Whats wrong with me?? - Deployment Preparation

Lovingmymarine · 03-01-2007, 08:55 AM

My hubby is leaving in 2 weeks and its really not bothering me.. I love him and I will miss him but I am not upset about it. Is that wrong?? Or has it just not hit me yet?? This will be his 3rd time but my 2nd. WHATS WRONG WITH ME??

SIMMYBABEZ · 03-01-2007, 09:03 AM

Hmm i don't think its wrong. Perhaps it'll hit you when he first goes, or maybe it never will.

As long as you love him, it's not wrong.

I wish i could be cool calm and collected when it comes to deployments.

ImNoOliveOyl · 03-01-2007, 09:05 AM

Maybe your still in the denial phase... a lot of us go through that right before they leave. Like if it's still several weeks away, we don't have to think about it at the present moment.. kwim?

I'm sure there's nothing wrong with you. I've got some info to post about the emotional cycle of deployment, but it's long and I don't have a lot of time this morning. I'll try and post it this afternoon..

03-01-2007, 04:39 PM

There is nothing wrong with you. I was the same way, nothing really hit me until we were in the gym and I had to say bye. Everybody deals with it differently, so there is no need to worry.

cassie · 03-01-2007, 05:10 PM

nothings wrong with you! you just deal with things differently and that's totally OK!

don't worry!

peatys girl · 03-01-2007, 09:15 PM

I don't think there's anything wrong with you. This is our 4th deployment and it didn't bug me. I keep waiting for some feeling to hit me. Don't get me wrong- I love my DH and miss him every day. This is his job and I support him whole-heartedly. Everyone deals with situations differently.

AshleyJ · 03-01-2007, 10:04 PM

I was that way when my DH left, but when it hit me it hit hard... Idk why I acted the way I did, but man, I cried for days when I realized it... Hopefully it won't be that bad for you. But just keep faith and hope alive and all should be well...

navycorpsmanwife · 03-01-2007, 10:10 PM

I felt the same way before my DH deployed. I dont think it actually hit me until I got back home and he was not there. Even still, I really didnt get upset about it. I dont think there is anything abnormal or wrong about it.

NCSoldiersWife · 03-08-2007, 10:07 AM

I definitely don't think there's anything wrong with you... like a lot of the other girls said... I was completely fine up until the moment he had to leave, and then I was a complete wreck for a good week. If I even looked at a picture of him, heard a sad love-type song, watched a sappy movie... I was in tears and inconsolible..lol.. We all just handle things differently

aubrey · 03-08-2007, 10:13 AM

I was the same way until a couple of days b4 he left, then I broke down. I think I was still in denial.

03-01-2007, 08:55 AM	#1 (permalink)
Lovingmymarine Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Cherry Point NC Posts: 117 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 48%	Whats wrong with me?? My hubby is leaving in 2 weeks and its really not bothering me.. I love him and I will miss him but I am not upset about it. Is that wrong?? Or has it just not hit me yet?? This will be his 3rd time but my 2nd. WHATS WRONG WITH ME?? __________________

03-01-2007, 09:03 AM	#2 (permalink)
SIMMYBABEZ MIA for awhile... Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: ME = Gold Coast Dh = Sandpit from hell Posts: 17,878 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 58%	Hmm i don't think its wrong. Perhaps it'll hit you when he first goes, or maybe it never will. As long as you love him, it's not wrong. I wish i could be cool calm and collected when it comes to deployments. __________________ Blame your man, not Myspace!! © Simmy 2009. All rights reserved, copy it and you die. Bite me! PLEASE! I want to be a vampire

03-01-2007, 09:05 AM	#3 (permalink)
ImNoOliveOyl He's my popeye, but I'mnoOliveOyl! Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 33,662 Classifieds: (2) Activity: 0% Longevity: 62%	Maybe your still in the denial phase... a lot of us go through that right before they leave. Like if it's still several weeks away, we don't have to think about it at the present moment.. kwim? I'm sure there's nothing wrong with you. I've got some info to post about the emotional cycle of deployment, but it's long and I don't have a lot of time this morning. I'll try and post it this afternoon.. __________________ Well, I'm what I am and I'm what I'm not and I'm sure happy with what I’ve got I live to love and laugh alot and that’s all I need

03-01-2007, 05:10 PM	#5 (permalink)
cassie Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Fort Worth, TX Posts: 2,153 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 48%	nothings wrong with you! you just deal with things differently and that's totally OK! don't worry! __________________

03-01-2007, 09:15 PM	#6 (permalink)
peatys girl Sure I can! I think I have a spare 30 secs somewhere. Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Southern California Posts: 1,596 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 13% Longevity: 47%	I don't think there's anything wrong with you. This is our 4th deployment and it didn't bug me. I keep waiting for some feeling to hit me. Don't get me wrong- I love my DH and miss him every day. This is his job and I support him whole-heartedly. Everyone deals with situations differently. __________________ Custom Siggie by Brentscrystal!

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03-01-2007, 04:39 PM	#4 (permalink)
michellelacapra Guest Posts: n/a Activity: 0% Longevity: 0%	There is nothing wrong with you. I was the same way, nothing really hit me until we were in the gym and I had to say bye. Everybody deals with it differently, so there is no need to worry.

03-01-2007, 10:04 PM	#7 (permalink)
AshleyJ Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Ft Carson/Colorado Springs, CO Posts: 4,385 Blog Entries: 1 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 51%	I was that way when my DH left, but when it hit me it hit hard... Idk why I acted the way I did, but man, I cried for days when I realized it... Hopefully it won't be that bad for you. But just keep faith and hope alive and all should be well... __________________

03-01-2007, 10:10 PM	#8 (permalink)
navycorpsmanwife Senior Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 900 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 57%	I felt the same way before my DH deployed. I dont think it actually hit me until I got back home and he was not there. Even still, I really didnt get upset about it. I dont think there is anything abnormal or wrong about it. __________________ Courtesy of Brentscrystal

03-08-2007, 10:07 AM	#9 (permalink)
NCSoldiersWife Senior Member Join Date: May 2006 Location: Fort Bliss, TX Posts: 331 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 2% Longevity: 59%	I definitely don't think there's anything wrong with you... like a lot of the other girls said... I was completely fine up until the moment he had to leave, and then I was a complete wreck for a good week. If I even looked at a picture of him, heard a sad love-type song, watched a sappy movie... I was in tears and inconsolible..lol.. We all just handle things differently __________________

03-08-2007, 10:13 AM	#10 (permalink)
aubrey MilitarySOS Jewel Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Me: SoCal, Him: Afghanistan Posts: 4,382 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 1% Longevity: 46%	I was the same way until a couple of days b4 he left, then I broke down. I think I was still in denial. __________________ Aubrey RIP Jeremy 3/17/78 - 1/16/09