Day care spinoff - Debates

Germanchick · 09-15-2006, 02:59 PM

I know we've had this discussion before. But I am wondering why there are so many people here that are apparently completely opposed to putting their child(ren) into day care. Having grown up and lived in Germany all my life it is a normal part of life that once a child turns 2 or 3 she/he goes to daycare (what would be called kindergarten in Germany) Not that everyone does it but to me it is nothing out of the norm and perfectly acceptable whether both parents work or not.

Cat · 09-15-2006, 03:03 PM

you took the words right out of my mouth Kris. I was wondering the same thing.

Kaymara · 09-15-2006, 03:14 PM

I feel there is nothing at all wrong with daycare. It has its positive aspects definatly. But for me, I feel, that I am better able to spend that 1 on 1 time with my child/'ren better. I can give them the attention they need, the 1 on 1time, focus on just them etc.

If I had to work I wouldn't be opposed to putting them in daycare. But since I am able to be home, I feel it benefits my children by being here with them.

Now I WILL enter them in preschool when the time comes. And I do things that give them social interaction. I plan on joing a playgroup and such definatly.

Sarah · 09-15-2006, 03:14 PM

I agree with Kris

. To me, at that age (2yrs +), I think it's very beneficial to the child to be with their peers in a social and educational setting like that. IMO, it prepares the child for preschool and kindergarten. I know a lot of parents talk about how their child and them go to playgroups, but in a daycare/preschool, it's more of a structured setting, and the kids are able to explore more without the parents there. It starts to give them some small level of independence, and realizing they can do things without mommy or daddy hovering over them.

PrincessMia · 09-15-2006, 03:17 PM

Originally Posted by Sarah

I agree with Kris

. To me, at that age (2yrs +), I think it's very beneficial to the child to be with their peers in a social and educational setting like that. IMO, it prepares the child for preschool and kindergarten. I know a lot of parents talk about how their child and them go to playgroups, but in a daycare/preschool, it's more of a structured setting, and the kids are able to explore more without the parents there. It starts to give them some small level of independence, and realizing they can do things without mommy or daddy hovering over them.

I agree!

~~HEIDI~~ · 09-15-2006, 03:25 PM

My kids were always in daycare, perhpas that is why DD is the social butterfly she is. I do think that daycare helps out in that area.

~~Bex~~ · 09-15-2006, 03:30 PM

z's always been in daycare. i'm a career woman, and j has a good job. that's how it is.

Cat · 09-15-2006, 03:43 PM

well my take on it is that Robbie is for all intensive purposes an only child being that his older half brothers are 20 and 19. but if he wasnt in daycare he would not know how to interact with other kids his age and so thats why i think him being in daycare is a very good thing. all he has at home is just his daddy and me and i dont want him acting to grown upish yet. but he does anyway. but i know that everyone has to do what is right in their minds and i am glad for the moms that are able to stay at home and spend that time with their children and still make ends meet and still be able to afford to go take their children places and do things with them.

kathy · 09-15-2006, 03:46 PM

I think with all the horror stories you hear about abuse and what not, i can understand wanting to be home with your child, but i was able to be home with gaven and when he hit 3 i put him in daycare for his benifit as well as mine. I enjoyed being home with him..but we drove eachother crazy

Trey · 09-15-2006, 03:48 PM

Part of it for me is trust... and part of it is financial. Right now, I could make about $10 an hour out in town. So it's cheaper for me to stay at home, and work from home. Once I have my degree, if he isn't already in school, if I find the right job, he will go into daycare or, preferably, have a nanny. I do agree that daycare offers that social interaction that you don't get with him staying at home.

I think whatever works best for the family is what is "right" for them. I don't think less of children that are in daycare, nor do I think that Riley is "better off" because he stays at home with me. It is just what WE decided would be best for us.

09-15-2006, 02:59 PM	#1 (permalink)
Germanchick MilitarySOS Jewel Join Date: Apr 2004 Posts: 36,617 Blog Entries: 4 Classifieds: (3) Activity: 49% Longevity: 94%	Day care spinoff I know we've had this discussion before. But I am wondering why there are so many people here that are apparently completely opposed to putting their child(ren) into day care. Having grown up and lived in Germany all my life it is a normal part of life that once a child turns 2 or 3 she/he goes to daycare (what would be called kindergarten in Germany) Not that everyone does it but to me it is nothing out of the norm and perfectly acceptable whether both parents work or not.

