Cracking in Indianapolis

[SerialShopper]

I'm just a mid-20's professional in the Indianapolis area on my third month of my best friend and boyfriend's deployment. I'm starting to crack just a bit and am getting more emotional. I don't want to stress my bf out anymore than he already is by burdening him with my problems. I figured I could get on medication and just fly on auto pilot this year while he was gone but it's still confusing. I can't identify with his family, they are nice, but we are just from different walks of life. I enjoy a glass of wine and a movie and if I told his family that, I think they'd pray for me. I'm normal. I have a great education, a good job, who the heck am I supposed to identify with other than my boyfriend while he's gone? My friends are here but, again, they have never been in this situation and the FRG doesn't exactly help girlfriends and hasn't tried. Just a normal person who is in my same position that won't judge me or try to get me to go to church with them, just someone who knows what I am talking about. Any ideas?

[bobbysue]

I'm in Indy n feel similar to the way you feel! My db is in Iraq, hell, I barely know his family. All my friends are married or have kids so I spend time with my dog havin a beer! Feel free to pm me!

[ela]

I'm sorry things are starting to get tough. My DB is currently in Iraq, and we are on month six of his deployment, so I know how it goes. Like you mentioned, I have friends but they have a hard time understanding what I'm going through. As for DB's family, we aren't close as we live too far apart. So, the support is very very minimal, which makes a tough situation even more difficult.

Hang in there and if you ever want to talk, feel free to send me a message!!

[clsmarathon]

I hear ya on someone to identify with part. That's why this board is so great!

[terifinn]

There are many great things to do in indy. My yoga instructor told me about meetup.com--which isn't a new idea but it can be helpful. Shes a part of a group that knits at pubs. I also worked for the library and went to a lot of the first friday events downtown. I grew up in Indy so I had friends beforehand but getting involved is helpful. Believe me, there are LOADS of things to do in the city. Just start attending anything of interest and you can start friendships with new interests.

[SerialShopper]

I'm just learning how to use this site, I never even knew anyone responded. Thank you.

[LindsayM]

I'm in the same situation. I'm close w my DBs family but we're so opposite. His family is so religious and they finally stopped pushing it on me but they always say that they'll pray for me and everything else. DBs parentscame to my dads surprise 50th bday party on saturday night, bad idea, they came late enough that everyone was sloshed and they were horrified. and my DB is in iraq too. PM me if you want to, we're on the same boat haha

[SerialShopper]

OMG That is like my biggest fear come true. I know EXACTLY what you mean, my db's parents keep saying "just turn to Him for help."

I can't even believe that they showed up and everyone was trashed. My db's parents always talk about how alcohol is the devil and his mother always says her father was an alcoholic so all people who consume alcohol are bad. It really makes me want to go grab a drink and a cigarette. If they even knew I had smoked a cigarette before ever in my life, they would be mortified. Watching your mouth is always fun, too! Trying not to let a **** or a **** slip out...it's hard work.

Have you ever thought about how awkward the wedding would be if both families came together? Like you have to have separate weddings for each family?