2nd Deployment - Deployment Preparation

HisRoo · 09-14-2009, 09:54 AM

Hi everyone well DH just got news that he is deploying again. Its his second tour. Well my question is. ( We currently live on post) What do you ladies think about going home while your man is deplyed. Good choice? bad choice? and advice?

Im seriously thinking about it but i dont know if it worth storing all are stuff and giving up our post housing.

Plus being out of the loop with the other wives.

Any input?

Thanks!

BJo · 09-14-2009, 10:47 AM

I have never moved home but I think it is a personal preference and one in which you and your husband need to do what is best for you and your family.

*MarineBug* · 09-14-2009, 10:50 AM

I have moved home both times DH has deployed. Although it will be the last time I do this it was definitely the right choice for us both times. This time around we have saved over $10,000.00 because of it and have a nice little nest egg to rest on. Its definitely a personal choice. We have never lived on base and as long as we are at Pendleton never will. Neither of us have any interest in it. I know that the housing weight list can be long so that may be differing your feelings. Good Luck

Brittany Rashel · 09-14-2009, 11:01 AM

I would have to save money but I have DS. I don't want him to get used to living with his grandparents and seeing them everyday. It would be too hard for him to come back home after that. Not to mention I think it would be bad in the fact that DS might be upset about leaving my parents when DH gets home and then it would ruin homecoming.

If it was just me then I would definitely have moved back home.

carmel11725 · 09-14-2009, 11:19 AM

I moved home this time, but only because I dont have any kids, didnt like where we were stationed(too far away from everything and too $$ to fly home whenever i wanted).

If we were stationed somewhere CONUS, Id stay put.

Its a personal choice and like Bjo said, talk it over with your DH...weigh out the pros and cons.

jttigerbaby · 09-14-2009, 11:20 AM

I dont move home, but my kids are older and in middle school. I know alot of people who did though. I also dont want to deal with a few thousand families moving back all at once and waiting on housing again.

blueyes330 · 09-14-2009, 01:56 PM

DB and I didn't live together during the last deployment, but I stayed where I was. About halfway through, I lost my job and did end up moving home. Since that deployment, we have PCS'd. He's leaving again soon.. and I'm staying put.

Like the other ladies said, it's really a personal decision. Whether or not you feel comfortable where you are and if you have a good support system. Are you currently working? If so, would you be able to find another job when he gets back? I think the length of the deployment is also a factor. Talk to your DH and see what works best for the both of you!

New2This · 09-14-2009, 02:03 PM

DB is deploying soon. I am not moving home but I live in my home town so it's a little different. Early on we discussed if we were ever married and he deployed what I would do. I don't think I would move home but it's hard to say and most likely would depend on where we were. The hurdle for me is I can make a ton of money at home. So, like Bjo said if the time ever came we would have to sit down and discuss the pros and cons of what is best for us. Like everyone else mentioned it's a personal choice and only you and DH can decide what is best.

ForeverYours · 09-14-2009, 02:07 PM

I also think its a personal preference. I know in my case my hubby is deployed and I was not about to give up my housing just to have to come back here and try to find or get housing again. Not to mention sometimes I have extremely emotional days and dont feel like being around other people.

only4deshawn · 09-14-2009, 06:33 PM

also depends how good you get along with your family I wouldn't lol I would stay on post with the other wives.

09-14-2009, 09:54 AM	#1 (permalink)
HisRoo Junior Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Ft. Carson, Colorado Posts: 23 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 4%	2nd Deployment Hi everyone well DH just got news that he is deploying again. Its his second tour. Well my question is. ( We currently live on post) What do you ladies think about going home while your man is deplyed. Good choice? bad choice? and advice? Im seriously thinking about it but i dont know if it worth storing all are stuff and giving up our post housing. Plus being out of the loop with the other wives. Any input? Thanks!

