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    HAH. Now it's official, we were meant to beeee!!!

    How is your night? I was talking to Sean earlier today and he was being a total killer of joy. He would drop things into the chat that are totally worthy and then be like, "don't make such a big deal about it!" I'm sorry, I can't help it that I'm easily excitable! The military hasn't squashed all hope out of me like it has him. Yet. Whatever.

    I also ate altogether too much tortellini for dinner and I don't regret a single bite. How's things up north?
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    My night is crazy! I had a really good counseling session and then came home to getting a dvd in the mail. It was a documentary about someone I sort of new online who has the same disease as me. SO I spent the night crying but in a totally good way, it was like.....she wasn't gone anymore, she was up walking around, experiencing the same weird problems I have Everyone else thinks it's sad but it isn't!

    oh em gee. I told dh to knock off the baseless updates about homecoming. Tell me when your civilian flight is booked, please and thank you. But for excitement even if it is annoying


    And about your survey.....I love across the universe, I own it! I tried showing it to Dh and he got mad that it was anti war , he's not even a hoo-rah kind of guy, I was surprised and disgruntled by his reaction.
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    Hey!

    Sounds like a good kind of cry! I'm glad you were able to find the joy in it!

    So I am with you on the silly updates! DB told me today that we aren't going to be able to Skype from here on out. On one hand, that's really exciting because it means it's really close! But...I won't see him now until he gets back. And I thought we had a few more Skype sessions left and it just caught me by surprise. But I really need to see the positive in it! I just..like routine! The army giveth, the army taketh away. So my weekend is looking a little more lonely. But I think I'm going to be able to make some plans during that time so that I don't sit around and wallow. And I just need to think of it as a good thing! Haha, the more I say that maybe the more I'll believe it.

    I LOVE across the universe. It's my go to movie for anything. I lost my copy though, I was having a down day a few weeks ago and couldn't find it. Maybe I'll order another one. I showed it to Sean and he didn't not like it, he just did not understand it at all I don't think it was necessarily anti-war, it's just a period piece of the climate at the time. My dad and I love watching it together because he says they captured it so perfectly, that that's exactly how it felt to be in that time experiencing that stuff. So we share that. Plus we both love the Beatles!

    How was your day? How's the boy doing?
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    no more skyping?

    That is awesome though! I am jealous...I'm getting super tired of waiting. Because the middle of deployment is ....waiting but it's just waiting for time to move forward, you know that you have to get through June and July and etc... Now, I'm waiting for specific events to start happening that would signify him actually getting ready to leave. He's still in the daily grind and I feel like . There's not really anyway to predict how long or fast things will take when things do start happening, because it's just him, not some big group.....it's starting to frustrate me. I know I should just remain relaxed until those things start in motion but the longer it doesn't happen the more convinced I get that I'll be a January homecoming

    I watched it a few weeks ago, and when they showed the Detroit riot scene, I was like "Oh my gosh, I have never asked my parents about the riots!" I called them up, I was like "Dad tell me everything!" and he said "Which one? The 1940s or the 1960s?" And I was all ohhh yeaaaa you were around for both

    Today's alright. I'm grumpy, I'm taking antibiotics for a lung and sinus infection, and I just don't feel like I'm getting better so I need to call my doctor but I don't want to because it will probably mean doing IV's for two weeks and that sounds like about as much fun as sitting on a bunch of fireants <----this is my new favorite smiley

    The boy is good. He's really concerned about the Syria thing, and lots of other stuff, but he's made friends with a firefighter and they keep each other company at the welding shop.

    Le sighhhhhh. I got shit to figure out today. How are you doing? How's the job stress/happiness level?
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    I am officially FREAKING OUT. So there's that.

    I am not good with change, and spur of the moment, and figuring things out on the fly, and that is what my life is about to turn into pretty soon here! So please, wish me luck, and remind me not to be a psycho. I'm kinda glad for limited comms right now because it gives me a chance to restrain the crazy. I just, I don't know. My dad was talking to me about it tonight, and he said, "from everything I know about you, you are a person who really likes to know the rules and the right way to act in a situation and to be prepared. You're about to be thrown into a completely new situation, and that's scary and won't be pain free. But even if you don't know all the things to do right now, you have what it takes to figure it out and put the pieces together. And you've got a great guy and you both know how to make it work." So that was really sweet and calmed me down a lot. His mom said there is like a "honeymoon" period after they get back, and that he might struggle when the real routine starts up again. But she also handles things a lot differently than me. She's given me a lot of good advice so far, but she's also given me some that doesn't cover what I need. I love her so much and I am eternally grateful for her support, but DB and I are different than her and her husband, and we will figure it out for us.

