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    Stuck between a Rock and a Hard Place - Help requested

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    Ok my DB came home from Iraq approx. 11 days ago and I have not heard from him since he has made it back to the states.

    His family also has not heard from him either and have been contacting me to find out information.

    Also some friends have recently contacted me to say they have not heard from him either.

    I don't know what to do... Since we are not yet married, Army will not give me any real information.

    So is there anyone that I can contact at his duty station - that may be able to give me basic information or get a message to him???

    I originally thought he must be going through debriefing -- but it has been 11 days since I have talked with him and longer than that for everyone else.

    PLEASE - stuck between a rock and a hard place - yet everyone is depending on me. Thanks!
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    Are you 100% sure he even left Iraq? Well I guess you can't be unless you heard from him
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    How do you know he is home if you have not heard from him?

    His family would be the ones that would need to contact anyone since you are not married, but I do not know who it would be for you all to contact. Possibility his units FRG, but im not sure how much they will be able to help.
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    First, how certain are you/his family that he actually returned home? Sometimes there is a return date given but because of logistics delays occurred. Once it took my dh about 11 days to catch a flight out of kuwait.

    His parents should have a command contact (frg) or ombudsman.
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    Ok! So of course it is complicated...
    He emailed me that he was back in the states, so I take it that he is.
    But I have not received an email or a phone call from him in 11 days.

    His family that contacted me is his extended family, as both his parents have passed.
    I am not sure if this family member has a command contact.
    DB is getting ready to retire (20+ years in) - who knows what his command has listed to contact should anything go wrong.

    So basically there is nothing that I can do - right?
    I just have to be patient and wait...

    I am guessing that no news is good news --- and that he is fine. Since nobody has heard from him. Any words of encouragement would help me at this point -- I cry every day because I am so worried about him.
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    Quote Originally Posted by HimandI View Post
    Ok! So of course it is complicated...
    He emailed me that he was back in the states, so I take it that he is.
    But I have not received an email or a phone call from him in 11 days.

    His family that contacted me is his extended family, as both his parents have passed.
    I am not sure if this family member has a command contact.
    DB is getting ready to retire (20+ years in) - who knows what his command has listed to contact should anything go wrong.

    So basically there is nothing that I can do - right?
    I just have to be patient and wait...

    I am guessing that no news is good news --- and that he is fine. Since nobody has heard from him. Any words of encouragement would help me at this point -- I cry every day because I am so worried about him.


    If he has emailed and said he is back home in the States, but has not contacted you since then IDK to be honest

    Maybe he is busy inprocessing but that only took my DH like 2 days and then he was on his 2 week leave.

    Have you met him? {There are some people that meet there SO while they are deployed} Is there any reason why he would choose not to contact you?

    Im sorry youre going through this.
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    No there is no reason that he would choose not to contact me.
    And I am sure he would contact his family regardless of anything else.
    That is why I am worried here!!!!

    It is not like him to cut off communication completely from everyone.

    He emailed me when he got back because I was away for work and he did not have a number to contact me at that time. But no messages since -- just not his usual
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    No there is no reason that he would choose not to contact me.
    And I am sure he would contact his family regardless of anything else.
    That is why I am worried here!!!!

    It is not like him to cut off communication completely from everyone.

    He emailed me when he got back because I was away for work and he did not have a number to contact me at that time. But no messages since -- just not his usual
    It is a bit odd that he has not contacted his family at least. Are they close?

    Have you tried calling him or anything?
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    Quote Originally Posted by HimandI View Post
    No there is no reason that he would choose not to contact me.
    And I am sure he would contact his family regardless of anything else.
    That is why I am worried here!!!!

    It is not like him to cut off communication completely from everyone.

    He emailed me when he got back because I was away for work and he did not have a number to contact me at that time. But no messages since -- just not his usual
    Have YOU tried to call the FRG leader? If she won't talk to you then pass the contact info to the closest family member he has and have them call. Do you know who is on his Page 2 (Emergency contact data) and if so, have them call.





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