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    Brand New and Need Support

    Hi all!
    I'm hoping to get some comfort from this site so here's my story.

    I met my soldier going on 4 years now. I happened to move to his home town and I met him when he was home before his first deployment. From the first second I saw him I knew that I loved him and I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him. I got to spend a wonderful 5 days with him and then he deployed. Calls were few and far between and letters came every week but over a few months the distance became too much for such a new relationship. We never had a title never officially dated at this point just tried being friends. He came home safe and we kept in contact through the years. I dated a few guys short term and he had a brief engagement with another girl. Deep down in the back of my mind I knew he had my heart.

    This past Christmas he happened to come home and that was that. I couldn't deny my feelings for him anymore and we had a great week together. I met his family and everyone welcomed me with open arms, I never felt so comfortable in my life. Watching him leave again was a terrible feeling.....he was going back across the country to stay on base until his deployment. I decided to take off work for a week and I left to see him for a week where he was stationed. It was the best decision I ever made, I wasn't ready to say goodbye and we officially started dating when I was there.

    He left the end of January and will be back the beginning of October. We are just over two months in!

    Up until now I have been busy studying for my nursing boards and now they are finished and I'm going to be looking for a new job and moving by myself. I guess my biggest struggle is having people to talk to that know what this is like. I stay busy so that's not my problem but maybe I can improve on not waiting around by Skype and try to not drop everything. I want to talk to him every chance I can get but when he can't call it's almost depressing. I know he loves me and I know he doesn't want me to stop my life for this. Does anyone have any suggestions for dealing with this?

    I love him with all of my heart and know that I want this to work and the promise of a future together is worth going through anything. We have celebrated my becoming a registered nurse and his promotion via skype! I trust him and believe we can make it through this. He tells me I'm strong for everything I've gone through to get where I am today but I'm hard on myself so it's hard to believe that it's true and I want to stay strong for him and for our relationship.

    Just needing a little pick me up, all and any advice welcome!

    Thanks Kate
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    Welcome- you are in good hands here. Just keep busy and appreciate every moment. Deployments don't last forever and he will be back before you know it.
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    Welcome to the forums. I agree with poster above me.. Keep busy! Set goals, begin a hobby, or stay busy with extra work/school. Time will fly by, and he will be back before you know it!

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