    Enough of the serious, my man is coming home soon!!! And he's totally stoked to see me!

    I totally can feel how you're feeling right now. I feel like this month was just sprung on me so I kinda got to cheat on the waiting for the end thing. I applaud your strength and patience!! You are doing an awesome job, really, and it will all pay off soon! I'm sending December vibes your way!

    I'm sorry you're feeling grumpypants! I was that way over Thanksgiving, and it was not cute. Buuuuut I didn't have to do IV's. You should probably call though, so your DH doesn't get all protecto hulk on you

    I love that he's made a friend! That's so great! Do they do bonding things? Sean made a friend over there and they did no shave November together. It was awful and it better not happen again! I wouldn't mind if the man could actually grow some facial hair!

    Did you figgur out your ish? And the job stress/happiness level has significantly increased because I reached out to several people (after I swallowed my pride, which hurt) and I'm really enjoying myself again!

    ETA: What do you think I should do about the DD motivator position????
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    Well, I think your dad is totally right. It can be really scary not knowing what's happening. I never thought of myself as controlling or a planner really, I was pretty flexible go with the flow type but when it came to the military, I wanted (and still want) to know every scenario, every guideline, every worst possible event, every "what is supposed to happen so I know when and how it deviates from protocol". I ask DH endless questions and he can become infuriated because I want to know the what-if's and prepare myself for them and he wants to assume we live in fairy glitter land until shit hits the fan. That was a big struggle for us at one time, and we have worked it out. So even though that's kind of tangent, I guess I just agree, you're aware of your preferences/needs and that will help you a lot to handle when that doesn't happen, and whatever happens, it will be okay and you and DB will be able to work together to figure out how to handle situations.

    I'm still grumpy! ugh. Right now I need to probably do IVs, which I don't want (I'm calling tomorrow ), I also need to get the ball rolling to find a new ENT doc so I can let them know I need to have sinus surgery again, AND I need to call my endo and let them know that I want to start the process of getting an insulin pump. It never ends! I mean I know that probably makes me sound like a hot mess of a person, but that's part of the frustrating thing is that, I have to do all that to manage my health, but in the end I look like a normal, healthy 25 year old and no one even knows anything is wrong and I can climb mountains and do whatever I want. Don't get me wrong, I'd rather be able bodied than stuck in bed, but it's just so much work staying healthy. Whoa rant! Sorry. I think I've been stewing about that for a while

    I think they did the mustache thing together! It was hilarious though because DH is blonde.....and he sent me a picture on thanksgiving and he looked normal and I thought "Oh thank god he didn't do the weird mustache thing" and then on the 30th he said "I'm glad tomorrow is December so I can shave my mustache off" I was like.....ummmmmm......I couldn't even see it in the picture it was so light

    Well, you could always ask for nominations/volunteers for a new DD if you don't want to have that on your plate when he gets home. I think I would be too distracted and maybe for get a Wednesday or something after DH got home. I think there'd be enough time to get a new one together

    I'm so excited for you! I know reintegration is scary, but it's also fabulous and wonderful to be able to put a deployment chapter behind you and start a new chapter as a couple who has a new found strength from surviving and supporting each other through something like that. I was just talking to my counselor this week about it (she's on base so she is military specific) and it was good talking to her about the fears, and everything. For DH and I, we're at the 4.5 years of knowing/dating, and 3.5 years of marriage, and this time apart has given me some clarity to look at our outstanding issues, that I know didn't magically disappear because of deployment. I think keeping in mind that homecoming is a fabulous, wonderful exciting thing that should be cherished and enjoyed, but also having the realistic expectation that however fast or quickly, you will be back in a "normal" relationship function where issues arise and need to be addressed dealt with.

    I'm losing my train of thought but I am so excited for you! and it's really nice being in almost the same stage of the deployment, when I was in the beginning/middle I did not understand the end game emotions at all
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    Whoa apparently I was feeling wordy tonight!
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    Good thing I like wordy!

