On the topic of discipline...

Okay, so we all know how to reward for good behavior. WHAT do you do about BAD behavior?
Time outs?
Lose privledges?
Something else?

This is me:
I am out here with the kids, we have 2 pools set up. The family pool and the baby pool. I have told my son 5 times, do not splash towards me- I have my laptop out here. Now, I am a good distance away. Far enough that normal splashing doesn't come near me. He has gotten my laptop wet 3 times now. So I made him get out of the pool and sit in the grass for 5 minutes (cause, he's 5 yrs old) Yes, he screamed, cried, hit himself in the head and tried to sneak back in the pool twice. He is finally calming down and was not arguing with me,so I let him back in (time-out was up). If he does it again, I am dumping the pools.
Sound reasonable to me.
For 5 mins I am MEAN MOMMY, but he was happy and playing again until it was time to come in.
I'm a 3 strikes your out mommy for the most part.

[Brandi]

I do time out's, loss of priviledges and I've spanked Jaxon a couple of times when he's gotten uncontrollable. Most of the time, a time out or me telling him he won't get something or won't be able to do something is enough. Now that he is really into swimming, toys, going for walks, the park, etc., it's easier for me to use those as leverage to get him to behave. He REALLY doesn't want to lose those things so when I remind him that he will lose them, he shapes up QUICK.

Our kids are too old for that stuff. We talk to them, and they deal with the consequences of their behavior. They are 11 and 18.

[Sunshyne]

Originally Posted by NuttyIrishFamily Okay, so we all know how to reward for good behavior. WHAT do you do about BAD behavior? Time outs? Lose privledges? Something else? This is me: I am out here with the kids, we have 2 pools set up. The family pool and the baby pool. I have told my son 5 times, do not splash towards me- I have my laptop out here. Now, I am a good distance away. Far enough that normal splashing doesn't come near me. He has gotten my laptop wet 3 times now. So I made him get out of the pool and sit in the grass for 5 minutes (cause, he's 5 yrs old) Yes, he screamed, cried, hit himself in the head and tried to sneak back in the pool twice. He is finally calming down and was not arguing with me,so I let him back in (time-out was up). If he does it again, I am dumping the pools. Sound reasonable to me. For 5 mins I am MEAN MOMMY, but he was happy and playing again until it was time to come in. I'm a 3 strikes your out mommy for the most part.

That sounded pretty reasonable to me!

[April]

I have taken several parenting classes and have learned many ways to reward and discipline. The punishment fits the crime. But you have to make sure they understand the rules first.

for example...your 5 year old can understand not to splash mommys computer. But did you look in his eyes when you told him the rule and get a statement of understanding from him. Also, knowing he is excited about getting in you should have had this talk before you came outside or near the door if you were already out there to begin with. And let him know the punishment (he will have time out) and the reward (mommy will be happy) if he follows the rules. Then the FIRST time he splashed you purposely or not he would go to his time out. From then on he will most likely think about what he is doing and not be so careless (if it was a mistake).


anyway, there are excellent ways to discipline but I make sure I do my part or else children dont learn. and thats what its all about...

[Ellen]

Take stuff and privileges away.

[Brandi]

I wanted to add that Jaxon also does the crap where he starts beating himself in the head, slapping himself, banging his head on things, etc. He eventually stops when he starts hurting himself but it pisses me off when he does it.

[BLBnJVB3]

We have a system that is kind of like a stepping stone. First, a warning; second, the corner, third, goes to bed, and God for bid there be a Fourth cause everything but the bed and dressers are going out of the room (We have done this 3 times and she hates it. She has to prove she deserves them back and she doesn't get everything all at once.)

Originally Posted by April I have taken several parenting classes and have learned many ways to reward and discipline. The punishment fits the crime. But you have to make sure they understand the rules first. for example...your 5 year old can understand not to splash mommys computer. But did you look in his eyes when you told him the rule and get a statement of understanding from him. Also, knowing he is excited about getting in you should have had this talk before you came outside or near the door if you were already out there to begin with. And let him know the punishment (he will have time out) and the reward (mommy will be happy) if he follows the rules. Then the FIRST time he splashed you purposely or not he would go to his time out. From then on he will most likely think about what he is doing and not be so careless (if it was a mistake). anyway, there are excellent ways to discipline but I make sure I do my part or else children dont learn. and thats what its all about...

I have also taken parenting classes and childcare courses and MY SON is mature enough to understand that BEFORE we went outside I told him to NOT SPLASH in the little pool, only in the big pool. It depends on the child and I take a bit of offense to your generalization of age-grouping children.

[April]

Sorry Jen, I did not mean to offend you. I was sharing what I had learned and my experiences. Given the example you used I explained what was taught using your situation.