I Can't Stop thinking about it

[MaryHamm01]

I'm having a really hard time with thinking about the fact that my DF may not come back from Iraq once he deploys. How do you cope with this? How do I stop thinking like this? Its terrible, he IS going to come home, he IS. But still, I havent, but in a sense I feel like I've resigned myself to a believe that he's not. its disgusting. what do I do? Its tearing me up.

[MissAshley214]

I'm so sorry

It's so normal to have those feelings. It's a very scary thing to have a loved one go over there but you just have to have faith that he WILL make it back home to you. It helps me to remind myself that he is very well trained and he is very good at what he does. It'll be ok <3

[carmel11725]

Talk to your SO about it...get some reasssurance from him. If he's not worried, there's no reason for you to be either.

[carmel11725]

Also, worrying only hinders your sanity. Its so much easier and beneficial to just have faith and go through out the deployment not living in fear.

[jttigerbaby]

If you think about it you will go crazy. People die every day in car accidents or crossing the street, but people dont sit around thinking about that all the time. I cant do anything about it, I have just learned to not worry about things I have no control over.

[HOOAHwifey]

i'm sorry you are having such a rough time!! i felt that way for my hubby's first deployment and i agree that talking to him will def help you bc for some reason when it comes from him it might sound more believable than when you say it to yourself. have faith that he knows how to defend himself and that the other soldiers going with him know how to also. you'll be ok!!

[Evie]

I drove myself nuts with stuff like months before he deployed. I told DF that he HAD to come back otherwise I didn't know what I'd do, I worried, I cried, I worried more. DF and I talked about it. He promised me that he'd come back. He made a deal and we shook on it which I'm sure sounds strange but it's kind of conforting. Now that he's gone, I haven't really thought about it. I can't spend all my time doing that, kwim? He's a pilot so he's flying...just like he does when he's here, just like he has for 7 years.

[brianswifey]

I think thats a normal feeling at first. I know i've had my moments and my days where I think of all of the what ifs but the truth is with a deployment you just have to take it one day at a time as hard as that may be

[bubbaswife]

It takes a while to get over that type of thinking, but you just have to make plans for when he comes home.

[Marines*Princess]

You do you're absolute best not to think like that. Just stay positive