Do you think it's okay? - Page 3 - Debates

Victoria · 09-04-2006, 07:37 AM

Maybe this thread should get moved to the Debates forum...LOL!

Victoria · 09-04-2006, 07:41 AM

Also....for some couples, maybe it's easier for the wife NOT to work if there's only 1 car. Before Ethan...there'd be no way I would work if we only had 1 vehicle. No way in hell was I gonna get up at 5am to take him to work. But that's just ME. Plus with my DH having 24hr duty every 4 days, no way would 1 car work.

So like everyone is saying...there are reasons for EVERYTHING.

Britt · 09-04-2006, 07:41 AM

Probably - I've got my Irish all up in a dither.

Shaky · 09-04-2006, 08:00 AM

I don't think is my place to judge anyone. It's not of my bussiness what people chose to do. If they can afford for the wife to stay home then why not if that's their desicion. Now if she is staying home and on the other side complaining cause there is not enough money then that's something else lol I know I love bringing some money in and staying busy at work but I would never judge anyone who decide not to do it.

pineedles · 09-04-2006, 08:19 AM

I was like that for awhile. No job and no kids. I refinished our house though. I mean top to bottom new floors to ceilings,tiling kitchen, bathroms, painting...etc. I also voluntered at Navy relief and with the wives club(where we raised 30kfor childrens hosp) but after all that was done I worked a little part time, also had my neice and nephew for some time(that was harder than working on the house) lol I was able to always keep busy...still am
I work part time and kids are always welcome over to my house, lunch...whatever...I love hearing about the kids and I miss the ones I am close to when I am not here. It sounds like that lady needs an attitude adjustment....seriously....she will never be liked on any boat or shore tour.
My husband leaves soon and I will substitute teach and work my part time job but when he comes home I cut back hours.
I am one of the few that thought I would get bored but trust me ...my days are full even when I do not work

I was brought up to believe there is always something to do, clean, fix or make

Brandi · 09-04-2006, 08:36 AM

I don't know if I could personally do it long-term because I think if I didn't have SOMETHING to do, I would get bored. As long as I had SOMETHING... running this site, some sort of hobby, a home party business, etc. I don't think it would be so bad. I don't think there is anything wrong with it at all though. I'm pretty traditional when it comes to how we live and raise our family and that means the mom/wife staying home while hubby makes the bacon. Even when I didn't have kids, I still felt I had a role. I did the majority of the housework, I cooked, I made sure everything was tidy, I ran errands, I took a lot of the load off of him so he wouldn't have to worry about those things plus carry on a very full time job. If a wife does stay home, I'd expect her to carry at least SOME of the load, not just expect the husband to work all day then come home and do cooking and cleaning and everything else on top of it. That's just my personal view. I really don't see anything wrong with the woman staying home though. That's how I was raised

Debra · 09-04-2006, 08:50 AM

I guess you'd have a problem with me then, too because I stopped working about a month before DH & I got married. That was April 98. We got married May 98. I moved to VA on June 1 & didn't start working as a nanny until right after he deployed in Nov. 98. I quit working right after our son was born at the end of July 99 & haven't worked since except for being a substitute teacher a little bit last year.

I don't have a problem with someone being a housewife, if that is what her & her husband agree on.

My DH is very old-fashioned & believes it is his job to provide for his family! He feels that I should not work at all whether we have kids or not, unless I want to.

Debra · 09-04-2006, 08:52 AM

Originally Posted by Britt

This is still bothering me...

Who says you can't be productive at home?

That's what I'm wondering, too!

Originally Posted by Britt

Probably - I've got my Irish all up in a dither.

Same here! But I'm Irish, French & Italian! What a combo!

KDMatthews · 09-04-2006, 08:55 AM

Originally Posted by JKirstiH

I was brought up to believe there is always something to do, clean, fix or make

This is how I was brought up as well. Maybe it is right for some people, but this particular person doesn't volunteer, sleeps till 1 pm and brags about it, and is just snotty when it comes to what she thinks is interesting conversation...I guess I should have said I could never do it. I'm just not programmed that way. But there is only so much cleaning you can do with just 2 people and I really think being a productive person includes giving something to society.

harrisonsdream · 09-04-2006, 09:01 AM

i don't see anything wrong with it as long as she isn't sitting there getting drunk or she is doing something productive with her time like volunteering. i would love to be a stay at home wife and mother but that probably won't get to happen until dh is done with school.

