Is deployment over yet??? - During Deployment

12-26-2007, 03:46 PM

Ok so today has been one of those bad days. I really miss my DF and I have been sad and in tears most of the day. He hasn't come online and he hasn't called. I have great news to tell him. Our youngest son JB who is about to be 1 year old took his first steps today. I was so happy but then I broke down and started crying cause his daddy missed it. I promised DF that I would video tape everything like that and I did but I am afraid of sending it to him cause you can hear me bawling in the background. DF will be so proud of his boy for that but I don't want to bum him out cause he missed it. I am so miserable. Damn is this ****ing deployment over yet. I feel like my heart is missing. I am an emotional wreck. My family doesn't understand so they don't know what to say and when they do say something it turns into an insensitive comment. I was doing so good but now this today. I felt like I had this being strong thing down packed yea ok. I don't know if to tell him though. Ahhh my heart is breaking so bad right now.
Can't I just declare peace and the troops come back home?
(hopeful wishing)

~~BJo~~ · 12-26-2007, 03:51 PM

congrats on such a huge milestone in your child's life! I can't imagine how hard that is to go through without your dh there. You are allowed to have those days though. Especially, considering the circumstances!

CristinaFaye · 12-26-2007, 03:51 PM

That's awesome that your son took his first steps! I'm so sorry you are sad. It breaks my heart thinking of all the "firsts" so many of us all have to miss out on. Hugs and strength to you.

12-26-2007, 03:53 PM

I just feel like I cant breathe. I am literally hysterical. I dont know do I tell him and send him the video or not

~~BJo~~ · 12-26-2007, 03:59 PM

send the video. He will love that. It isn't all kittens and roses for you and he has to be aware of that. At least in some capacity, he will feel part of such a big day in your families life.

TallBlondie82 · 12-26-2007, 04:17 PM

deep breath deep breath...send him the video! i think he will love to see that...hey it might really brighten up his day!...he knows he is going to miss stuff like that...it is reality...it is going to happen...so you might as well show him and let him be happy...

i think sometimes the troops think time freezes at home...but it doesn't, life goes on even without them there and it is SUCH a hard thing to imagine but its true and it is REAL! Maybe the video of his son walking will make him realize that and make him move on from it ya know? I would include him in everything that his children and you do to the best of your ability...no do not walk around with a camera and web cam 24 hours a day, because hunny you need a life too! but try your hardest to capture those special moments as best as you can

Why not try to go out and do something, take the kids out to dinner or go for a ride just to get out of your house...Im sure your children don't like seeing their mommy sad!! I hope things get better for you...do not make this deployment your life because it will consume you...try to do some stuff for you and for the kids and try to block out that hes gone...I know that must seem impossible and i think for awhile it will be impossible, but you have to try! you can do it and we on sos are all here to help...pm me if you need anything...hugs

Godders_Girl80 · 12-26-2007, 04:38 PM

Hi hun. I'd like to give you a

and congratulate you on your sons first steps. I am so sorry that your hubby is not around to see some things but I know he would be really happy to see the video if not in person. I think you should send it. Cheer up hun...the first month is the worst part of it.

bestofme · 12-26-2007, 04:42 PM

keep your chin up dear!! Your child just walked!!! and your DH is going to see it!!!(send the video!!!) hurray!!!! thats such a wonderful thing to celebrate that I think you should take a break and get out of the house!

12-26-2007, 09:29 PM

Originally Posted by bestofme

keep your chin up dear!! Your child just walked!!! and your DH is going to see it!!!(send the video!!!) hurray!!!! thats such a wonderful thing to celebrate that I think you should take a break and get out of the house!

I wish i could get out of my house but I dont have a car and no one is ever here. It is normally just me and the kids. I hate this I feel like I am losing my mind. I miss him so much I am gonna send him the video now I hope he can receive it, I wish i knew how to mute the sound so he cant hear me bawling my eyes out

Rainbow Brite · 12-26-2007, 09:53 PM

Originally Posted by BBelle17

send the video. He will love that. It isn't all kittens and roses for you and he has to be aware of that. At least in some capacity, he will feel part of such a big day in your families life.

