How do I help?

[mrdanows]

Me and my babe are dealing with 'our' first deployment (it's his second, but we weren't together at the time). He hates his current deployment, every time I talk to him he is just so unhappy. Now I know no one is every happy about a deployment, but even his mother has said something to me about how she's noticed that he's just upset all the time. How can I make things better? We're 8,000 miles apart, but there has to be something I can do. I send care packages all the time, and I send him an e mail every day. Just hearing him upset all the time is tearing me apart. Any suggestions?

[barefootedlove]

I have been dealing with a similar thing- DB is not happy on this deployment- I try really hard to just be as positive as I can for him when he's feeling down and when we talk I ask him how he's doing and if he wants to talk about it I talk to him and listen to him! I'm sorry-- I can't give the best advice- it's hard and I know it's different for everyone! I would just say be as patient as you can- ask him what you can do to help!

I'm sorry- just be patient! Try to do fun/silly things for him or be funny when you talk to him if you can! Try to tell him funny stories when you talk about your day and stuff back home!! Maybe he just needs a mental vaca from what he's going through!

good luck!

[Staystrong130708]

i know what you mean with your db not being happy. this time around my db has been so upset mainly due to things at home and missing me. i always try and say positive for him and if he wants to talk about it then i just let him talk no interuptions. I think this might be hard for him cause its his first time away with a girlfriend back home and when you go away with a girlfriend at home i think its a whole new thing.

[mrdanows]

Yeahh, he's still having a rough time with things, but I think they are starting to somewhat get better. I'm trying to be patient, I just feel so bad. When something happens that's funny during my day I try to make a mental note of it so I can tell him later on so he'll have something to laugh about. The thing is, is that he just found out that his parents might be getting a divorce, and I know that has really brought him down because his mother isn't doing too well with it. I send him care packages as much as I can, and we've been talking about how he's feeling a lot more than we were before. I know it's been helping, because tonight he said that this past week was probably the best week he's had in a really long time. Thanks so much for the advice girls, I'm feel better knowing I'm not alone!

By the way, is August here yet?! This deployment sucks, hahaha.