    I've calmed down significantly from the other night, which is good! I think it's because DB called me yesterday morning, and even though we didn't talk for very long or about anything really, hearing how excited he was was really reassuring. He does the same thing, gets really frustrated with me when I ask too many questions. So I have to sneak them in, or say, "don't get mad at me for asking, and just tell me if you can't answer, but..." It really only bothers me because I feel like he sometimes does it because he thinks I'll either blow it out of proportion, or that I can't handle it. I get so much more information when I'm around his family. We did have one significant convo about it before he left. We went to Georgia for his Grandpa's wedding, and the new cousins were asking him all these questions about his job and the army and stuff and he was just answering them like it was NBD. I actually had to leave because I felt so stupid sitting there listening to him tell these people he just met stuff that I didn't know, and pretending that I did. He came back to the room later and I was pretty obvious how angry I was. We talked about it and he agreed that he shouldn't have done it, and that he was really sorry and that I was right, he should share that stuff with me. So it's not that he doesn't care or does it on purpose, I just think I'm such a different aspect of his life than he's had before that he's not sure sometimes how to handle me. We are each other's first and only serious relationship so it's a learning process for both of us. But I appreciate your advice and knowing that you've been there and worked through it.

    I'm sorry you're grumpy and struggling! I can't imagine how frustrating that must be. Rant away, that's what I'm here for! I would be totally pissed too. Not trying to compare myself to you, but I developed epilepsy when I was 23 and I was so annoyed that I have to take PILLS now to make sure I don't seize out in the middle of class or whatever, and I was really mad because it's not fair that I should have to maintain it, I should just be healthy and normal. But I'm really lucky in that it's easily controlled and regulated with pills. So again, not trying to compare! (in fact, I should probably take my pill while I'm thinking about it ) I give you so many and I bow to your patience and endurance! Now did you call the doctor????

    DB's mustache looked like what his mom called a porn-stache. Have I mentioned how much I love that woman BTW? I called it his pedo-stache. The man grows the creepiest facial hair, because he can't really grow anything of substance. His little buddy who was doing it with him is blonde too, and Sean said he would tell him, "stop, stop right there, the light is bouncing off it just perfectly! Let me take a picture! Oooh, if you look at it from the side and squint you can sort of see it in this one!" Whatever keeps them happy over there I guess!

    I think I'm gonna pass the DD motivator torch this week. I don't think I'll be as motivated to do it, and honestly I wouldn't be that excited to have someone being my "motivator" who already had their man home. I'd probably be pissed and whiny I think it will be best for all parties.

    I am starting to feel much more secure about reintigration. And like people told me, I can't worry about what happens right now because it'd be useless! DB and I have such great systems of communication set up, and from very early on in our relationship we worked on taking it deeper to strengthen us. I know there will be some pain and roughness, but it won't be anything close to breaking us. And it will be totally new and something we will learn about together. I can't wait to tell him, "Look how MFing awesome we are, we just survived deployment! Haters to the left!" I just can't believe we are going to have our men back soon! I have major butterflies, the good kind though! And I think my best friend is going to be able to drive me to homecoming, so she will be there to keep me sane and take pictures! Yaaaay!

    I am really glad that we had the same "phases" as well. It's so cool to know that you're not the only one, and the fact that you're crazy is not related to this! You're my deployment hero!

    Are you decorating for xmas this year? I can't remember if you're going anywhere? Probably not with the timing huh?
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    I'm glad your feeling better! I have had really similar experiences with DH. I never really asked him about his deployment to Iraq, because I didn't want to pry and I figured it either wasn't a big deal or it was a big deal and I shouldn't ask () but we'd be in social settings and he would start telling people stories I didn't know. Eventually we talked about it and he was like " I sat around for four months being a maintenance guy, I didn't think it was story worthy until someone asked". (<--that was his old career field so I knew nothing about it which didn't help).

    I called the doctor but he's on vacay so I can wait til Monday and go in for another appointment (not sure why I need one when I was just there a week and a half ago ) and get home IVs or I can go to the ER today and get admitted. Do.Not.Want. I'm feeling better about this morning, yesterday I was really mad. I think I'm going to wait until Monday so I can do the IV's at home, I don't feel like finding someone to watch my dogs for the weekend while I chill in the hospital.

    his mom sounds awesome!

    Yea I see your point about DD motivator, at certain phases of this deployment I couldn't even open the "He's home!" threads. I felt like a jealous bitch but I think those emotions come and go

    Yes that is a fabulous attitude to have! I am excited about that too! It's such an accomplishment, I have been telling myself to finish strong so I can claim badassery throughout the whole damn thing (short moments of down are normal, but if I spent a whole month or two feeling really down, that'd be kind of a bummer for me...I'm trying to word this in a non offensive way for any one in any circumstance .....moving on).

    DH is going to call soon and I have to tell him that I am not going to the hospital, it's all about the spin, I'm pretty sure he'll be alright with it
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