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    Choosing Baby Before Self?

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    [I put this here just in case it gets heated ]

    When I first got pregnant, I told DH that I wanted him to choose me before the baby should a situation arise where he would have to make that decision and I was uncapable of doing so.

    i.e. I got into a car accident, would make a full recovery, but the medical team said "we either take the baby now, and she dies or the baby dies and she lives".

    I had started thinking about this when I saw the House episode where the lady was pregnant, and had cancer (but she didn't know it at the time) and the husband had to make the decision to either save his wife (knowing that she would die in a year or two) or chose the baby and his wife would die on the table.

    Now, if I were to end up not making a full recovery from said accident (i.e. was brain dead, etc) then of course, I wanted him to choose the baby.

    Thoughts/opinions?
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    oh tough one i think i would want my husband to choose me if i was able to make a full recovery, but if there was a good chance i wouldnt make it then deff. choose the baby.

    Baby u kno that i miss u
    I wanna get wit chu
    Tonight but i can't now
    Baby girl and that's the issue
    Girl u kno i miss u
    I just wanna kiss u
    But i can't rite now so baby
    Kiss me through the phone
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    i think for me personally, it would be tough but i would say to choose myself. the main reason is because i wouldn't want my husband to have to raise our child alone, without a mother. the second is because i am my husband's partner in life, and i believe that we would either try for another child or adopt. i'm not a mother, but i don't think my opinion would change, honestly.
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    Umm... well if it was the car accident like your first example... I would want DF to choose me...

    If it was something like the 2nd where I would die soon after, then I would want him to choose the baby...
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    Tough one. I need to stew on it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by His*PITA* View Post
    Umm... well if it was the car accident like your first example... I would want DF to choose me...

    If it was something like the 2nd where I would die soon after, then I would want him to choose the baby...
    agreed


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    I'd want him to choose the baby, though I don't think he would.

    I've lived my life, not as much as I could have... but knowing that my child could be living and wasn't because of me would tear me apart.
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    In the scenario you presented, I would want DH to choose me. For reasons that Amber stated.

    I know my DH would choose me anyway though so ...
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    If I was going to die anyway I would want Tony to chose the baby.
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    I'm totally selfish - me
    Honestly - we have other kids and they need us both for as long as possible ... and it would be nice to postpone the inevitable enough for everyone to prepare for it.
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