I'm sorry you're having a hard day honey.

12-26-2007, 03:46 PM	#1 (permalink)
YamiHall Guest Posts: n/a Activity: 0% Longevity: 0%	Is deployment over yet??? Ok so today has been one of those bad days. I really miss my DF and I have been sad and in tears most of the day. He hasn't come online and he hasn't called. I have great news to tell him. Our youngest son JB who is about to be 1 year old took his first steps today. I was so happy but then I broke down and started crying cause his daddy missed it. I promised DF that I would video tape everything like that and I did but I am afraid of sending it to him cause you can hear me bawling in the background. DF will be so proud of his boy for that but I don't want to bum him out cause he missed it. I am so miserable. Damn is this ****ing deployment over yet. I feel like my heart is missing. I am an emotional wreck. My family doesn't understand so they don't know what to say and when they do say something it turns into an insensitive comment. I was doing so good but now this today. I felt like I had this being strong thing down packed yea ok. I don't know if to tell him though. Ahhh my heart is breaking so bad right now. Can't I just declare peace and the troops come back home? (hopeful wishing)

12-26-2007, 04:17 PM	#6 (permalink)
TallBlondie82 Im crazy, the good kind Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Pennsylvania Posts: 21,674 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 40%	deep breath deep breath...send him the video! i think he will love to see that...hey it might really brighten up his day!...he knows he is going to miss stuff like that...it is reality...it is going to happen...so you might as well show him and let him be happy... i think sometimes the troops think time freezes at home...but it doesn't, life goes on even without them there and it is SUCH a hard thing to imagine but its true and it is REAL! Maybe the video of his son walking will make him realize that and make him move on from it ya know? I would include him in everything that his children and you do to the best of your ability...no do not walk around with a camera and web cam 24 hours a day, because hunny you need a life too! but try your hardest to capture those special moments as best as you can Why not try to go out and do something, take the kids out to dinner or go for a ride just to get out of your house...Im sure your children don't like seeing their mommy sad!! I hope things get better for you...do not make this deployment your life because it will consume you...try to do some stuff for you and for the kids and try to block out that hes gone...I know that must seem impossible and i think for awhile it will be impossible, but you have to try! you can do it and we on sos are all here to help...pm me if you need anything...hugs __________________

12-26-2007, 04:38 PM	#7 (permalink)
Godders_Girl80 I love my 13B SPC Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Ft. Drum, NY Posts: 4,918 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 41%	Hi hun. I'd like to give you a and congratulate you on your sons first steps. I am so sorry that your hubby is not around to see some things but I know he would be really happy to see the video if not in person. I think you should send it. Cheer up hun...the first month is the worst part of it. __________________ Beauty Tips for Black Women

12-26-2007, 04:42 PM	#8 (permalink)
bestofme Senior Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Cincinnati Posts: 770 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 44%	keep your chin up dear!! Your child just walked!!! and your DH is going to see it!!!(send the video!!!) hurray!!!! thats such a wonderful thing to celebrate that I think you should take a break and get out of the house! __________________ We have a puppy!

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12-26-2007, 03:51 PM	#2 (permalink)
~~BJo~~ Banned Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Your mom Posts: 25,358 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 43%	congrats on such a huge milestone in your child's life! I can't imagine how hard that is to go through without your dh there. You are allowed to have those days though. Especially, considering the circumstances!

12-26-2007, 03:51 PM	#3 (permalink)
CristinaFaye Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 3,250 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 38%	That's awesome that your son took his first steps! I'm so sorry you are sad. It breaks my heart thinking of all the "firsts" so many of us all have to miss out on. Hugs and strength to you.

12-26-2007, 03:53 PM	#4 (permalink)
YamiHall Guest Posts: n/a Activity: 0% Longevity: 0%	I just feel like I cant breathe. I am literally hysterical. I dont know do I tell him and send him the video or not

12-26-2007, 03:59 PM	#5 (permalink)
~~BJo~~ Banned Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Your mom Posts: 25,358 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 43%	send the video. He will love that. It isn't all kittens and roses for you and he has to be aware of that. At least in some capacity, he will feel part of such a big day in your families life.