It hurts so much.

[SouthernGirl]

My boyfriend got deployed three weeks ago. It’s our first one since I started dating him last year. We spent a lot of time apart though because of all his training. He was excited about going… the army ALWAYS comes first. When we first started dating, I was the most important thing in his life but I always knew how important his job is to him. I’m proud of him but its hurts so much. He’s only got in touch with me once since he left and it was just a quick email. I am friends with a girl from his unit and I see her on AIM at night a lot and she updates her facebook so I know they have somewhere to go for internet. I miss him so much. He didn’t even seem to care that he was leaving. He spent the entire week before he left playing video games and watching Sports Center. It’s like he didn’t even really want to spend time with me. And now he’s gone for 5 months and I miss him so much. =( I’ve had to leave a few of my classes because I was so upset. I just break down and cry all the time. I live in an apartment with two other girls who have boyfriends and I get so angry and jealous of them. It hurts so much to see them with their guys. I know it’s dumb but I can’t help but want to scream because they are so lucky to be able to talk to and SEE the men they love all the time. =(
I’m so afraid that something will happen or that he’ll come back and won’t want to be with me anymore. I don’t know if I can do this. I LOVE him so much but I always feel so unhappy. Even when he was home he was always so focused on work and training that he didn’t have much time for me. He never really even seemed that excited about talking …most of our relationship depends on talking because he lives 4 hours away from me even when he isn’t overseas. We used to talk like ALL the time and he said that I made him so much happier than he’s ever been but I don’t think I do any more. For the past three months he’s been so distant. It’s just so hard to do this when I don’t know if he loves me anymore. He says he does, he says he loves me so much but he never calls me and rarely emails me back. I know he’s been extra busy because he was preparing for deployment but that didn’t mean it didn’t hurt to feel so uncared about. I’m afraid it’s going to be so much worse now that he’s deployed. Like I don’t even know if he’ll talk to me at all =(. I don’t want to lose him but I don’t want to be this sad all the time. I’m in so much pain, I can’t handle it. I don’t know what to do.

[AshleyG]

aww honey.

He might have been just pulling away so it would be easier for him to leave. I don't know anything about him, so I am not sure if this is the case.

I think we all feel like this sometimes. I know I do and then I remember that if he didn't really want to be with me, he wouldn't and we talk about it. You should probably talk to him how your feeling. Send him a letter or an email if you can't talk on the phone or whatever. He might not even realize what he's done.

And if he still ignores you, you may need to rethink your relationship.

PM me if you need anything! Hang in there. Things are bound to get better.

[janel]

I read your post. I know how hard it is right now, but you have to be strong. My BF is in Iraq and has been there for going on 13 months. I had a really hard time when he came home on leave because my BF acted really distant. I later found out from him that he did that because it was to hard for him to get to close to me because he knew he was going back in only 2 weeks. I think that is what happened to your guy to. Why don't you send him a package with pictures and his favorite candy. As far as the email, i am going on 4 weeks with no contact and this is the longest I have ever had to go. It is really hard. Sometimes they can get emails but cannot send any out so just keep sending them and he will get back to you when he can.
And keep in mind when they are on a mission there my not be any contact in or out of where they are.

I will say a prayer for you and me both tonight. Hang in there because they are worth it.