Would you turn your SO in? - Debates

LoveKiss · 10-23-2009, 10:08 AM

If you knew that your SO was committing a non-violent crime (for example, embezzelment or tax fraud), would you report this information to the proper authorities? If you later found yourself estranged from your SO, would your decision change?

Discuss.

Jenn026 · 10-23-2009, 10:10 AM

I don't think I'd turn him in if we were together or no. IDK though. Chances are I'd leave him for something like tax fraud. If it was something that I could get in trouble for if I did NOT turn him in, i probably would. I'm not going to jail because of something he did

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leiawen · 10-23-2009, 10:16 AM

I honestly don't know.
I think I'd encourage him to make it right and turn himself in.
Even if it's a non-violent crime, people can get hurt. I'm think of folks who lose their job because a company goes under from financial mismanagement or fraud, or people who lose their invested money because of financial misconduct. I wouldn't want to turn a blind eye if someone I loved was causing that kind of pain to others.

Am · 10-23-2009, 10:18 AM

I'd discourage him but I honestly don't think I'd turn him in if we were still together. Legally, you have the right not to testify against your spouse. I don't see how this would be different.

louisa85 · 10-23-2009, 10:19 AM

It depends on what he was up to and whether I was implicated in it. Have to think about professional ethics too, and consequences for my own job.

amy1117 · 10-23-2009, 10:21 AM

Maybe. It would depend on what he was doing. If it was something that I would not want to turn him in for, I would encourage him to stop. If he didn't, I might consider turning him in. I don't know, I really don't think I could just ignore it if he was committing an ongoing crime.

ETA: If I was unable to turn him in, I would probably end up leaving him eventually. I would be miserable knowing that he was doing something so wrong. I don't think I would be able to handle it emotionally or mentally.

danyell · 10-23-2009, 10:22 AM

No, I honestly don't think so.

SNK · 10-23-2009, 10:22 AM

I wouldn't. I'm just too loyal

Blessed Ohana · 10-23-2009, 10:40 AM

i prob. wouldn't but it would most def. tear our marriage apart if he continued to do it.

LT · 10-23-2009, 10:42 AM

Nobody is really going to turn their SO in for anything like that, be dissapointed in them yes and pissed probably but that is about it. And if you turn them in after you break up, well..that would be ridiculous.

10-23-2009, 10:08 AM	#1 (permalink)
LoveKiss Dream as if you'll live forever; live as if you'll die today Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Maryland Posts: 8,946 Blog Entries: 11 Classifieds: (1) Activity: 69% Longevity: 28%	Would you turn your SO in? If you knew that your SO was committing a non-violent crime (for example, embezzelment or tax fraud), would you report this information to the proper authorities? If you later found yourself estranged from your SO, would your decision change? Discuss. __________________ MSOS wifey love makes the world go round.

10-23-2009, 10:10 AM	#2 (permalink)
Jenn026 Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Seymour Johnson AFB Posts: 2,509 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 100% Longevity: 29%	I don't think I'd turn him in if we were together or no. IDK though. Chances are I'd leave him for something like tax fraud. If it was something that I could get in trouble for if I did NOT turn him in, i probably would. I'm not going to jail because of something he did . __________________ Plan for the worst, hope for the best, and let your fears hibernate. ~Jacey Eckhart I my wifeys, Twilliams and CubLub63!

10-23-2009, 10:16 AM	#3 (permalink)
leiawen Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Eglin AFB Posts: 3,377 Blog Entries: 2 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 42% Longevity: 38%	I honestly don't know. I think I'd encourage him to make it right and turn himself in. Even if it's a non-violent crime, people can get hurt. I'm think of folks who lose their job because a company goes under from financial mismanagement or fraud, or people who lose their invested money because of financial misconduct. I wouldn't want to turn a blind eye if someone I loved was causing that kind of pain to others. __________________

10-23-2009, 10:18 AM	#4 (permalink)
Am CarolinaHokie Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: VA/NC Posts: 12,796 Classifieds: (1) Activity: 90% Longevity: 28%	I'd discourage him but I honestly don't think I'd turn him in if we were still together. Legally, you have the right not to testify against your spouse. I don't see how this would be different. __________________

10-23-2009, 10:19 AM	#5 (permalink)
louisa85 Instigator Extraordinaire Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 7,153 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 44% Longevity: 14%	It depends on what he was up to and whether I was implicated in it. Have to think about professional ethics too, and consequences for my own job. __________________ Keep on keeping on.

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10-23-2009, 10:21 AM	#6 (permalink)
amy1117 Counting down the days... Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Me: New York Fiance: Finally home! Posts: 2,840 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 58% Longevity: 19%	Maybe. It would depend on what he was doing. If it was something that I would not want to turn him in for, I would encourage him to stop. If he didn't, I might consider turning him in. I don't know, I really don't think I could just ignore it if he was committing an ongoing crime. ETA: If I was unable to turn him in, I would probably end up leaving him eventually. I would be miserable knowing that he was doing something so wrong. I don't think I would be able to handle it emotionally or mentally. __________________

10-23-2009, 10:22 AM	#7 (permalink)
danyell Have you had your daily dose of Danielle? Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: His location: VA Beach, finally! Mine: Patuxent River, MD Posts: 8,575 Blog Entries: 1 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 76% Longevity: 22%	No, I honestly don't think so. __________________

10-23-2009, 10:22 AM	#8 (permalink)
SNK Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: North Carolina Posts: 3,900 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 69% Longevity: 18%	I wouldn't. I'm just too loyal __________________

10-23-2009, 10:40 AM	#9 (permalink)
Blessed Ohana MIL to MIL Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Charleston AFB / McEntire JNGB Posts: 11,987 Classifieds: (1) Activity: 72% Longevity: 28%	i prob. wouldn't but it would most def. tear our marriage apart if he continued to do it. __________________ I am with you always, even to the end of the age. (Matthew 28:20) In my Father's house are many rooms; if it were not so, I would have told you. I am going there to prepare a place for you. And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come back and take you to be with Me that you also may be where I am. (John 14:2-3) eagerly awaiting the day when I'll see my Maker's face...

10-23-2009, 10:42 AM	#10 (permalink)
LT Senior Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: The DESERT Posts: 4,042 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 74% Longevity: 15%	Nobody is really going to turn their SO in for anything like that, be dissapointed in them yes and pissed probably but that is about it. And if you turn them in after you break up, well..that would be ridiculous. __________________ Hope is not a dream but a way of making dreams become reality. Expecting baby # 2 It's a boy