEVER pressured them to attend. Maybe you should let her know how you're feeling, and that being involved just isn't feasible...

[Heather]

Our FRG kind of pressured people to attend too. Each event got you one first kiss entry. It really upset some people. I can understand that. I'd have been upset if I hadn't been able to attend.