wedding after eloping? - Debates

Mrz. Robinson · 10-30-2009, 05:36 AM

If you are planning on having a wedding, when do you think is the best time for having a big wedding after you elpoe.

For me I would say as soon as the money is right and We have time, since the army takes up most of it.

His*PITA* · 10-30-2009, 05:37 AM

We are going to be doing ours right around our 1 year anniversary

sapphiremommy · 10-30-2009, 05:40 AM

everyone i know has done it right around their anniversary. so their wedding is on the day they eloped.

devilwhiterose · 10-30-2009, 07:13 AM

Eh, we were going to do a big wedding after the JOP...but now I'd just like a fantastic vacation.

Ellie · 10-30-2009, 07:14 AM

We'll be doing ours when we've saved up teh moniez.

knehr · 10-30-2009, 07:26 AM

Well we did a JOP, and we agreed that in 5 yrs we can do the big wedding and have enough $$$ saved up to were we will be able to buy each other new rings also!!!

Zoe · 10-30-2009, 07:28 AM

we planned on doing it after he got out the army but i dont want it anymore so we'll take the money my folks planned on giving us and use it as a deposit for a house!

DakotaCowgirl · 10-30-2009, 08:48 AM

Since this is a debate, I'm doing the opposite way.

I would rather see a big reception the another wedding. Going out after the face, being married, just seems odd to me. I just don't understand or agree with it. I know that for some religions, they don't accept you are married unless in that church.

My IL's got married in March, moved away, then moved back and had a big church wedding. That is the one people recognize. Almost like the first one didn't exist anymore.

I eloped. If I wanted people there, I would have had my big wedding right away.

JMO.

His*PITA* · 10-30-2009, 08:52 AM

Originally Posted by DakotaCowgirl

Since this is a debate, I'm doing the opposite way.

I would rather see a big reception the another wedding. Going out after the face, being married, just seems odd to me. I just don't understand or agree with it. I know that for some religions, they don't accept you are married unless in that church.

My IL's got married in March, moved away, then moved back and had a big church wedding. That is the one people recognize. Almost like the first one didn't exist anymore.

I eloped. If I wanted people there, I would have had my big wedding right away.

JMO.

1st bolded: For me, and I believe a lot of other people thats one in the same, so when I say DH and I are having a big wedding on our 1 year, I am referring to basically a huge reception with all my friends and familiy there...

2nd bolded: Normally I would agree, but some people dont always have that luxury... we had the money and everything to do a big wedding, but we didn't have the time to plan it and acutally have people come down because it was such short noticed and we were supposed to be leaving so soon afterward

Jenn026 · 10-30-2009, 08:53 AM

i don't think there's anything wrong with having a big wedding after eloping/a small court house wedding. However I think people should be careful about promising people it will happen. We said we'd do it, and we just don't have the money. If we did have the money we'd probably spend it on something else.

Personally I think you should try your hardest to do it the way you want it the first time. It's hard to plan another wedding. It's not always possible, and if you can make happen, than more power to you. It's just not always very likely.

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sapphiremommy They call me Mouse Potato Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Me: Newport News, VA Him: Under the Sea Posts: 1,995 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 78% Longevity: 6%	everyone i know has done it right around their anniversary. so their wedding is on the day they eloped. __________________ my wifeys: redhead_navygf - His_Girl-KaylaH-Ashley-REI-blinkybear-lovemyjarhead-lildixiemiss

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knehr RIP Dad!!! I will always be your baby girl~ 8-9-09 Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: virginia beach, VA Posts: 2,152 Blog Entries: 1 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 79% Longevity: 10%	Well we did a JOP, and we agreed that in 5 yrs we can do the big wedding and have enough $$$ saved up to were we will be able to buy each other new rings also!!!

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Zoe MilitarySOS Jewel Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: London, England Posts: 9,893 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 47% Longevity: 28%	we planned on doing it after he got out the army but i dont want it anymore so we'll take the money my folks planned on giving us and use it as a deposit for a house!

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DakotaCowgirl MilitarySOS Jewel Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Here...going to Germany Posts: 7,724 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 59% Longevity: 47%	Since this is a debate, I'm doing the opposite way. I would rather see a big reception the another wedding. Going out after the face, being married, just seems odd to me. I just don't understand or agree with it. I know that for some religions, they don't accept you are married unless in that church. My IL's got married in March, moved away, then moved back and had a big church wedding. That is the one people recognize. Almost like the first one didn't exist anymore. I eloped. If I wanted people there, I would have had my big wedding right away. JMO. __________________ "It is endemic of the current culture that those with large stature are overlooked except by vultures. With no regard to the depth of their souls, the height of their passion, and the beauty of their moments." P.J. Pete http://www.thewomanhood.com/forum/register.php?referrerid=1498[/URL] MacGyver can make Chuck Norris out of duct tape and a spork.

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Jenn026 Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Seymour Johnson AFB Posts: 2,488 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 97% Longevity: 29%	i don't think there's anything wrong with having a big wedding after eloping/a small court house wedding. However I think people should be careful about promising people it will happen. We said we'd do it, and we just don't have the money. If we did have the money we'd probably spend it on something else. Personally I think you should try your hardest to do it the way you want it the first time. It's hard to plan another wedding. It's not always possible, and if you can make happen, than more power to you. It's just not always very likely. __________________ Plan for the worst, hope for the best, and let your fears hibernate. ~Jacey Eckhart I my wifeys, Twilliams and CubLub63!