this sucks. - Deployment Preparation

almostdavis61207 · 06-22-2008, 05:52 PM

DF and I are about to go through our first deployment. He just seems so out of it. He is forgetting things I've said and when we talk it feels like neither one of us has something to say. I don't know exactly when or where he is going, its opsec. All the sudden I have become so emotional about everything, and I don't want to go through this. I feel silly because I know some of you ladies have been through lots of these... I'm just new at it. I know God will protect him and that He will comfort me during the time DF is gone, but it is hard. I cry just thinking about it. We are already separated (He's stationed in GA and I'm going to school in OK)... but for some reason it is harder knowing he'll be in combat and not just a won't be a call away.

I have been working 40 to 50 hours a week to keep myself busy... what helps you when your SO is gone?

(not asking for pity by any means, just any advice)

tania79 · 06-22-2008, 05:58 PM

It is not pity sweety, deployments are very hard.Keep yourself busy and if you need to cry for couple of days just do it, the first week is the hardest and then you will get used to it once you are in your routine.Just spend some special time together before he leaves.

~~BJo~~ · 06-22-2008, 06:45 PM

The first deployment is the worst. But your DF is a ranger and his deployments are so short compared. It goes by faster than you think, I promise. Stay busy.

Blessed Ohana · 06-22-2008, 08:29 PM

the first one is the hardest, in my opinion. we're all here for you though!

kiwimumoftwo · 06-23-2008, 03:15 AM

Keep busy - sounds like you're doing that at work anyway. If it helps I don't know when my boyfriend deploys or where he deploys to either - in fact he can't even communicate with me, often for months at a time! I'll PM you!

06-22-2008, 05:52 PM	#1 (permalink)
almostdavis61207 Senior Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: me- Tulsa, OK him- Ft. Benning, GA Posts: 468 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 44%	this sucks. DF and I are about to go through our first deployment. He just seems so out of it. He is forgetting things I've said and when we talk it feels like neither one of us has something to say. I don't know exactly when or where he is going, its opsec. All the sudden I have become so emotional about everything, and I don't want to go through this. I feel silly because I know some of you ladies have been through lots of these... I'm just new at it. I know God will protect him and that He will comfort me during the time DF is gone, but it is hard. I cry just thinking about it. We are already separated (He's stationed in GA and I'm going to school in OK)... but for some reason it is harder knowing he'll be in combat and not just a won't be a call away. I have been working 40 to 50 hours a week to keep myself busy... what helps you when your SO is gone? (not asking for pity by any means, just any advice) __________________

06-23-2008, 03:15 AM	#5 (permalink)
kiwimumoftwo Senior Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: New Zealand Posts: 1,083 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 29%	Keep busy - sounds like you're doing that at work anyway. If it helps I don't know when my boyfriend deploys or where he deploys to either - in fact he can't even communicate with me, often for months at a time! I'll PM you! __________________ "For I know the plans I have for you says the Lord. They are plans for good and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope". Jeremiah 29:11

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06-22-2008, 05:58 PM	#2 (permalink)
tania79 He said:"I see a beautiful angel and feel perfection!" Join Date: May 2008 Location: Me:The Arctic Desert Him:In hell(Iraq) Posts: 968 Blog Entries: 4 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 32% Longevity: 29%	It is not pity sweety, deployments are very hard.Keep yourself busy and if you need to cry for couple of days just do it, the first week is the hardest and then you will get used to it once you are in your routine.Just spend some special time together before he leaves.

06-22-2008, 06:45 PM	#3 (permalink)
~~BJo~~ Banned Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Your mom Posts: 25,358 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 43%	The first deployment is the worst. But your DF is a ranger and his deployments are so short compared. It goes by faster than you think, I promise. Stay busy.

06-22-2008, 08:29 PM	#4 (permalink)
Blessed Ohana Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 12,369 Classifieds: (1) Activity: 10% Longevity: 32%	the first one is the hardest, in my opinion. we're all here for you though!