Deployments???

[shannon72803]

I wanna know how everyone got throught there FIRST deployment. Cause I have my first comeing up and im driveing back a forth from Philadelphia to Norfolk every two- three days so i can see him as much as i can. and he's leaving and i feel like my heart being ripped out and i cant stop crying becasue i dont know what to do without him. this is killing me and i just wanna know how you all got through your husbands leaving

[~Stephie~]

I'm back at home with my parents. DH hasn't left for his deployment yet, but he will be soon. Honestly I think this one will probably be easier than others because I'm with my family and because we haven't lived together and I'm not in our home while he's gone. It's going to be hard no matter what, but being here with family is going to be the biggest help and it's more or less going to feel like it did when he was out to sea and I was here before, except we're married now not just engaged.

[Trey]

One day at a time! It will be hard.. but thats what we are here for. Try not to ruin the time that you have left with him, you want some great memories to remember while he is away. We are all here if you need us!

My dh left for a 6 months deploymet in feb in he is due home this August. when he first left I cried and cried but then slowly with with help, love, and support from friends, family, and the people on here I just took it one day at a time(I still have my bad days) and now 3 months have passed and I have 3 more months to go. I pass the time my crossing off each day that has passed on a calender before I go to bed at night.
I also listen to our songs, write letters to him ect. lean on us and pm me if you need me

[Chris.]

I'm going through our first one right now, I've got 3 months left (he's been gone for 9 days, he missed 3 months of the cruise) and I'm heading back to my parents for the remainder of the deployment. But till then I take it one day at a time.. our son keeps me pretty busy and my hubs can email me once in a while...
You'll make it...it's hard and I'm not gonna say it gets easier, because for me it doesn't I just learn a routine that helps me...

[Rachael]

we went through our first one a year and a half ago...the trick for us was to just stay very very busy! I hung out with friends a lot, I went to school online at the time, just kept doing things to keep going! Having great friends was the #1 thing I can pinpoint it to though....

[Tiffany]

Try to stay as up beat as possible.. I know it is very hard but it makes it way worse for your fellow.. Send him lots and lots of mail and packages.. Its the highlight of their life for 6 months.. Stay connected with people on here, friends, and family.. STAY BUSY !!! If you need me for anything I just went through my first and I am always here if you need me for anything...

[Jenny*The*Pooh]

Definitely one day at a time, and try to keep busy. I live not too far from and am actually from Philly, PM me and we can get together I also found it good for myself to keep a journal as to how I was feeling and made sure I wrote in it just a little bit every day.

[jennyb]

I Just started my second this morning. My heart is in a million pieces right now but I have my kids to keep me busy and I am going to head to my moms this week I think. All the ladies on here will help you through it and it will go alot faster than you think. Keep your head up and hang in there.

[BLBnJVB3]

I stayed busy. I had Breanna and she kept me pretty busy. I also met one of the wives from John's shop who happened to have a son that was just 12 days older than Breanna. We ended up spending alot of time together and the kids have become best friends. I started going to church again and I began my 1st semester in school. We had just gotten to Jax 2 1/2 moths before he left so I didn't know the area at all so I would also just get in the car and drive. Course, that was before gas prices were the way they are now so I don't think I would suggest that now. I basically took any opportunity that came up to stay busy. It will be hard no matter what you do. But the busier you stay the quicker the time goes and the sooner he is back home with you. Good Luck.