I don't even know what to think - Deployment Preparation

armygf707 · 09-30-2009, 01:47 PM

Ok so I just moved to Atlanta from cali for college and I'm all alone except for my bf at Benning and he is getting ready to deploy really REALLY soon. We have been together a year and a half and I've seen basic and AIT already, but Iraq is completely different. Does any one have any advice for me? I'm afraid that once he leaves I'm going to be completely alone out here and my friends don't understand what we go through as military significant others at all. I just keep thinking about all of the things we won't get to do together and how my weekends are going to be completely free soon. I would greatly appreciate any words of wisdom.

redhead_navygf · 09-30-2009, 01:57 PM

It's 100% do-able.

I moved across the state for my DF. I just lucked out that my school is in the area. I had no friends, no job, and maybe 1 distant family member. I wasn't that close to DF's parents either. I was essentially stranded. I managed to find a job, make friends at school and make IRL friends through MSOS G2Gs. Life is so much better with just a tiny amount of effort.

MSOS helps alot when it comes to people who understand what you are going thru and great source of advice. The deployment itself isn't that bad, but you MUST keep busy. If you have school work, great. If you have a job, even better. Find time to do things by yourself that you enjoy. Plan out care packages to pass the time and show him you are thinking about him. You WILL meet people at school and in the area that you can be comfortable with hanging out.

Although you believe your friends won't understand what it means to be a military SO, they can still understand that you need them more than ever. Missing a person is missing a person, whether military or not. If they are good friends, they'll support you while he's deployed. He'll be home before you know it. Hang in there.

BJo · 09-30-2009, 01:58 PM

Do you know any of the wives in his unit? Perhaps they can involve you in some of the activities.

drobisbaby08 · 09-30-2009, 02:02 PM

Find ways to fill your time!!! Get a schedule that will help you bounce back. It is hard to pick up and keep going when your SO leaves, but you can do it!! You've already made it through basic and AIT so, you can do this!!!! Find a workout program, get out and sightsee and take pictures to send your SO so he can see what you're up to, start a hobby, keep plugged into this site, volunteer somehwere, and look for new friends to help keep your time occupied.

09-30-2009, 01:47 PM	#1 (permalink)
armygf707 He's my Incredible Hulk Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: I'm in Atlanta, He's in Iraq Posts: 597 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 60% Longevity: 2%	I don't even know what to think Ok so I just moved to Atlanta from cali for college and I'm all alone except for my bf at Benning and he is getting ready to deploy really REALLY soon. We have been together a year and a half and I've seen basic and AIT already, but Iraq is completely different. Does any one have any advice for me? I'm afraid that once he leaves I'm going to be completely alone out here and my friends don't understand what we go through as military significant others at all. I just keep thinking about all of the things we won't get to do together and how my weekends are going to be completely free soon. I would greatly appreciate any words of wisdom.

09-30-2009, 01:57 PM	#2 (permalink)
redhead_navygf His arms feel like home... Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Officially Norfolk, VA! Posts: 4,145 Classifieds: (1) Activity: 80% Longevity: 8%	It's 100% do-able. I moved across the state for my DF. I just lucked out that my school is in the area. I had no friends, no job, and maybe 1 distant family member. I wasn't that close to DF's parents either. I was essentially stranded. I managed to find a job, make friends at school and make IRL friends through MSOS G2Gs. Life is so much better with just a tiny amount of effort. MSOS helps alot when it comes to people who understand what you are going thru and great source of advice. The deployment itself isn't that bad, but you MUST keep busy. If you have school work, great. If you have a job, even better. Find time to do things by yourself that you enjoy. Plan out care packages to pass the time and show him you are thinking about him. You WILL meet people at school and in the area that you can be comfortable with hanging out. Although you believe your friends won't understand what it means to be a military SO, they can still understand that you need them more than ever. Missing a person is missing a person, whether military or not. If they are good friends, they'll support you while he's deployed. He'll be home before you know it. Hang in there. __________________ My MSOS wifey BabySealEyes904 My Fall '09 Homecoming wifeys: Rei, KaylaH, His_Girl, louisa85, blinkybear, OneIllWife, lildixiemiss, ashley, lovemyjarhead and sapphiremommy

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09-30-2009, 01:58 PM	#3 (permalink)
BJo Account Closed Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Your mom Posts: 25,363 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 13% Longevity: 39%	Do you know any of the wives in his unit? Perhaps they can involve you in some of the activities.

09-30-2009, 02:02 PM	#4 (permalink)
drobisbaby08 loving life in Germany!!! Join Date: May 2008 Location: Wiesbaden, Germany Posts: 1,027 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 29% Longevity: 25%	Find ways to fill your time!!! Get a schedule that will help you bounce back. It is hard to pick up and keep going when your SO leaves, but you can do it!! You've already made it through basic and AIT so, you can do this!!!! Find a workout program, get out and sightsee and take pictures to send your SO so he can see what you're up to, start a hobby, keep plugged into this site, volunteer somehwere, and look for new friends to help keep your time occupied.