Advice: do i stay here or go home?...

[Jesseeyka]

dh is deploying next month and we JUST moved up here to Washington...as in we moved into our apartment a week ago. We're leaving for Houston for Christmas tomorrow and coming back in the beginning of January. We'll be here for about two weeks before he leaves. I assumed I would just go back home to Houston when he got deployed. Some idiot at his brigade tried to tell him that if I left the apartment, he would no longer get his BAH. It says otherwise on all the paperwork he brought home, but it'll still be a big pain in the ass to put all our stuff back in storage and still lose 2 months rent and the apartment, so that we'll have to go aparment hunting all over again as soon as he gets back. apparently, the army thinks i should stay here and join FRG and get a job and blah blah blah. i don't know anyone here. we just got here. i dont have a job yet. i'm a slow friend maker. i hate cold. i hate rain. it's the middle of winter and rains all the damn time! i've never lived by myself before. i dont want to. i don't like being alone for even one night. if dh has to go somewhere overnight, or a few days, or a week or whatever with the army, i make someone come stay with me so i dont have to sleep alone. on the other hand, i don't like staying at my parents' without dh for long periods of time, and that's what i would be doing to save money. but at least i wouldn't be alone, and i would have my family there to support me emotionally.

should i just suck it up and stay here by myself to avoid the hassle of moving stuff all over again, having to look for another apartment, and because the army wants me to?? we had both been planning that i'd go home when he got deployed, and now they've convinced dh that it would be better if i stay here. what do you think i should do?

sorry it's so long. thanks for your help in advance guys!

[*MarineBug*]

I moved back home and I am so thankful that I did! We also put all of our stuff in storage...You will still recieve your BAH and when you get out of your lease you dont pay anything except the finishing of that months rent. Its called the sldier sailor act and it says that when showing orders they must let you out of your lease free of charge you just have to show orders and give them a 30 days notice. Although it was a pain in the butt to put all of our things in storage I am like I said glad I moved home. My parents support me alot and I know if I would have stayed in our apartment I would have been really lonely! Plus its a great way to save money...good luck

[timshel]

If you can handle living with your family for that long, and you don't like being alone, I say go for it. I wish my mom and I got along better, I'd so move home right now and save money off of BAH.

[Jesseeyka]

Thanks. That's what I've been leaning towards, dh just made me question my decision and got me all confused! and I need to decide like...right now.

[timshel]

I hate it when DH makes me make a decision on the spot. I never know what to pick, and then after I'm like it should have been the other one!

Good luck though, on whichever you choose.

[Jesseeyka]

yeah, exactly!

Thanks!

[Proud_MPWIFE]

From your post, it defintly sounds your leaning towards moving back and I think that is a great idea and think of all the money you could save off BAH, it would be so worth it!

I agree, you can get out of your lease, just show orders.
Good luck in your decision. I know what its like to be alone and not near family or even friends.. I wouldnt wish it on my worst enemy.

[360Sweetie]

If you really dont think you can make it the 5 or 6 months alone then move back home but do whats right for you. I probably would stay instead of going home though.You are going to have to learn how to stay alone sooner or later since thats what happens in the army way of life.

[nutmagc]

My DH was deployed 4mons. and I stayed at our house for half the time and then went home for half the time. Being here by myself gave me a sense of strength, but it was nice being home too though.

[missybee77]

i have been trying to think about what to do on this too. we just moved here from oregon, and it is so expensive to move. the idea of putting stuff in storage appeals to me, but with two kids it gets complicated. and for me, living with family isnt an option. best of luck to you on your decision.