Gifts, b-days and kids - Debates

Miss.Maggie · 10-27-2009, 06:43 PM

I wondered if I should put this in debates or general, but things with peoples kids can get heated.

*question*

If you have more than one child (if not pretend you do) do you buy all the kids gifts on each b-day. For example your kids are 5, 7, and 9 and when 5yr old turns 6 do you buy 7 and 9 gifts as well as 6, so they wont feel left out at the party?

I have known people who did this. Makes no sense to me, perhaps it is because I don't have kids.
I never got gifts on my siblings b-days, we always knew a b-day was our special day and we didn't have to share it.

LT · 10-27-2009, 06:52 PM

Not going to happen, that seems crazy to me.

erickson007 · 10-27-2009, 06:53 PM

I have never heard of anyone doing that! I have 3 brothers and the only person who got gifts was the birthday person!

~~felifreshh~~ · 10-27-2009, 06:54 PM

My family always got me a gift on my brothers birthday and vice versa when we were younger..

Until we were old enough to understand why each other got presents.

Kasandra · 10-27-2009, 06:55 PM

I know my brother-in-law does that with his girls. It can get kind of expensive, but its your choice.
I don't think I would do it. Talk to them about how its so and sos birthday and that when they have their birthday that they'll get a present then.

Heather · 10-27-2009, 07:03 PM

We try not to but it always seems that during the shopping trip to pick out a gift for the birthday kid the non birthday kid finds something they just have to have. Its just something little I don't think its a big deal. Its not like I wrap it up and have the non birthday kid open it during the party.

I grew up as an only child even though I have brothers and a sister. We rarely spent birthdays together. I don't ever recall getting anything as the non birthday kid.

LittleRed · 10-27-2009, 07:04 PM

No way. I've never even heard of that being done.

Amy · 10-27-2009, 07:12 PM

Umm, no. Birthday presents are for the person who is celebrating their birthday...not for the entire family so that siblings don't feel left out. That's ridiculous.

mikeswife · 10-27-2009, 07:17 PM

Nope.

It is not their birthday so they do not get a present.

If we are having a birthday party then they will get one of the goodie bags. Other then that nothing.

I know parents and grandparents that do this and I, personally, think it's silly. A child's birthday should be special for THEM not everyone else.

JoyS · 10-27-2009, 07:20 PM

No, if it is not your birthday you don't get presents. It may be hard for kids to understand but that is part of life and just something that they have to learn. Would that also mean those people had to buy their kid a present every time they took their child/ren to somebody else's birthday presents just because the kid wouldn't understand?

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Miss.Maggie I am iowa_lady Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Bartonville IL, his Unit is out of Chicago Posts: 15,106 Blog Entries: 9 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 97% Longevity: 33%	Gifts, b-days and kids I wondered if I should put this in debates or general, but things with peoples kids can get heated. question If you have more than one child (if not pretend you do) do you buy all the kids gifts on each b-day. For example your kids are 5, 7, and 9 and when 5yr old turns 6 do you buy 7 and 9 gifts as well as 6, so they wont feel left out at the party? I have known people who did this. Makes no sense to me, perhaps it is because I don't have kids. I never got gifts on my siblings b-days, we always knew a b-day was our special day and we didn't have to share it. __________________ I am iowa_lady we're the ** Thanks Ducky for the Siggy**

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LT Senior Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: The DESERT Posts: 4,042 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 74% Longevity: 15%	Not going to happen, that seems crazy to me. __________________ Hope is not a dream but a way of making dreams become reality. Expecting baby # 2 It's a boy

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erickson007 MilitarySOS Jewel Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Yokosuka, Japan Posts: 8,832 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 97% Longevity: 41%	I have never heard of anyone doing that! I have 3 brothers and the only person who got gifts was the birthday person! __________________

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Kasandra Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Southern Utah/Okinawa, Japan Posts: 597 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 89% Longevity: 1%	I know my brother-in-law does that with his girls. It can get kind of expensive, but its your choice. I don't think I would do it. Talk to them about how its so and sos birthday and that when they have their birthday that they'll get a present then. __________________

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LittleRed Can't wait for finals! Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Me: Tempe, AZ. Him: Afghanistan Posts: 3,922 Blog Entries: 1 Classifieds: (1) Activity: 88% Longevity: 16%	No way. I've never even heard of that being done. __________________ Visit my Passion Parties website! Enter discount code "msosladies" at checkout to save 10%.

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10-27-2009, 06:54 PM	#4 (permalink)
~~felifreshh~~ Banned Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Springfield, Mo Posts: 2,712 Classifieds: (1) Activity: 15% Longevity: 7%	My family always got me a gift on my brothers birthday and vice versa when we were younger.. Until we were old enough to understand why each other got presents.

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Heather Senior Member Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: My little house on the prairie Posts: 18,581 Classifieds: (1) Activity: 40% Longevity: 66%	We try not to but it always seems that during the shopping trip to pick out a gift for the birthday kid the non birthday kid finds something they just have to have. Its just something little I don't think its a big deal. Its not like I wrap it up and have the non birthday kid open it during the party. I grew up as an only child even though I have brothers and a sister. We rarely spent birthdays together. I don't ever recall getting anything as the non birthday kid.

10-27-2009, 07:12 PM	#8 (permalink)
Amy Senior Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Pearl Harbor, Hawaii Posts: 8,958 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 93% Longevity: 46%	Umm, no. Birthday presents are for the person who is celebrating their birthday...not for the entire family so that siblings don't feel left out. That's ridiculous. __________________

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mikeswife Senior Member Join Date: Dec 2005 Posts: 762 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 12% Longevity: 67%	Nope. It is not their birthday so they do not get a present. If we are having a birthday party then they will get one of the goodie bags. Other then that nothing. I know parents and grandparents that do this and I, personally, think it's silly. A child's birthday should be special for THEM not everyone else. __________________ Wife To Michael ~10-17-98~ Momma To Eric ~9-19-06~

10-27-2009, 07:20 PM	#10 (permalink)
JoyS Senior Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: San Diego Posts: 5,578 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 25% Longevity: 57%	No, if it is not your birthday you don't get presents. It may be hard for kids to understand but that is part of life and just something that they have to learn. Would that also mean those people had to buy their kid a present every time they took their child/ren to somebody else's birthday presents just because the kid wouldn't understand? __________________