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    White Guilt

    Race: White Guilt - I Am Not the Babysitter

    It's a long read, but definitely worth reading. I agree wholeheartedly with the author. I've argued the same for quite some time, especially the part about "reverse racism."


    There is a way to acknowledge your own whiteness, and your whiteness’ complicity in systemic racism, and to challenge racism every single day, and avoid being someone who is one of those useless ‘White Guilt’ proponents. It’s hard. I’m not an expert, this is all entirely subjective and based upon my personal opinions, and I’d love for other people to chime in, but here’s my prescription for combating White Guilt and challenging racism:

    Accept that People of Color are not here on this planet to like you, forgive you, want to be friends with you and educate you. People of Color cannot hand you an award or a certificate stating that you’re not a racist, so don’t go looking for one. Challenging systemic racism is a task which is infinite and has no rewards, aside from annoying racists and, perhaps, losing a few privileges that being silent and complicit previously awarded you.

    Start looking at your white privilege and how your white skin has benefited you, and others, in life. Make a list. Be honest. If you went to a predominantly white college, perhaps your whiteness was advantageous in getting accepted. If you are an actress, think about how many parts you see on screen for women of color. If you are a writer, think about all the Pulitzer prize winners and take a quick poll of their race. Look at how many white men are in the Senate. Think about whether the police in this country are here to serve you, or to arrest you, and why.

    *Don’t let racist statements or behavior go unchallenged, ever. It may be uncomfortable for you to say to the person who is paying you a wage that the pictures of him in a Rasta wig for Halloween are distasteful and yes, racist, but do it. Stop relying on People of Color to call out racism. It’s not their job, they’re not perpetuating racism. We white people are.
    Acknowledge the difference between checking your white skin privilege (good!), using your white skin privilege to allow someone else opportunities that may have been denied them because of their lack of white skin privilege (good!), and treating someone differently, perhaps in a derogatory or dishonest manner, because of their race (bad). This is very hard to understand.

    Here’s an example: as a foul mouthed Brit, I called two girls “idiots” online and was scathingly rude to them. One I knew to be Latina, the other I actually thought was a white guy with a Jewish sounding name. Had I known they were both women of color, I would still have called them idiots and my opinion of them, which was pretty low, would not have changed. They responded, and called me racist, citing that because they were both women of color, I had no right to be rude to them. Now, a white male who agreed with my assessment of these women but was scared of being called racist, told these women that he agreed with them, while admitting privately that he thought my low opinion of them was correct. White male is exhibiting classic signs of White Guilt: a fear of engaging with POC in an honest way because racially charged terms were being used. His desire not to be seen as racist, even when his views were not colored by race, forced him to behave in an insincere way, a way he would not have behaved around white people. This segues nicely into:

    You’re White. You’re going to be called a Racist. You have Racism deep in your white soul and your job is to combat it as best you can. You’re going to exhibit some classic signs of White Privilege. It will never go away, certainly not in your lifetime. We are white. We are the dominant ‘race’. We have raped and pillaged and humiliated and oppressed people based on their skin color for centuries. We still benefit from what our ancestors stole today. Our racism is inevitable. Even if you have a black boyfriend / best friend / child / lover / neighbor, this does not take away your whiteness and what it’s given you, nor does it give you a free pass to not engage with racism. Call that shit out.

    *Reverse racism does not exist. Racism is prejudice against another person based on their skin color. While whites like to invoke the term ‘reverse racism’ and say programs such as affirmative action have served only to marginalize and disenfranchise the white race, there is absolutely no factual evidence to support this notion, and every evidence to the contrary: that systemic racism still privileges the white race and oppresses people of color. I read a blog called ‘Black Girl Dangerous’ which is specifically for amplifying and publishing the views of trans and queer people of color. They frequently ask white people not to comment and to respect the fact that their mission is to amplify the voices of trans and queer people of color. White people frequently do not listen and load this page with comments about how grateful they are that this site exists, how wonderful it’s been for them to listen and learn from queer POC, followed by a long explanation of what they think about a certain article, blah blah…. White people, shut up when asked. Your waffling is ‘White Guilt’ and in your efforts to be liked, you are actually taking up space that could have allowed a queer person of color a valuable platform. Oh, does it offend you that you’re being told to shut up by a queer woman of color? Does this make you think ‘reverse racism’? The fact you are being singled out is not ‘reverse racism’. It is simply an acknowledgment of your dominance and a suggestion that you step aside and allow someone else who is not widely represented in society to be heard instead. It is impossible for a white person to claim that they have been a victim of systemic discrimination of any kind, because the system works to favor white people. It is possible for white people to have been a victim of white guilt, both their own and other people’s. It’s happened to me multiple times. So what. At least I’m not getting shot by George Zimmerman over it. Small price to pay, dontcha think?

    *This sh*t ain’t easy. It’s painful and hard and humiliating, and it’s also a rat race. On the left, there is something called “Identity Politics” which means that the oppressed articulate their oppression in terms of their own experience as a form of consciousness raising. This can mean groups of people who identify by a specific issue – queer, trans, feminist, native american, black, asian – coming together to feel empowered, and by doing so, educating each other and a wider society. Or it can mean various groups and affiliations butting heads against each other and playing the oppression olympics, screaming ‘Racist! Sexist! Classist! Homophobe!’ instead of recognizing their shared struggle. When you, as a white person, commit to anti-racist work, you can often be drawn into the soul-sucking bog of identity politics. It’s actually, in all honesty, a lot easier to claim you ‘don’t see skin color’ or to simply give into the white guilt and write a check for Christian Aid every week than engage with a volatile set of politics which can be extremely emotional for people and result in a lot of anger and sadness and false starts and misunderstandings. But then nothing changes, and the world will keep turning, and our white kids will turn into white adults who ‘don’t see skin color’ and won’t comment on the death of an unarmed black teenager at the hands of a white male, a young girl banging on someone’s door in the middle of the night to ask for help. Our kids won’t say anything because they’re afraid of saying the wrong thing, annoying the wrong person. And their silence, like our silence, will be complicity, and our white guilt will dictate instead that we turn the TV off, and give that homeless black guy another dollar.
    Where is the public outcry for the murder of this young woman?
    Pax, Aeon
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    Reverse racism is such an irritating "term." And I just finished reading this from your FB. I also really hate the idea of "color-blind." It was a good read.

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