Young guys - Debates

pamela30 · 10-21-2009, 06:42 AM

Do you think that guys getting married young can stay faithful till death do us part?My df is 23 and we will marry next year.He has only been with a girl before me,so i asked him several times if he thinks he can stay loyal till the end or will he be curious how it is with others.He is a serious guy,very responsible and caring,yet i caught him talk to a girl online and they exchanged naked pics.He is working on getting my trust back and he is doing a great job really.I really believe he learned his lesson.

So do you know of young guys,especially ones who have been with only 1 or 2 girls before and who stayed loyal till death do us part?

danyell · 10-21-2009, 06:46 AM

I don't think it has anything to do with age. Men in their 20's stay faithful and men in their 40's stay faithful. It has to do with trust, respect, and maturity. Age is just a number. If you can find a man that has all of the above qualities and is young then there is your answer.

His lack of faithfulness has nothing to do with his age, imo. However if you are both working on it I'm sure if he truly wants to change and stay faithful, he can.

His*PITA* · 10-21-2009, 06:47 AM

Originally Posted by pamela30

Do you think that guys getting married young can stay faithful till death do us part?My df is 23 and we will marry next year.He has only been with a girl before me,so i asked him several times if he thinks he can stay loyal till the end or will he be curious how it is with others.He is a serious guy,very responsible and caring,yet i caught him talk to a girl online and they exchanged naked pics.He is working on getting my trust back and he is doing a great job really.I really believe he learned his lesson.

So do you know of young guys,especially ones who have been with only 1 or 2 girls before and who stayed loyal till death do us part?

Do I think men who marry young and have had few partners can stay faithful? Yes I do... It really has nothing to do with age

Now the situation you explained, I think you may want to think more about your relationship before getting married. Not so much about him, even though the whole naked picture thing is a big red flag and my wedding would have been put on hold if I found that out...

But because you said you have asked him several times if he thinks he will stay faithful... IMO that kinda makes it seam like you don't trust him enough to think that he will, and that is not a feeling I would want to have in my fiance...

mossey2000 · 10-21-2009, 06:51 AM

Yes they can stay faithful. DH was 21 almost 22 when we got married. He has been faithful.

pamela30 · 10-21-2009, 06:56 AM

But because you said you have asked him several times if he thinks he will stay faithful... IMO that kinda makes it seam like you don't trust him enough to think that he will, and that is not a feeling I would want to have in my fiance...[/QUOTE]

Oh,i trusted him completely before that happened.I asked him that because im 9 years older and ive had my experiences.He has been with only 1 girl and not for long,so when we met he was practically a "virgin".So i was thinking maybe he will get curious and will need his experiences.

His*PITA* · 10-21-2009, 06:59 AM

Originally Posted by pamela30

Oh,i trusted him completely before that happened.I asked him that because im 9 years older and ive had my experiences.He has been with only 1 girl and not for long,so when we met he was practically a "virgin".So i was thinking maybe he will get curious and will need his experiences.

And that may be... but you said you asked him several times, once or twice I could understand... but several implies a pretty decent number

There are TONS of people who wait until they are married to ever "experience" anything, or just experience it with the person they end up marrying... if he had never given you reason to doubt him before I dont understand the questioning... but since he has now, I could see where you would be concerned...

danyell · 10-21-2009, 06:59 AM

Originally Posted by pamela30

Oh,i trusted him completely before that happened.I asked him that because im 9 years older and ive had my experiences.He has been with only 1 girl and not for long,so when we met he was practically a "virgin".So i was thinking maybe he will get curious and will need his experiences.

I has only been with SO when I got married. SO had only been with 2 other girls before me. We have both managed to stay faithful without being curious. Men and women who have had tons of experience before marriage still stray.

Heather LB. · 10-21-2009, 07:03 AM

Originally Posted by danyell

I don't think it has anything to do with age. Men in their 20's stay faithful and men in their 40's stay faithful. It has to do with trust, respect, and maturity. Age is just a number. If you can find a man that has all of the above qualities and is young then there is your answer.

