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    Always fixable?

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    I'm watching Dr.Phil (guilty pleasure ) and this episode is about a married couple that fight constantly; like daily. Their fights are horrible and the stuff they say to each other...

    Dr. Phil is convinced they can"fall back in love" and completely turn things around.

    Do you guys think that could happen? (Both have said they hate being married to each other. )



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    Yes... I believe they can.
    So long as they find the right help to guide them there.

    Obviously this wouldn't apply to cases of abuse, but generally for minor fights and the like I think things are fixable.

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    I like watching Dr. Phil too.

    That said, no I don't think every marriage is fixable. I guess it depends on the couple, maybe it is and maybe not, I don't know enough to say. More importantly I don't think every marriage even should be fixed. If someone (or both!) is miserable in a marriage but can force themselves to cope with it and tolerate their partner, that really isn't fair to either one of them ... it's better (imo) to have no marriage than a bad marriage.
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    Hmm, I don't know. I'd like to say yes. I think it's more than just fixing the marriage though, a lot of that has to do with fixing the individuals, too.
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    not every marriage is fixable, and if someone is on a tv show asking for help that relationship has a chance because they WANT it to.

    there are relationships that are just not fixable, and not just cases of abuse.
    and anytime one person does not want to fix it,,,, it won't be fixed.
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    I don't think all relationships are fixable - and I don't think that there should be an expectation that all relationships should be fixed, there is nothing wrong, imo, with not wanting to try to fix it
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    Quote Originally Posted by Tojai View Post
    I like watching Dr. Phil too.

    That said, no I don't think every marriage is fixable. I guess it depends on the couple, maybe it is and maybe not, I don't know enough to say. More importantly I don't think every marriage even should be fixed. If someone (or both!) is miserable in a marriage but can force themselves to cope with it and tolerate their partner, that really isn't fair to either one of them ... it's better (imo) to have no marriage than a bad marriage.
    I agree with this.
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    Quote Originally Posted by TrishAFSpouse View Post
    Yes... I believe they can.
    So long as they find the right help to guide them there.

    Obviously this wouldn't apply to cases of abuse, but generally for minor fights and the like I think things are fixable.
    I agree with this.

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    I think every marriage is fixable. That doesn't mean every marriage should be fixed. Sometimes the cost is higher than the value.
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    Quote Originally Posted by ZivaD View Post
    I don't think all relationships are fixable - and I don't think that there should be an expectation that all relationships should be fixed, there is nothing wrong, imo, with not wanting to try to fix it
    I agree SO much with the bolded. I really strongly agree with your whole post. I let myself be manipulated so much by people saying the opposite and I really regret that.
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