09-15-2006, 03:03 PM	#2 (permalink)
Cat wife2Rob mom2Robbie Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: Williamsburg, VA Posts: 21,167 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 98%	you took the words right out of my mouth Kris. I was wondering the same thing. __________________ www.beautipage.com/cdiesta My wifeys are Kris, Jessica and Fireflys Girl.

09-15-2006, 03:14 PM	#3 (permalink)
Kaymara Behind every keystroke is a real person Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: Somewhere over the rainbow Posts: 27,350 Classifieds: (7) Activity: 40% Longevity: 99%	I feel there is nothing at all wrong with daycare. It has its positive aspects definatly. But for me, I feel, that I am better able to spend that 1 on 1 time with my child/'ren better. I can give them the attention they need, the 1 on 1time, focus on just them etc. If I had to work I wouldn't be opposed to putting them in daycare. But since I am able to be home, I feel it benefits my children by being here with them. Now I WILL enter them in preschool when the time comes. And I do things that give them social interaction. I plan on joing a playgroup and such definatly. __________________ Surviving deployment #5

09-15-2006, 03:43 PM	#8 (permalink)
Cat wife2Rob mom2Robbie Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: Williamsburg, VA Posts: 21,167 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 98%	well my take on it is that Robbie is for all intensive purposes an only child being that his older half brothers are 20 and 19. but if he wasnt in daycare he would not know how to interact with other kids his age and so thats why i think him being in daycare is a very good thing. all he has at home is just his daddy and me and i dont want him acting to grown upish yet. but he does anyway. but i know that everyone has to do what is right in their minds and i am glad for the moms that are able to stay at home and spend that time with their children and still make ends meet and still be able to afford to go take their children places and do things with them. __________________ www.beautipage.com/cdiesta My wifeys are Kris, Jessica and Fireflys Girl.

09-15-2006, 03:46 PM	#9 (permalink)
kathy Always n Forever Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: Jacksonville Fl Posts: 8,493 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 5% Longevity: 99%	I think with all the horror stories you hear about abuse and what not, i can understand wanting to be home with your child, but i was able to be home with gaven and when he hit 3 i put him in daycare for his benifit as well as mine. I enjoyed being home with him..but we drove eachother crazy __________________

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09-15-2006, 03:14 PM	#4 (permalink)
Sarah I'm too cool for words Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Camp Lejeune, NC Posts: 18,586 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 94%	I agree with Kris . To me, at that age (2yrs +), I think it's very beneficial to the child to be with their peers in a social and educational setting like that. IMO, it prepares the child for preschool and kindergarten. I know a lot of parents talk about how their child and them go to playgroups, but in a daycare/preschool, it's more of a structured setting, and the kids are able to explore more without the parents there. It starts to give them some small level of independence, and realizing they can do things without mommy or daddy hovering over them.

09-15-2006, 03:25 PM	#6 (permalink)
~~HEIDI~~ Banned Join Date: Jan 2004 Posts: 16,260 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 98%	My kids were always in daycare, perhpas that is why DD is the social butterfly she is. I do think that daycare helps out in that area.

09-15-2006, 03:30 PM	#7 (permalink)
~~Bex~~ Banned Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: san diego, ca Posts: 30,189 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 99%	z's always been in daycare. i'm a career woman, and j has a good job. that's how it is.

09-15-2006, 03:48 PM	#10 (permalink)
Trey Jamie's favorite. Be jealous. Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Where the surf meets the sand... Posts: 23,298 Classifieds: (3) Activity: 70% Longevity: 71%	Part of it for me is trust... and part of it is financial. Right now, I could make about $10 an hour out in town. So it's cheaper for me to stay at home, and work from home. Once I have my degree, if he isn't already in school, if I find the right job, he will go into daycare or, preferably, have a nanny. I do agree that daycare offers that social interaction that you don't get with him staying at home. I think whatever works best for the family is what is "right" for them. I don't think less of children that are in daycare, nor do I think that Riley is "better off" because he stays at home with me. It is just what WE decided would be best for us. __________________