09-14-2009, 10:50 AM	#3 (permalink)
MarineBug KYLEY Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Me:SoCal DH:Afghanistan Stationed:Camp Pendleton Posts: 16,106 Blog Entries: 2 Classifieds: (12) Activity: 50% Longevity: 34%	I have moved home both times DH has deployed. Although it will be the last time I do this it was definitely the right choice for us both times. This time around we have saved over $10,000.00 because of it and have a nice little nest egg to rest on. Its definitely a personal choice. We have never lived on base and as long as we are at Pendleton never will. Neither of us have any interest in it. I know that the housing weight list can be long so that may be differing your feelings. Good Luck __________________ 7 MONTHS 8 DAYS Since Bubba Went to Afghanistan If you are looking for Custom Bows to match your little ones outfit for any holiday please PM me! Order custom holiday bows now and receive FREE SHIPPING!

09-14-2009, 11:01 AM	#4 (permalink)
Brittany Rashel Surviving deployment #2 Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Me: Ft Bliss, TX / Him: Iraq Posts: 9,154 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 62% Longevity: 38%	I would have to save money but I have DS. I don't want him to get used to living with his grandparents and seeing them everyday. It would be too hard for him to come back home after that. Not to mention I think it would be bad in the fact that DS might be upset about leaving my parents when DH gets home and then it would ruin homecoming. If it was just me then I would definitely have moved back home. __________________

09-14-2009, 11:19 AM	#5 (permalink)
carmel11725 Senior Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: MCBH. Currently, Clearwater, Fl Posts: 7,027 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 80% Longevity: 39%	I moved home this time, but only because I dont have any kids, didnt like where we were stationed(too far away from everything and too $$ to fly home whenever i wanted). If we were stationed somewhere CONUS, Id stay put. Its a personal choice and like Bjo said, talk it over with your DH...weigh out the pros and cons. __________________ My voice a beacon in the night My words will be your light To carry you to me enduring deployment#4

09-14-2009, 11:20 AM	#6 (permalink)
jttigerbaby Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Fort Hood TX Posts: 627 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 47% Longevity: 4%	I dont move home, but my kids are older and in middle school. I know alot of people who did though. I also dont want to deal with a few thousand families moving back all at once and waiting on housing again. __________________

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09-14-2009, 10:47 AM	#2 (permalink)
BJo Account Closed Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Your mom Posts: 25,363 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 13% Longevity: 39%	I have never moved home but I think it is a personal preference and one in which you and your husband need to do what is best for you and your family.

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blueyes330 Heather Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Savannah, GA Posts: 54 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 9% Longevity: 4%	DB and I didn't live together during the last deployment, but I stayed where I was. About halfway through, I lost my job and did end up moving home. Since that deployment, we have PCS'd. He's leaving again soon.. and I'm staying put. Like the other ladies said, it's really a personal decision. Whether or not you feel comfortable where you are and if you have a good support system. Are you currently working? If so, would you be able to find another job when he gets back? I think the length of the deployment is also a factor. Talk to your DH and see what works best for the both of you! __________________ "You're always in my heart, you're always on my mind, when it all becomes too much, you're never far behind. And there's no one that comes close to you, could ever take your place, cause only you can love me this way" Keith Urban

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New2This MilitarySOS Jewel Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Anchorage, AK Posts: 1,362 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 19% Longevity: 10%	DB is deploying soon. I am not moving home but I live in my home town so it's a little different. Early on we discussed if we were ever married and he deployed what I would do. I don't think I would move home but it's hard to say and most likely would depend on where we were. The hurdle for me is I can make a ton of money at home. So, like Bjo said if the time ever came we would have to sit down and discuss the pros and cons of what is best for us. Like everyone else mentioned it's a personal choice and only you and DH can decide what is best. __________________

09-14-2009, 02:07 PM	#9 (permalink)
ForeverYours Formerly Soldierswifey25 Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Schofield Barracks Hawaii Posts: 2,837 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 37% Longevity: 47%	I also think its a personal preference. I know in my case my hubby is deployed and I was not about to give up my housing just to have to come back here and try to find or get housing again. Not to mention sometimes I have extremely emotional days and dont feel like being around other people.

09-14-2009, 06:33 PM	#10 (permalink)
only4deshawn We Are Meant To Be Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: I'm in Jerzy he's in some desert. Posts: 266 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 4%	also depends how good you get along with your family I wouldn't lol I would stay on post with the other wives.