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    Is calling some one "son" the same as honey, sweetie, baby?

    I find both condescending but was curious how others feel about son (I know there have been numerous talks on the baby honey issue andnit lies mostly in where you're from/what you're used to). Obviously ( I hope...) I'm talking about saying this to someone who is not your actual son.
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    I think of all of those as terms of endearment But depending on tone of voice all can seem negative


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    I guess for me it would really depend on how it's said and in what context.

    I've personally only ever heard someone use "son" in a condescending way towards someone who is not their actual son, but I can think of a few instances/phrasings that it could just be a heartfelt gesture.

    As for honey, sweetie, baby....I use them all the time They're terms of endearment to me, so I wouldn't have necessarily lumped them together, but again, I could see in a few instances, where they could all be on the same wave length so to speak.


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    I think calling a man "son" can also imply that the person thinks the man is immature/green/lacking experience. I don't think it's usually intended to be demeaning, but I think it can be.
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    I've never heard anyone say "son" as a term of endearment. It always kinds of come off as patronizing and condescending to me.

    I think it's different than "baby" because I've also never heard someone say that in a way that is not affectionate. Like if some stranger called me "baby," I wouldn't think they were condescending, I would think they were weird and creepy and trying to hit on me.

    I think honey/sweetie/dear etc. are kind of different from son or baby, but for different reasons ...
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    I think it *can* be condescending if it's meant that way, same as honey, sweetie, etc. But I see it more as a term of endearment than anything else.
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    I typically hear it used in a condescending manner, just like sweetheart, honey, etc. Well, at least *I* only use those last two in a condescending manner. I don't like terms like that in general though. Even when they aren't intended to be taken as rude I think they often come across that way.
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    i always say "dammnnn son" to my husband. i dont think its condescending


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    Quote Originally Posted by Miriah View Post
    i always say "dammnnn son" to my husband. i dont think its condescending
    That's about the only way I've used it/heard it used. Like when I'm excited about something or impressed "awww yesss, son!" but I've never really thought about it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Miriah View Post
    i always say "dammnnn son" to my husband. i dont think its condescending
    I do too. I actually got it from him because he and his buddies say it all the time. It's like dude or bro to me. Not condescending.

    I don't find hon, dear, or any of those condescending either, unless it's said with a condescending tone.
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