09-04-2006, 08:19 AM	#25 (permalink)
pineedles Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 9,491 Classifieds: (3) Activity: 4% Longevity: 64%	I was like that for awhile. No job and no kids. I refinished our house though. I mean top to bottom new floors to ceilings,tiling kitchen, bathroms, painting...etc. I also voluntered at Navy relief and with the wives club(where we raised 30kfor childrens hosp) but after all that was done I worked a little part time, also had my neice and nephew for some time(that was harder than working on the house) lol I was able to always keep busy...still am I work part time and kids are always welcome over to my house, lunch...whatever...I love hearing about the kids and I miss the ones I am close to when I am not here. It sounds like that lady needs an attitude adjustment....seriously....she will never be liked on any boat or shore tour. My husband leaves soon and I will substitute teach and work my part time job but when he comes home I cut back hours. I am one of the few that thought I would get bored but trust me ...my days are full even when I do not work I was brought up to believe there is always something to do, clean, fix or make __________________ Finding more and more truth to the words written in red.-B&D Goodness speaks in a whisper, evil shouts. Tibetan proverb The greater love is a mother's; then comes a dog's; then a sweetheart's. Polish Proverb

09-04-2006, 08:50 AM	#27 (permalink)
Debra Loving life here! Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Nihon Posts: 14,657 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 5% Longevity: 68%	I guess you'd have a problem with me then, too because I stopped working about a month before DH & I got married. That was April 98. We got married May 98. I moved to VA on June 1 & didn't start working as a nanny until right after he deployed in Nov. 98. I quit working right after our son was born at the end of July 99 & haven't worked since except for being a substitute teacher a little bit last year. I don't have a problem with someone being a housewife, if that is what her & her husband agree on. My DH is very old-fashioned & believes it is his job to provide for his family! He feels that I should not work at all whether we have kids or not, unless I want to. __________________ Click here to read my blog!!

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09-04-2006, 07:37 AM	#21 (permalink)
Victoria Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Posts: 35,064 Classifieds: (1) Activity: 3% Longevity: 58%	Maybe this thread should get moved to the Debates forum...LOL!

09-04-2006, 07:41 AM	#22 (permalink)
Victoria Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Posts: 35,064 Classifieds: (1) Activity: 3% Longevity: 58%	Also....for some couples, maybe it's easier for the wife NOT to work if there's only 1 car. Before Ethan...there'd be no way I would work if we only had 1 vehicle. No way in hell was I gonna get up at 5am to take him to work. But that's just ME. Plus with my DH having 24hr duty every 4 days, no way would 1 car work. So like everyone is saying...there are reasons for EVERYTHING.

09-04-2006, 07:41 AM	#23 (permalink)
Britt The Cat Whisperer Join Date: Dec 2005 Posts: 12,589 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 9% Longevity: 69%	Probably - I've got my Irish all up in a dither.

09-04-2006, 08:00 AM	#24 (permalink)
Shaky Miss Puerto Rico Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: FL Posts: 28,308 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 1% Longevity: 97%	I don't think is my place to judge anyone. It's not of my bussiness what people chose to do. If they can afford for the wife to stay home then why not if that's their desicion. Now if she is staying home and on the other side complaining cause there is not enough money then that's something else lol I know I love bringing some money in and staying busy at work but I would never judge anyone who decide not to do it.

09-04-2006, 08:36 AM	#26 (permalink)
Brandi Account Closed Join Date: Jan 2004 Posts: 39,748 Blog Entries: 1 Classifieds: (3) Activity: 0% Longevity: 99%	I don't know if I could personally do it long-term because I think if I didn't have SOMETHING to do, I would get bored. As long as I had SOMETHING... running this site, some sort of hobby, a home party business, etc. I don't think it would be so bad. I don't think there is anything wrong with it at all though. I'm pretty traditional when it comes to how we live and raise our family and that means the mom/wife staying home while hubby makes the bacon. Even when I didn't have kids, I still felt I had a role. I did the majority of the housework, I cooked, I made sure everything was tidy, I ran errands, I took a lot of the load off of him so he wouldn't have to worry about those things plus carry on a very full time job. If a wife does stay home, I'd expect her to carry at least SOME of the load, not just expect the husband to work all day then come home and do cooking and cleaning and everything else on top of it. That's just my personal view. I really don't see anything wrong with the woman staying home though. That's how I was raised

09-04-2006, 09:01 AM	#30 (permalink)
harrisonsdream Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Posts: 52,155 Blog Entries: 1 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 69%	i don't see anything wrong with it as long as she isn't sitting there getting drunk or she is doing something productive with her time like volunteering. i would love to be a stay at home wife and mother but that probably won't get to happen until dh is done with school.