His lack of faithfulness has nothing to do with his age, imo. However if you are both working on it I'm sure if he truly wants to change and stay faithful, he can.

Originally Posted by His*PITA*

Do I think men who marry young and have had few partners can stay faithful? Yes I do... It really has nothing to do with age

Now the situation you explained, I think you may want to think more about your relationship before getting married. Not so much about him, even though the whole naked picture thing is a big red flag and my wedding would have been put on hold if I found that out...

But because you said you have asked him several times if he thinks he will stay faithful... IMO that kinda makes it seam like you don't trust him enough to think that he will, and that is not a feeling I would want to have in my fiance...

pamela30 · 10-21-2009, 07:04 AM

Originally Posted by His*PITA*

And that may be... but you said you asked him several times, once or twice I could understand... but several implies a pretty decent number

There are TONS of people who wait until they are married to ever "experience" anything, or just experience it with the person they end up marrying... if he had never given you reason to doubt him before I dont understand the questioning... but since he has now, I could see where you would be concerned...

You are right.It is my first relationship with a guy so much younger and i guess thats why i asked him several times.I had the impression young guys need their experiences,now I know its not like that.

pamela30 · 10-21-2009, 07:08 AM

And when i say being faithful,i dont mean sleeping with another girl or something.I mean the little things which you cant always find out about,like flirting online etc.If I wouldnt have found out by accident,I would have sworn he is the most loyal.

10-21-2009, 06:42 AM	#1 (permalink)
pamela30 Junior Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 15 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 10% Longevity: 9%	Young guys Do you think that guys getting married young can stay faithful till death do us part?My df is 23 and we will marry next year.He has only been with a girl before me,so i asked him several times if he thinks he can stay loyal till the end or will he be curious how it is with others.He is a serious guy,very responsible and caring,yet i caught him talk to a girl online and they exchanged naked pics.He is working on getting my trust back and he is doing a great job really.I really believe he learned his lesson. So do you know of young guys,especially ones who have been with only 1 or 2 girls before and who stayed loyal till death do us part?

10-21-2009, 06:46 AM	#2 (permalink)
danyell Have you had your daily dose of Danielle? Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: His location: VA Beach, finally! Mine: Patuxent River, MD Posts: 8,575 Blog Entries: 1 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 75% Longevity: 22%	I don't think it has anything to do with age. Men in their 20's stay faithful and men in their 40's stay faithful. It has to do with trust, respect, and maturity. Age is just a number. If you can find a man that has all of the above qualities and is young then there is your answer. His lack of faithfulness has nothing to do with his age, imo. However if you are both working on it I'm sure if he truly wants to change and stay faithful, he can. __________________

10-21-2009, 06:51 AM	#4 (permalink)
mossey2000 I'm from the south and sometimes I have a big mouth Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Gulfport Posts: 9,687 Classifieds: (1) Activity: 39% Longevity: 67%	Yes they can stay faithful. DH was 21 almost 22 when we got married. He has been faithful. __________________ Heather Mom to Ethan and Elijah Proud Seabee Wife! I can describe life in three words: It goes on. Robert Frost.

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10-21-2009, 06:56 AM	#5 (permalink)
pamela30 Junior Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 15 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 10% Longevity: 9%	But because you said you have asked him several times if he thinks he will stay faithful... IMO that kinda makes it seam like you don't trust him enough to think that he will, and that is not a feeling I would want to have in my fiance...[/QUOTE] Oh,i trusted him completely before that happened.I asked him that because im 9 years older and ive had my experiences.He has been with only 1 girl and not for long,so when we met he was practically a "virgin".So i was thinking maybe he will get curious and will need his experiences.

10-21-2009, 07:08 AM	#10 (permalink)
pamela30 Junior Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 15 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 10% Longevity: 9%	And when i say being faithful,i dont mean sleeping with another girl or something.I mean the little things which you cant always find out about,like flirting online etc.If I wouldnt have found out by accident,I would have sworn he is the most loyal.