How to stop an uneasy question? - Command Leaders

toothfairy03 · 02-23-2009, 06:13 PM

Being an FRG board member, does that make you an automatic baby sitter when some of the ladies need help? I'm feeling uneasy about this. How do I avoid being presumed a babysitter?

BJo · 02-23-2009, 06:19 PM

What the eff? I have never heard of anything like that taking place. I'm sorry!

Jayo · 02-23-2009, 06:22 PM

If asked just say "no". you owe no explanation.

Rizzle Mizzle · 02-23-2009, 06:25 PM

I agree with Jayo, just simply say no. I would never, ever use my FRG as a childcare service or assume anyone should help me with my kids. The only way I would ask anyone in the FRG for help with my kids was if it was an absolute emergency and I had no one else. That is not what they are there for. If you make a good friend, and they are willing to help out with you kids, fine. Otherwise, no.

itsalwaysme · 02-23-2009, 06:39 PM

Tell them you legally cannot. Its a conflict of of interest, and you are not allowed to do it. You need to develop an emergency situation group of woman you can call in case of needing an emergency childcare.

froglove · 02-23-2009, 06:40 PM

NO! You are NOT an automatic baby sitter. You can help lead them into the right way for finding a baby sitter. But being an FRG person you technically( legally) cannot be a baby sitter.

toothfairy03 · 02-23-2009, 08:36 PM

Originally Posted by grrrjennigrrr

Tell them you legally cannot. Its a conflict of of interest, and you are not allowed to do it. You need to develop an emergency situation group of woman you can call in case of needing an emergency childcare.

Thanks for your answer. I just want to avoid some women saying that since I & board members are in that position that we need to help out since they have no one to help. If it was an emergency situation and they had no one that I would.

peatys girl · 02-23-2009, 11:54 PM

You are not an automatic babysitter. You could ask if anyone wants to sign up for a babysitting tree. People sign up that they are willing to babysit on occasion or emergency situations only. Then when someone calls, you can get them in touch with the sitters. I was surprised at how many of our members without kids were willing to join the sitting tree.

jojojo · 02-23-2009, 11:57 PM

I feel for you here because being an FRG Leader (having sort of been one once myself) is hard work because you have tons of responsibility....I would not let ppl make you their mother or babysitter....its not your job - your job is to be support for them and for them to support you. Are you up for saying "no" to ppl and putting your foot down?

02-23-2009, 06:13 PM	#1 (permalink)
toothfairy03 Missing My Riverine! Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Virginia Beach and looking to go to Great Lakes, Coronado, or Hawaii! Posts: 1,006 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 18% Longevity: 61%	How to stop an uneasy question? Being an FRG board member, does that make you an automatic baby sitter when some of the ladies need help? I'm feeling uneasy about this. How do I avoid being presumed a babysitter? __________________ I've Replaced and with some hardcore

02-23-2009, 06:22 PM	#3 (permalink)
Jayo Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 5,612 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 70% Longevity: 37%	If asked just say "no". you owe no explanation. __________________ Queen of Deployments Survived#12

02-23-2009, 06:25 PM	#4 (permalink)
Rizzle Mizzle Speak slower, I'm southern. Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Lacey/Fort Lewis, WA Posts: 6,120 Classifieds: (1) Activity: 72% Longevity: 23%	I agree with Jayo, just simply say no. I would never, ever use my FRG as a childcare service or assume anyone should help me with my kids. The only way I would ask anyone in the FRG for help with my kids was if it was an absolute emergency and I had no one else. That is not what they are there for. If you make a good friend, and they are willing to help out with you kids, fine. Otherwise, no. __________________

02-23-2009, 06:40 PM	#6 (permalink)
froglove Taking one day at a time!! Join Date: Dec 2004 Posts: 13,317 Classifieds: (2) Activity: 80% Longevity: 82%	NO! You are NOT an automatic baby sitter. You can help lead them into the right way for finding a baby sitter. But being an FRG person you technically( legally) cannot be a baby sitter. __________________ GO BIG RED!!

02-23-2009, 11:54 PM	#8 (permalink)
peatys girl Sure I can! I think I have a spare 30 secs somewhere. Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Southern California Posts: 1,596 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 13% Longevity: 47%	You are not an automatic babysitter. You could ask if anyone wants to sign up for a babysitting tree. People sign up that they are willing to babysit on occasion or emergency situations only. Then when someone calls, you can get them in touch with the sitters. I was surprised at how many of our members without kids were willing to join the sitting tree. __________________ Custom Siggie by Brentscrystal!

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02-23-2009, 06:19 PM	#2 (permalink)
BJo Account Closed Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Your mom Posts: 25,363 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 13% Longevity: 39%	What the eff? I have never heard of anything like that taking place. I'm sorry!

02-23-2009, 06:39 PM	#5 (permalink)
itsalwaysme I'm lucky I'm in love with my best friend. Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: San Diego Posts: 4,905 Classifieds: (3) Activity: 26% Longevity: 28%	Tell them you legally cannot. Its a conflict of of interest, and you are not allowed to do it. You need to develop an emergency situation group of woman you can call in case of needing an emergency childcare.

02-23-2009, 11:57 PM	#9 (permalink)
jojojo Captain's Wife Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Illinois Posts: 762 Blog Entries: 2 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 12%	I feel for you here because being an FRG Leader (having sort of been one once myself) is hard work because you have tons of responsibility....I would not let ppl make you their mother or babysitter....its not your job - your job is to be support for them and for them to support you. Are you up for saying "no" to ppl and putting your foot down? __________________