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    I am not sure where to put this or what I am looking for.....

    My DB has been preparing for deployment with training. I live about 12 hours away from where he is stationed. He's been from VA --> NC --> TX --> CO in a matter of weeks.

    After he finished training in CO, he was supposed to come see me for a few days before having to go back to VA. But, the day before he was supposed to leave, I got a text message.... They were being flown out of Colorado and he couldn't give me any details. He would be back to Colorado before he deploys, but I wouldn't be able to get ahold of him and he would text me when he got a chance.

    That was a month ago....he has been in the Army for 8 years and this is his first deployment, so I count myself greatful. I am just missing him. I am trying to find a sense of normalcy to comfort my mind. His deployment date is steadily approaching and I worry that I won't see him before then.

    Is this normal? Is there anything I can expect? I have learned over the years not to expect anything, whenever we makes plans the Army has changed them. I know freaking out will not help me...I just miss his face and his voice.
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    Quote Originally Posted by breakawayfaith View Post
    I am not sure where to put this or what I am looking for.....

    My DB has been preparing for deployment with training. I live about 12 hours away from where he is stationed. He's been from VA --> NC --> TX --> CO in a matter of weeks.

    After he finished training in CO, he was supposed to come see me for a few days before having to go back to VA. But, the day before he was supposed to leave, I got a text message.... They were being flown out of Colorado and he couldn't give me any details. He would be back to Colorado before he deploys, but I wouldn't be able to get ahold of him and he would text me when he got a chance.

    That was a month ago....he has been in the Army for 8 years and this is his first deployment, so I count myself greatful. I am just missing him. I am trying to find a sense of normalcy to comfort my mind. His deployment date is steadily approaching and I worry that I won't see him before then.

    Is this normal? Is there anything I can expect? I have learned over the years not to expect anything, whenever we makes plans the Army has changed them. I know freaking out will not help me...I just miss his face and his voice.
    Unfortunately, with the military, you can't ever make solid plans. And if you do make plans, write them in pencil because chances are they'll change. When I was with my ex, we'd hoped to at least spend a few months together before his anticipated deployment in March of '14 but he actually ended up leaving in December '13 with very little notice.

    I do hope you get to see him!
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    Quote Originally Posted by KittenMittens View Post
    Unfortunately, with the military, you can't ever make solid plans. And if you do make plans, write them in pencil because chances are they'll change. When I was with my ex, we'd hoped to at least spend a few months together before his anticipated deployment in March of '14 but he actually ended up leaving in December '13 with very little notice.

    I do hope you get to see him!

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    Ugh, the military has ruined plenty of my plans too It sucks, it always sucks, but eventually you just get used to knowing that is a possibility.
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    Quote Originally Posted by breakawayfaith View Post
    I am not sure where to put this or what I am looking for.....

    My DB has been preparing for deployment with training. I live about 12 hours away from where he is stationed. He's been from VA --> NC --> TX --> CO in a matter of weeks.

    After he finished training in CO, he was supposed to come see me for a few days before having to go back to VA. But, the day before he was supposed to leave, I got a text message.... They were being flown out of Colorado and he couldn't give me any details. He would be back to Colorado before he deploys, but I wouldn't be able to get ahold of him and he would text me when he got a chance.

    That was a month ago....he has been in the Army for 8 years and this is his first deployment, so I count myself greatful. I am just missing him. I am trying to find a sense of normalcy to comfort my mind. His deployment date is steadily approaching and I worry that I won't see him before then.


    Is this normal? Is there anything I can expect? I have learned over the years not to expect anything, whenever we makes plans the Army has changed them. I know freaking out will not help me...I just miss his face and his voice.
    So he hasn't deployed yet and you haven't heard from him since that text message? Or am I reading that wrong?

    If you haven't heard from him in a month, no, that's not normal.
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    I'm sorry that you are so frustrated with everything! That is really the hardest part in my eyes. If I were you I'd start making his deployment packages and get a jump on having things to send. It's hard when plans are made and then have to be moved,but stay positive I'm sure you'll hear something soon!

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